Do you like assertive women?

[cherryphi82]

Assertiveness =/= aggressiveness. Assertiveness means someone who is outspoken, can stand up for themselves, sets reasonable boundaries and respects yours in return.

[Browneye57]

Ya got some opposing concepts there. Assertive means being able to voice your needs/wants/desires. Aggressiveness is being a bull in a china shop to get what you want. The former is fine, the latter is not.

Outspoken isn't assertive, it's annoying. Never pass up the opportunity to simply STFU. Not EVERY little thing that comes into your head needs to be verbalized. About half the population doesn't get this. It's not the first ammendment, it's just annoying.

Stand up for yourself is fine, don't be a door mat. Don't be used or abused. No one will fault anyone for that. Same for boundaries - decide what works for you and stick by them. Don't be wishy-washy - too many of the guys are like this these days.

No, develop your feminine traits too, like gratitude, appreciation, politeness, culture, and intellect. Figure out what it is that brings high value to a relationship and develop that, cuz a high-value guy will expect it.

Being loud and obnoxious = being a bore. Young women are all great to look and be around 'till they open their mouth. Then it's all over. :)

[cherryphi82]

Oh, now I remember what I forgot to do all this time. Block you!

[dothejohnwall97]

Well said my man

[TheHumanisticTheory]

Speaking of assertive, I’d like to get your opinion on my post: Guys, I told him how I feel? ↗

[Djaay]

Asker , why on earth would you block someone for an honest opinion. ? Are you sure you're not being" aggressive" and unkind , disrespectful?

[beaums]

Love assertive women. You know where you stand.

[Onlythisone]

A strong leader makes the people around them stronger regardless of gender. But in relationships this tends to work differently. Strong women make strong partners stronger and week ones weaker because if you have to be the leader in daily life, focusing on building others up... You don't want to have to work at it for a partner too... It's more expected that they should be able to handle themselves, and if they can't... There is no more room for pity. On the other side of this, "nagging" and being "argumentative" is not strength or assertiveness. It is fear based. If you are in control of your own life you feel a lot less need to micromanage others.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

I'm very assertive. But how assertive, depends on who I'm around and what situation I'm in. Some people don't like me because of being assertive , but there's others who do like me because of it. But even if I wasn't assertive , I'd still be liked by some, and not by others lol I'm not a controlling aggressive person though.

I was always a feisty kid

[Izumiblu]

Assertive is an overused term. Often women that claim to be assertive are compensating for something.

On the other hand I 100% agree with you that assertive and aggressive are two different things and often if you are female and assertive you are often considered to be aggressive. It’s an unfortunate fact of life.

[cherryphi82]

Then what term would you use?

[Izumiblu]

Ohh I think if it’s appropriate then it’s fair. I think assertiveness can be abused. I believe assertiveness in the right amount is a crucial life skill that many women lack so kudos to you that you see it as a value. Be aware that many people won’t see the distinction you recognize... the difference between assertive and aggressive.

Also, rightly or wrongly when I here women describe themselves as assertive I often notice they aren’t really assertive rather they are overbearing. So this is what I meant when I said it’s overused.

Society is not always kind to women that are assertive, on the other hand society is not always kind to women that are passive.

Being assertive is a good quality, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.. but it’s not for everyone. It takes all kinds.

[cherryphi82]

Yes, I'm well aware of that. That's why I put it in the description. Why make that correlation though, when it has nothing to do with the discussion at hand?

[winterfox10]

I love assertive women, especially during sex. Because I don't always know if/when I should push things further. Plus it's super hot when you're making out and she says something like "pull your cock out," or just reaches down to take care of me herself.

[MintyWolf]

Yes, it also allows the man to ascertain whether he likes the female quicker. That's not to say that the opposite isn't attractive though.. especially from a dominant males perspective. Submissiveness can be an equally nice experience, however it depends upon the woman

[latinabutterfly96]

I’m assertive myself.
And I get men.
So yeah I guess they do ;)

[Goochbreaker]

Yes, I like people who are capable of asserting themselves. With an assertive women, I'll know sooner rather than later if I'm dating the right person or not

[oddwaffle]

There is no such understanding woman. She either gets what she wants or the guy gives up.

Ha e you ever seen a husband trying to reason with his wife? What are the chances of him winning?

[Portissac]

I do as conversations so much better when women are confident of their own opinions and don't stand for bs

[Raajk1995]

Yes they are good and kind of supportive in nature as you defined here i love woman who can sta d for herself a d respect boundaries😍

[Meninist]

Only if she’s not annoying.

I don’t like annoying assertive men either.

[valentine74]

Of course it can lead to incrrdible discussions and competitions also its a thing to sleep with an assertive woman

[TallGuy96]

Yeah as long they don't get too controlling, controlling is a bit of a turn on honestly but there are limits

[F7777]

To be honest not really because I can't even talk to her for she gets mad for no reason but I can deal with one. I'm a calm person.

[bigcoolguy]

I like them assertive. Kind of ticks me off when they're aggressive

[Djaay]

Yes , secondly tho to ( kind , polite and respectful ) .

[evank]

yes! it's hard to be with someone who never has an opinion

[KhoryESM]

I’d say so yea I mean anyone who stands up for themselves I like

[Sabretooth]

Yes-as long as she's submissive in bed-that would be perfect

[Anonymous]

Yeah, super assertive and male dominating girls and women turn me on

[fauchelevent]

Sure, I'm also cool with a little aggression :P

[JordanDavis]

I think assertiveness can be pretty sexy actually

[tuxedochimp]

Hell yeah. Confidence is very attractive.

[Prof_Don]

I’m into assertive women. :)

[HikerDude]

Sometimes. Depends on her definition of assertive.

[Logorithim]

Yes- it's a turn-on.

[Coconut_Man]

I like secure, chilled and laid-back women.

[itsme123456789]

Yeah, assertiveness is a good trait to have :)

[Marat]

I do, but not agressive in the mad sense

[olderbudweiser]

Yes i like a woman with a bit if balls

[Revolver_]

I like someone who is assertive for me

[Tohhru]

Sure but just not those dom girls

[TheUglyMan]

Fuck no only in the sexual parts

[Sambivalent]

Who wouldn't?

[NicknameShirt]

Yes, definitely

[RebeccaSJ]

I am one.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and dominant in bed.

[Anonymous]

I do. Though my definition is a bit different.

[Jaybournexx]

Absolutely

[cupidkisses]

Nope

[CT_CD]

No. They scare me

[GreenGold1992]

Hell yeah I do

[jiothecat]

Yes i do

[player74729]

No. Definitely not

[firebat45]

Absolutely

[Seppelson]

I hate that