Do women like assertive men?

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Would that be considered Pushy and a red flag?

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

Women want the  right man to be assertive at the right moment.  They expect to have their minds read. If it’s the wrong man and/or moment then they can go from being annoyed to all the way up to considering a man’s behavior sexual harassment.  Women do give off “signals” but the problem is they often hope and assume men think and communicate the same way they do. Most men don’t.  Women generally used to have more patience for otherwise harmless yet oblivious men who “don’t get it”. They would get frustrated if a guy they like didn’t take action. They would get annoyed if a guy they do NOT like was taking action. But they would step back and think through how the guy was acting and determine if he was legit threat vs. an otherwise harmless yet oblivious man who just doesn’t “get it”  For example if a guy they found unattractive was flirting with them they would hope he would stop. But they know if they spoke up the guy would definitely stop. They would think twice about their initial negative judgment.  But modern feminism and #metoo came along and told women that their initial “feeling” was (as POS Oprah put it) “their truth”. So if a guy they didn’t like said hello to them then their negative emotional response that “he’s a creep” is “their truth” and must be indulged. If a guy they did like didn’t approach him it must be because he’s not interested and/or too shy (in reality the guy might have zero idea she’s interested).  I am definitely not saying all women are like this. But modern culture has definitely made more women impulsive and less patient with their “feelings”. It has made some women more assertive (which is good overall). But most women still want men to approach them just as long it’s the right man at the right moment. What she’s thinking is not always easy to know.

robhazelnut · Accepted Answer

Going by this definition,  I'd be willing to bet that most women who are inclined toward men as partners see it as a necessary but not sufficient trait. It's important to say that the ability to ignore/remove fear can be called confident, as can making an assumption to hide fear. The former is more useful to activity- one of the most frightening things for many is to admit not knowing and still stick with a plan. There can be cruel assertion, kind assertion and simply respectful assertion.

Siri137 · Accepted Answer

I've seen that actress before somewhere, but forgotten her name, and it's really bugging me.

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

Yes. Assertive and pushy are two entirely different things.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. Regardless of what may or may not say, the answer is YES.

Assertive does not mean as a**hole. But she does want to know she's with a man who can take control, take charge. But be mindful there is an exception to EVERY rule. My brother in law is this way. His wife definitely wears the pants in thier relationship. But having said that they've been married for a couple decades. And twas not always so. He used to be much more assertive in his younger days. And if I had to guess she still see him as that man. That's the thing you have to remember about women. They leave primarily in an illusionary world. It's not what IS with her. It's ONLY what she BELIEVES to be true that matters to a woman. Always try to remember that.

Sharkstealth · Answer

I think a woman I know wanted me to kiss her a couple weeks ago but I'm not to into public display especially if it's the first. She was giving me a handjob and I believe strongly that she wanted me to push her head down to suck it but I didn't. I believe she thinks less of me because of it. She is shy and I think enjoys a man to take what he wants. She is also a blue eyed blonde petite bombshell of a woman.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

There are something like 4 Billion women on this planet, assuming we say something like 25% at a guess do, then it would be safe to assume that a Billion women like assertive men.

RebelinSteel · Answer

Confidence and assertive can part company,  The important bit is not being a dickhead, creepy or an arsehole. Oh and having social skills to use that confidence.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I think woman just want a man who's confident with a strong constitution.

laly520 · Answer

yes but to an extent he still need to communicate it all with me first especially if its about serious decisions

Jersey2 · Answer

Yes, to a degree. Women want to follow. But not be pushed. Be a good leader for a woman and she will stay and trust you.

RavVid · Answer

They should as most are highly reluctant to do anything overt

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Yes they do. It's a sign of being a leader which is obviously important in a meaningful long term relationship

Fireguy17 · Answer

some do, others do not. This isn't a blanket statement that covers everyone.

annabananna · Answer

I like assertive people in general but not aggressive.

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

It's a positive trait, but control freaks are often assertive also

handsomelad70 · Answer

To some degree, but the vast majority of women don't like aggressive, bullying men.

DextroShade · Answer

It's only a red flag if they don't find the man physically attractive.

4ngelic · Answer

yea i think most do. though not if they're so assertive it spills into the controlling territory

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Absolutely women love assertive (but not pushy) men. Assertiveness goes with confidence.

myloveforuisinfinte · Answer

I don't know coz I never watched that movie🤷

karsucazz · Answer

I like real gentlemen. They're 10 steps ahead!

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

You’re misinterpreting assertive to mean aggressive

sheikalana · Answer

Love an assertive Man.

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