Is this an unhealthy sign?

[Anonymous]

My date took 10 days to respond just to plan for our first coffee meet. Seldomly she'd reply within a few hours, but more often she takes quite a long time. She isn't spilling the beans on anything that might be going on in her head. Also, she agreed for another date but one time when I asked her when she'd be comfortable with the date, she dodged the question.

[JacobJordan]

She is going on other dates most likely getting a bunch of free food and drinks. Best move for you. Move on

[Asker]

I didn't pay for her albeit I offered to.

[JacobJordan]

Not about funds it is about exclusivity

[Asker]

Melancholic girls think it's cool. Such girls belong to the streets then

[JacobJordan]

Basically. If she was interested she would be more present. My guess she is leading you on and/or keeping you on the back burner for when she wants to be taken care of

[Asker]

So true. I don't know why this always happens with me. Never had good luck with girls. Never

[JacobJordan]

No one ever does mate. Soon as I stopped looking and just accepted that the right girl would show up she did. I went to a place for lunch and there she was. Radiant as the sun super long hair. Looking like a wood nymph shoved into city clothes. That was about 20 years ago and she is my wife now. Why am I saying all this? Love who you are and accept that the right girl will appear. Truly accept that and watch what happens

[Asker]

Get what you mean. How has your journey evolved over the 2 decades? Especially when the waters get rough?

[JayBones2469]

You are 3rd or 4th string. When the guy higher up on the depth chart are on the field she doesn't have the attention for you. You only option is to get better or hope to get traded to a different team.

[Asker]

That's melancholic. One of the reasons why I was adamant not to date for years. I just don't get why girls do this all the time.

[JayBones2469]

They don't all do this. Date a dorky or reserved girl. Pick up a girl at Church or a comicbook convention and never worry about this ever again.

[Asker]

A comic book convention? 😂 Wonder how you came up with that

[JayBones2469]

I went to one once and picked up a pretty cool chick. We dated for a bit but it ran its course

[Asker]

That's melancholic. How is it going now? Dating anyone?

[JayBones2469]

I've been married for almost 20 years. She was a traditional girl virgin introvert that I forced to go too parties with me. She was too adorable to let just waste away single.

[JayBones2469]

We have three Amazing Daughters

[Asker]

Elated for ya mate 😁 Best wishes from Dublin

[JayBones2469]

Cheers! My great Grandfather was from Dublin.

[Asker]

Geez, interesting 😲 Have you been here before?

[JayBones2469]

No, sadly, most Americans never leave the country. My Brother and Father were in the Navy and they visited Ireland. Not sure if they made it to Dublin though.

[Asker]

Hope you get to visit soon, mate. St Paddy's Day beckons :)

[Anonymous]

A reluctant yes is a no in disguise. Let her go, don't waste your time chasing unavailable people.

[Asker]

Despite doing everything I could, this has always been the story. My bad luck with girls hasn't ended yet

[Olgamasha]

She is playing you, friend. Leave her for your mental health. You deserve better, I mean it.

[Asker]

Thank you for your kind words, friend. Do you mind if I could talk about it more in the DM? I've got no one to share this with

[Olgamasha]

Yes of course you can

[Asker]

Thank you so much 😊

[Asker]

I followed you

[Olgamasha]

I saw that. Thanks. But I’m not able to send you a message because I’m new here

[MVMartin]

Happened to me even with girls that they approached me and took my number. They have other guys in their DMs they lose interest fast.

[Asker]

A grocery store, ain't it?