Should I tell him I don’t like him?

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We’re back to my dating saga…. I met this guy and he’s way different than the guys I’ve dated in the past. He’s super sweet, he’s an accountant making over $100k a year, he's respectful and he’s everything I want. However, I just don’t feel the attraction. I’m trying to force myself to like him because I really think he might be good for me but I don't know what it is… I’m not feeling it. He’s not ugly either. He’s okay. I don't know if I should stick it out or tell him the truth that I just don’t like him like that and I don’t even have a reason why. I feel kinda bad. He does come off as really thirsty acting which I hate. In all honesty he annoys the fuck outta me sometimes.

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

Dear, when we don't like someone is best not to fake it or force it even if you thought he could give you what you're looking for. Feeling attracted to someone plays a huge role in the dating world. Keep it short and simple don't say the usual 'you're a great guy and I hope you find someone who loves you for who you are' type of sh*t be straight forward and tell him you do not wish to move forward with him and have never been that interested. Period.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Yea if the attraction isn't there, go ahead and end it. It will not grow. There was one military dude that i gave a try and the attraction was just not there. I tried to put him out of his misery by leaving him… for someone else. Horrible but yea i wouldn't give anyone else a try for solely personality. It is not enough

bobby_bush_eater · Accepted Answer

If you force yourself into liking him you will inevitably grow to resent him. It sounds like you do not enjoy his personality. Just because he makes good money and is nice, not bad looking doesn't make him a match to you.

Be honest with him and yourself don't lead him on but also don't hurt him unnecessarily. Your time is too valuable to waste it in an endeavor you don't like

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

My advice is let him down gently, tell him you aren't dating at the time, and you just got out of a bad relationship, hey it's your word against his. I had this one woman was divorce or separated from her husband wanted me to play ball with her boys, and it just didn't come over with me.

Rangers · Answer

Investigate further the reason that you don't like him, and tell him that while he possesses the traits you're looking for, something isn't quite ticking like it should

Once you find that reason out, you can move forward with the relationship, or cut it off, if you see it fit to do ao

rienna888 · Answer

Lol girl just break up with him. I’m the same way, I can’t date any guy I am not attracted to despite how they’re “perfect in every other way”, weird cuz I know some girls can like my sister.

NathanDavis · Answer

be truly to yourself... you owe that to yourself first you do not like him, don't mess with him second, you don't like him... so don't mess with him like that either

IslaTheWitch · Answer

just be yourself... If you don't feel it, then you don't feel it... Just be fair and try to explain to him what you miss.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Yeah tell him how you feel be honest tell me you're not feeling him. You don't have to give him a reason. And if he pushes you to give him one. Tell him Lorenzo said you don't have too.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

You can't force attraction. And you don't have to be mean to him neither. You just say in a nice way, I'm not interested and he should understand and move on.

RSav4013 · Answer

It sounds like you need a man that has strong masculine energy, and that is fine don't settle for someone that you don't feel attraction toward.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Lmao, I think you should just tell him the truth, y'all both adults, y'all both sound mature so no need to waste time here, his or your own.

Cheapskate · Answer

My personal opinion is you shouldn't try to convince yourself to be attracted to someone you are not attracted to. It is a lose-lose scenario. You can do better (someone you're attracted to) and he can do better (someone that's attracted to him).

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Don't take this the wrong way, but If we take the fact he annoys the F**K out of you, and you aren't attracted to him, is there really any reason to bother asking us?

Anonymous · Answer

You crave alpha cock. Save the accountant for after you have ridden the carousel hard and have a Chadling or two. He will happily simp and pay for all of your mistakes. After eight years with the simp you can divorce him, take half+, and go back to trying to find a Chad.

molonski2 · Answer

If I were advising him , Id advise him to back off , then see how it goes , his strategy is never going to work with you , he needs to take it away for a bit...

JacobJordan · Answer

You like toxicity don't ruin his life because you have shit preferences

WhitneySnow · Answer

Be honest with him that you don’t like him that way

patrick994 · Answer

You should simply tell him that there was no spark on your part.

DextroShade · Answer

I guess he made the mistake of not being Chad or Tyrone. This is exactly why most women should be treated like shit.

Anonymous · Answer

"I’m trying to force myself to like him..." Anyone who you must force yourself to like isn't a good match for you.

Jay-_- · Answer

Damn that's gotta hurt, but tell him the truth, regardless of how you tell him he gonna be hurt just make it plain and simple

Pterodon · Answer

If you’re not into him you’re just not into him.

Trekfan68 · Answer

It sounds like this isn’t meant to be. You should just get it over with. The longer you wait, the harder it will be.

Should I tell him I don’t like him?

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My advice is let him down gently, tell him you aren't dating at the time, and you just got out of a bad relationship, hey it's your word against his. I had this one woman was divorce or separated from her husband wanted me to play ball with her boys, and it just didn't come over with me.

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