1 yI know a lot of women say coffee dates are bad but I don’t think they necessarily are and here’s my take.
if I’ve been speaking to someone for a fair amount of time or I already know them, then a dinner date would be good. We’ve established there’s interest, we know each other, and a dinner date would show me how much he’s willing to invest into me and the relationship.
if I don’t know someone at all and he just randomly asked me out I’d say a coffee date is fine. That way we can focus more on talking and getting to know each other and things would be less awkward. I wouldn’t expect him to invest so much into me when he doesn’t know me. I could be a terrible woman or a gold digger haha. If things go well then a dinner date should be arranged.
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Wow flattered (and relieved) so many agree with me haha.
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Coffee date for the icebreaker and if she's into you, proceed to the more intimate dinner date.
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369 opinions shared on Dating topic. I liked coffee dates personally. There is a lot less pressure and you’re not shoving food in your face with someone you just met. You’re able to just sit in the shop and talk, or you’re able to walk and talk to get to know each other. If it goes well then maybe go for dinner or something else
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m 1 yIt does not really matter, it’s about having some place you can both relax and spend quality time with each other. It’s about relaxing in each others company, forming an emotional connection. A nice traditional afternoon tea can be really lovely as a date.
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1 yCoffee. At a book store. After wandering and talking. You can learn everything you need to know about a person by wandering n chatting in a bookstore.
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1 yIf you haven't vetted her properly then go for coffee and do your homework. If you have then for Christ sake take her to a nice place.
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When did coffee dates become something guys actually agree to? When I was coming up it was an attention grab girls would try to set up with guys they weren’t really interested in.
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1 ySadly, no one ever thinks of an ice cream date :)
Before I joined GaG, I didn't spend thoughts on "dating" - I just met girls I was interested in.
And we did what we felt like to do.
"Dating" the way it's expected nowadays looks like a ritual to me - one that I wasn't made for.48 Reply- 1 y
Amen, mein Bruder. 🙏
Choosing the flavour can be risky, though:
banana, chocolate or vanilla? :DYou're an adventurous lady, heh heh.
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oh, i love this
Looks like we have an ice cream orgy here :D
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1 ylol it’s not a preference for me.. if I’m dating I’m taking a girl on a “free” date.. walk on the beach, bring some snacks just to sit around or walk around and actually get to know each other.. I wouldn’t do either.. and I’m especially not doing dinner dates up til the 5th or 6th date.. this strategy helped me weed out the women that I know aren’t serious.
Women say they want to get to know a man, yet want to be provided for without any commitment. This ensures that women have to look forward to provisioning and they will form a much stronger bond.
DISCLAIMER: if men are desperate to date anything that has boobs and an ass.. this strategy isn’t for you.. this is for men, like myself, who don’t have time to waste on women that are greedy and want to be treated like a queen when they haven’t proven themselves yet. If you as a man like to be used, disregard everything I said.50 Reply
1 yI like short coffee meetings as a first approach to making a decision if what we want goes in the same direction. It removes the obligation for paying for anything as everyone pays for themselves. Some people need such meetings to voice statements they wouldn't say in different circumstances...
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1 yNeither. I don’t drink coffee or any hot drinks. I’m not a restaurant type of girl either. I’ve worked behind the scenes of a restaurant and that alone was enough to turn me off ever eating at a restaurant
Maybe just a walk in the park date. Inexpensive and can watch the sunset as well.
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1 yI am not a fan of the whole dinner date thing, just because the whole eating thing gets in the way. I don't mind if we go for a snack somewhere, but just something simple.
I am there to get to know the person and eating a big meal is not how you get to know someone.
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1 yWhen I used to date, the first date used to always be coffee related just to feel the vibe and to know if we clicked. It was to let go of tension, chill, laugh and enjoy ourselves. If we went on a second date, it wouldn't necessarily be dinner but a fun activity together such as bowling, cinema, whatever activity there was in that city. Maybe on the 3rd or 4th night we would do dinner.
