My boyfriend never takes me out or buys me anything. It makes me feel sad. How to talk to him?

[fiorenca]

[barbie]

It's fair to want a bit more sparkle in your relationship, feeling like you're stuck in a rut can be a real downer. Here’s a more down-to-earth way to tackle this:

Timing is Everything: Catch him at a good time when you’re both chilling and in a good mood. It’s all about the vibe, you know?
Open Up About How You Feel: Sit down with him and just be real. Say something like, "Hey, I’ve been feeling a bit overlooked lately. I miss us going out and doing fun stuff together." It’s all about saying how you feel without making him feel like he’s in the hot seat.
Spell It Out for Him: Sometimes, hints just fly over their heads. Tell him what makes you feel special – it could be anything from a surprise date night to him picking up your favorite snack. It’s the thought that counts, not the price tag.
Hear Him Out: After you’ve shared your piece, let him share his. There might be stuff going on with him that you didn’t know about.
Make Some Plans Together: If the convo goes well, try coming up with some fun ideas you both can look forward to.
Cheer On the Little Wins: Noticed he’s putting in the effort?
Honestly, it’s all about keeping it 100 with him.

[sheikalana]

Tell him you're not a house plant and would like to do things outside of the house too. You shouldn't have allowed this when it started.

[Pinay_ako]

Just talk to him! If he obviously cares, he’d make it up to you. If he doesn’t, leave him!

[Fireguy17]

while it may not be a fun thing to do, it sounds like you should have that conversation soon.
Let him know what you would like to have happen, and how what he is doing or not doing makes you feel.
It could be a couple of things.
For one he may not realize his behavior is making you feel sad because if you don't say anything he thinks everything is fine and you are just fine with how things are, or he could be an ass hat and really not care about your feelings or somewhere in between.
The sooner you talk to him the better it will be for you.
Then you know where you stand, no more guessing, and hopefully he will correct his behavior and life will be gooder.

[Finchie40]

Did he do those things for you on the beginning? How long have you been with him? You both might just have different love languages and that is usually the reason most relationships begin to have problems , Gifts might not be important to him just like going out might not be as well, so it’s best to talk to him and find out , don’t just assume the worst case scenario like most people do

[AMS700CX4u2]

Does he ever compliment you on anything? Are you ever consulted on your opinions. In this all about him. If so, psychologist might say your boyfriend is a narcissist. Control freak? Basically people with control issues have stopped growing socially. Though sexually mature, they have the mind of a 13 year old. Is everything that goes wrong your fault. I hope that I am wrong. Affluentcy breeds Narcissist. Boys have to become men. If you have enough money you don't have to. Boys are allowed to continue with adolescent behavior. I guess it boils down to one premise that a selfish person never fully understands. Efforts to get the things you want are best spent making sure your spouse gets the things she wants. Indirect approach.

[lorenzomichael]

Tell him hey jackass what kind of shit is this? You're my boyfriend and I care about you, and I hope you care about me. And you can't take me out or buy me any fucking thing? What kind of shit is that? You better get off your ass and fix this or I'll find someone else who will appreciate me.

[dustybiker2]

Have you told him you wish to go out or be smothered in gifts? Men can't read minds.

[ThatOneGuy247]

I agree.. Enhance love maps by talking about the 5 love languages, etc. talk about how you want to receive love. To be truly loved she requires appreciation and reciprocity. Not to be taken for granted if that's the case she's experiencing? Examine the investment model of commitment. I trust women know what to do. Women got this

[FenixG45]

TRUE!

[DannyUk2017]

And is funny how i bought her a car, made her a lady, built her a house, and now i have NOTHING! As she left with another, so i guess this 💩 goes both ways! 🤷‍♂️

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Communication is the key & if you want your boyfriend to take you out & buy you things give him a reason to. In the meantime give him a random blowjob & see if that changes things.

[MittParekh15]

Well, if he is your boyfriend then he knows your like and dislikes, similarly you too know about his likes and dislikes - just start doing or gifting him what he likes maybe after sometime in return he starts to buy your like thinks

[Bricealan]

That sounds like something, to me, that would be past the point of talking! If he is your age or past that, ... that part of his behavior is past the point of changing. Sounds very selfish and self centered to me

[The_Sexpert]

Communication... sit down and talk
He might not necessarily be a at fault.. maybe he just doesn't see much importance in hanging out.. and he'll probably rectify it once he knows how much you value it

[Purpleronnie]

The reason for this doesn’t have to be you , does it? Perhaps it’s time to have a conversation about how he is? You talk to him in the spirit of understanding not suspicion

[Aakash_Hangargi]

If a guy has fallen for he will do things for you in his own ways and means but if he isn't done that then possibly his desires and expectations aren't fulfilled by you.

Also depends on his nature he might be a home body.

[jshm2]

You don't, as the time for talking is over.

Either respect yourself and leave, or keep quiet and suffer.

[laly520]

like never?

u need to sit down with him n talk to him about it, ask him why he doesn't do it

[EmmaMary]

40 years of age and you don't know? Shame on you. smh

[MrNameless]

Communicate that with him.

What exactly are you offering him by the way?

[midnightmoon05]

What did he do to earn the boyfriend title?

[handsomelad70]

Maybe it's me, but it doesn't seem he values you. You should talk to him and let him know that to keep you, he'll have to treat you as a girlfriend with everything such a relationship entails.

[JHAYES317]

Well needing a guy to buy you things seems pretty superficial…how often so you buy him things? But I understand wanting you boyfriend to want to go and do stuff with you

[WhitneySnow]

Just tell him straight up that this bothers you

[Bobby88t]

Hi! Our boyfriend is a miser. If i were you i would say that for sure. I can do anyrhung for a girl. Go trips and buy anyrhung but im impotent and girls dont like me

[JacobJordan]

Using words tends to work for talking to someone. Just be honest

[LaurenM1997]

Dump him go find someone who will care for you better he sounds like an asshole

[Unit1]

Well, is he broke or does he buy fortnite (or counter strike 2) skins online?

[ALLURING24]

Why should he do that? If you don’t like that leave him

[Nifrayu]

He could be feeling the same way. Talk to him.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Just curious;
How often do you take him out or buy him things?

[Likes2drive]

Be direct with him, he probably won’t change so he needs to know or you won’t be happy

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

Tell him exactly what you told us. Just tell him that it would make you feel special if he did these things. And remember if he wanted to he could.

[Anonymous]

I assume he was the one that chased you in pursued you and hit on you

[Anonymous]

and you lack of the imagination to love him or?

[noohair]

At his age, change is hard.

[jahaims]

With words