Why are some men scared of a relationship?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

There’s a lot of reasons. Experience being one of them. Not just personal experience but seeing what other men have gone through as far as divorces, financially, losing their kids, etc. It could also be he doesn’t feel he’s ready to settle down, whether that’s financially or maturity wise. Maybe you’re not the one.

[Asker]

he already asked me to be his wife once he finish getting hisself together he just not ready right now and neither am i but im noticing him talk about past traumas with women and he thinks im going to hurt him the more he has opened up to me

[Asker]

thats why i wanted to know just why seems like the men i run into hold onto traumas i have been hurt by men far worse and i dont hold that over his head

[Opinion Owner]

Yes but everyone handles things differently. A lot of things don’t bother me like they bother others. Maybe he needs to get professional help. Maybe both of you together can work on that w therapy or something

[Asker]

yeah ngl I've been i think he needs to go as well.

[Lynx122]

Because it takes a lot of work and effort for a guy to be in a relationship. He's only gonna do that if he thinks it's worth it and he's in a place in life where he has a lot of things settled so he doesn't have too much going on at the same time. A guy who's still developing, it's not always a good idea for him to take on a relationship.

[Asker]

ok this eases me and makes sense

[Apple1996]

Simple it's because their mom never loved them enough so they think no woman could love them

[Asker]

uk what i think that too his grandma recently passed and his mom had him very young and i feel like she used to leave him with the grandparents a lot its ashame

[Asker]

because i have a narc mom so i understand

[Asb_Samson]

Because of experiences they have in surroundings and for me Girls don't have much compromise as compare to Boys. Sorry it's my personal opinion...

[Anonymous]

Relationships in general, and marriage in particular, have become very risky/costly for men, and without many of the benefits that used to make them beneficial to men. And one of the biggest... sex... is pretty easilly available now without the issues that come with commitment.

[ProbablyClueless]

They've seen or experienced firsthand, what happens when you get into a relationship with the wrong woman.

[strateguy632]

even those men are not realy scared of relationships, but they are scared of women based on past experiences. some prefer one nighters and moving on.

[peedy]

Because of what women want and exspect out of men thst no man can fulfill and as much as he tries she does mot appreciate it snd does not reciprocate it

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Feminists, being used, gold diggers, repenting opening up emotionally, falsely accused, mind games, cheating,

[DannyUk2017]

Why are some men scared of a relationship?

Have you looked around lately?

[Asker]

i have not everyone is the same

[DannyUk2017]

Well you see that is where you are wrong, not Everyone is the same! 😉

[Asker]

i meant to put a comma between not and everyone sorry lol what u said is what i meant

[Fireguy17]

probably they want to be able to doink anyone that comes along.
They will end up old and lonely someday.

[Asker]

yes i tell him does he want to have a bunch of kids like his father and thats how his father ended up lonely

[Fireguy17]

hopefully he will figure it out, so many don't.

[Asker]

yes i will take the advice you're wiser thank you

[DextroShade]

They see the state of modern women and rightfully judge that they aren't worthy of a relationship.

[Vegasrunner]

There really no benifit in a man being in a relationship w/ only one woman.

[Anonymous]

By your age we've seen a lot of what women are capable of.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women have made a relationship a three way with the government in the middle, no thanks.

[JacobJordan]

Have you seen the options for most men these days? They aren't scared it just isn't worth it at all

[Asker]

just asking in regards to my situation but we talked about it

[JacobJordan]

Well you are anon. I don't know your situation

[jahaims]

They lack trust due to trauma

[In_Trance]

For the same reason some women are

[Anonymous]

Lack trust

[Asker]

yeah thats what he says to me he dont trust nobody and fears commitment i understand i have trust issues but i dont reflect my personal experiences on him

[Opinion Owner]

Well maybe u both can work on it