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m 1 yas a preference... I rather to cook for her or cook together, that's even better
her place, or mine...
if going out, a nice coffee place would be my preference, as they could offer so much more variety and extra (desserts) than I could get at my place, I'm not a fan of coffee, lol40 Reply 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. Mmm… I don’t drink coffee.. If I’m having tea I don’t want to just sit and talk either. I’d rather us go on a walk or something. To me, cafes are only for warming up real quick after walking on a date, or cooling off real quick after walking on a date. Pit stops no longer than 30 mins.
So if I had to pick out of the two I guess dinner.
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1 yFirst date is always a coffee date at somewhere fun, like a gaming cafe that has board games to play while chatting.
Dinner date i usually have as a second date, because first date, if the date want's to go somewhere expensive, it's a major red flag. If, we can't vibe in a relaxed and fun atmosphere, we won't work out.50 Reply Honestly I would do either. Personally my idea of a good first date is anything we can sit down and chat to get to know each other and then go do something fun as well.
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1 yThis is an easy one for me…. I hate coffee but I love food. Simple choice…. Dinner date.
Plus coffee date can be too quick. It takes some time for my charm, quick wit and shockingly good looks to be fully recognized and appreciated 😊20 Reply 3.7K opinions shared on Dating topic. Take her home and penetrate is what I prefer
42 ReplyFrom the front or from the back that is the question? And i ain't talking about the rear end 🕳️
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1 yTo me either one would work. You could even show them a place you love to eat if they're ok with just anywhere to eat. Then, they can do the same to you. It's a good way to learn about another person even if it's just as simple as food.
10 Reply 757 opinions shared on Dating topic. Coffee date is to confirm whether she is a catfish or not. Proper date comes after that unless if one already knows that she isn't a catfish.
41 Reply2.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. Neither. I'd rather do a fun activity. Any type of eating/drinking on the first date is crazy weird.
41 ReplyWhat had you done in your earlier 20s then as fun activities? Bowling? 🎳 Golf? ⛳
- The first date should always be a coffee date. just to get to know each other first. (If you women approach us first. We might skip the coffee date and the lunch date.)
- The second date be a lunch date.
- The Third date dinner date.
20 ReplyI don't drink coffee, much less from a Starbucks or coffee shop or anything, and I don't eat out either. So I'd chose a walk date. Or maybe tea.
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1 yFirst date? Coffee shop. It's much more casual than a dinner date and if something goes wrong at least you'll have an inexpensive good time.
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1 yAlways a dinner date over coffee.. For one I don't drink coffee, and two a dinner date is more intimate and gives more of a chance to talk!
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1 yI think first dates should always be coffee/tea/snacks, etc. Super cheap, public, and it’s easy to talk to each other.
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1 ydinner, but literally somewhere cheap. i don't drink coffee/tea so food is definitely going to be needed XD
20 Reply 19.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. Dinner dates coffee is really cheap date that’s something you do when you already know somebody and you’re already together and you just want to hang out somewhere and it’s between lunch and dinner
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1 yDepends if it's an initial coffee date meeting or if it's past the initial coffee date meeting. If it's past it then dinner where the guy pays the first initial dinner date then after the couple can split the check
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Before a guy goes on a dinner date with a woman he needs to know what her favorite food is first then plan restaurants around that to take her to
4.9K opinions shared on Dating topic. Coffee is less stressful; but I don't like coffee. So, I generally go with the dinner date.
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1 yGetting pizza and beer together is my ideal date
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ugh. maybe if your date is with a frat boy.
coffee or not even. a walk somewhere scenic or downtown is all that’s needed for a first date - 1 y
Are you one of those light weights that can’t drink a beer or two with her pizza? 🤣
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@DreamCrescent frat boy? It’s a fun meal to get together. A coffee or walking date sounds like something frigid lesbians should do together.
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really?
i gotta update my first date playbook, then.
but pizza and beer, though?
has that really been a first date for you? it sounds like a stay-in/game day kind of meal. i cannot imagine being so casual borderline intimate with a stranger - 1 y
@DreamCrescent do u think I’m talking about going to dominoes and having bud light together in an alley? 🤣You are aware there’s expensive upscale pizza parlors with imported beer on tap. I wouldn’t take a girl to a nice restaurant on a first date that just reeks of desperation. And a coffee/walking date sounds like an uncomfortable screening process date where a girl is ready to friendzone u but she’ll take any free attention she can get.
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oh , wow okay. i don’t know what’s the difference between an upscale pizza parlor and a dinner date, then, i guess.
obviously you have had a very different dating experience than me. sorry i commented. it’s working for you so cool beans
I’m a bit different, honestly. I’d hate to get tied down to a dinner date. and the friendzoning thing is just a low key way to say “not feeling it”. could happen on any type of first date. maybe less likely after a date that comes on too strong (like dinner vs coffee) because of the guilt factor. but you’d wanna know that they’re not into it, wouldn’t you?
i’ve gone on a couple first dates for coffee. sat in a coffee shop, chatted, didn’t even buy coffee. it’s nice and casual and and actually minimal pressure. also been on a couple first dates that were just walks. talked about cars in one and in the other, the topic drifted around from clinical trials to karens to trump and then food. stuff like that. it didn’t feel like an interview honestly, but then again, it’s a first date. isn’t the point to assess for chemistry/break the ice/get ahead of turnoffs? - 1 y
and i guess i may not be able to handle beer on a first date 😁
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1 yI think coffee is better it just seems a lot lower key and easier to get to know someone it's overall more relaxed atmosphere it feels. Ideal way to see if you would like to go for dinner at another point.
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1 yDinner sounds so serious. Just let’s do something fun in the daytime or something.
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1 yNeither. I prefer to not go on dates. I prefer to stay single and at home with my cat where I’m actually happy
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safer!
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Not that you’d understand how that’s considered safer
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1 yFirst meet up, maybe second, I am not spending a lot. If she makes it past that, then we go somewhere decent.
30 Reply 1.9K opinions shared on Dating topic. If we are just getting to know each other a coffee date is fine with me. If it's a dinner date I always pay my own way.
20 Reply1.6K opinions shared on Dating topic. there is not enough time on a coffee date to get to know them. Save that for once you know each other and as something different to keep change in the picture.
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you don’t need to get to know them on a first date, though? way too full on to even try
isn’t the first date an ice breaker? casual thing where you just check for chemistry or lack thereof, keep it short and sweet and noncommittal
i wouldn’t go on a dinner first date. but that might just be me i have a hard time committing 😐
566 opinions shared on Dating topic. These days I'd go for a Coffee dates to start, and then progress to dinner dates if we are compatible.
20 Reply307 opinions shared on Dating topic. Coffee date. Dinner dates are too expensive and if the date isn’t going well you can’t leave very easily
20 Reply433 opinions shared on Dating topic. For I'd love a diner date over a coffee date. I live near a diner with good food, good music and great hospitality. They are also cheaper than a fancy dinner date.
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1 yCoffee shop for a first date, unless I've known her for awhile.
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1 yI don't drink coffee and I only eat to live. Fat girls eat for fun. Pass. Hard pass.
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1 yDinner dates because they are much more romantic and personal.
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1 yUsually dinner but honestly I think coffee might be better for first date type situations
20 Reply 1.6K opinions shared on Dating topic. I like dinner dates much better. Gives me lots of time to talk with her, get to know her
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@Pinay_ako Thank you for the Like
5.7K opinions shared on Dating topic. Dinner dates. A coffee date is like a job interview and it's really awkward.
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1 yWell I like to eat so I'll take a dinner date over a coffee date any day. What about you?
30 Reply 2K opinions shared on Dating topic. Well I prefer to pick girls up at the local cafe whilst they are having coffee
20 ReplyCoffee if it's for more like a casual date to know each other. Dinner for when we get closer.
20 ReplyCoffee obviously, why waste money on a stranger?
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1 yDinner, I use coffee professionally
20 Reply 643 opinions shared on Dating topic. I prefer dinner.
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1 yCoffee dates minus the coffee as such ☕👀😋
10 Reply307 opinions shared on Dating topic. Movie date? Followed by lunch?
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1 yThe first date is always just for coffee, followed by the customary BJ in the car.
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1 yBoth are great ideas. 😊
10 Reply 340 opinions shared on Dating topic. I don't drink coffee. So diner dates.
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1 yfirst date: coffee
Second date: dinner10 Reply None.
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