Coffee dates or dinner dates? Ladies, which do you prefer? Guys, which do you prefer to take a lady out for a date? Why?

[Pinay_ako]

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For first dates?

[LostandFound__x]

I know a lot of women say coffee dates are bad but I don’t think they necessarily are and here’s my take.

if I’ve been speaking to someone for a fair amount of time or I already know them, then a dinner date would be good. We’ve established there’s interest, we know each other, and a dinner date would show me how much he’s willing to invest into me and the relationship.

if I don’t know someone at all and he just randomly asked me out I’d say a coffee date is fine. That way we can focus more on talking and getting to know each other and things would be less awkward. I wouldn’t expect him to invest so much into me when he doesn’t know me. I could be a terrible woman or a gold digger haha. If things go well then a dinner date should be arranged.

[LostandFound__x]

Wow flattered (and relieved) so many agree with me haha.

[handsomelad70]

Coffee date for the icebreaker and if she's into you, proceed to the more intimate dinner date.

[Rei13]

I liked coffee dates personally. There is a lot less pressure and you’re not shoving food in your face with someone you just met. You’re able to just sit in the shop and talk, or you’re able to walk and talk to get to know each other. If it goes well then maybe go for dinner or something else

[RebelinSteel]

It does not really matter, it’s about having some place you can both relax and spend quality time with each other. It’s about relaxing in each others company, forming an emotional connection. A nice traditional afternoon tea can be really lovely as a date.
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[DrPepper12]

Coffee. At a book store. After wandering and talking. You can learn everything you need to know about a person by wandering n chatting in a bookstore.

[DreamCrescent]

there you go

[coachTanthony]

If you haven't vetted her properly then go for coffee and do your homework. If you have then for Christ sake take her to a nice place.

[Pinay_ako]

Amen to this

[dolemite58]

When did coffee dates become something guys actually agree to? When I was coming up it was an attention grab girls would try to set up with guys they weren’t really interested in.

[motownplayer2000]

lol it’s not a preference for me.. if I’m dating I’m taking a girl on a “free” date.. walk on the beach, bring some snacks just to sit around or walk around and actually get to know each other.. I wouldn’t do either.. and I’m especially not doing dinner dates up til the 5th or 6th date.. this strategy helped me weed out the women that I know aren’t serious.
Women say they want to get to know a man, yet want to be provided for without any commitment. This ensures that women have to look forward to provisioning and they will form a much stronger bond.


DISCLAIMER: if men are desperate to date anything that has boobs and an ass.. this strategy isn’t for you.. this is for men, like myself, who don’t have time to waste on women that are greedy and want to be treated like a queen when they haven’t proven themselves yet. If you as a man like to be used, disregard everything I said.

[andreasderjuengere]

Sadly, no one ever thinks of an ice cream date :)
Before I joined GaG, I didn't spend thoughts on "dating" - I just met girls I was interested in.
And we did what we felt like to do.
"Dating" the way it's expected nowadays looks like a ritual to me - one that I wasn't made for.

[DryGermanGuy]

Amen, mein Bruder. 🙏

[Pinay_ako]

I want ice cream date! I like that too. As long as it involves eating 🤣 count me in

[andreasderjuengere]

Choosing the flavour can be risky, though:
banana, chocolate or vanilla? :D

[Pinay_ako]

Lmaoooo all of them plus rocky road

[andreasderjuengere]

You're an adventurous lady, heh heh.

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 I like to try and most of the things you mentioned sound good to me

[DreamCrescent]

oh, i love this

[andreasderjuengere]

Looks like we have an ice cream orgy here :D

[IslaTheWitch]

I like short coffee meetings as a first approach to making a decision if what we want goes in the same direction. It removes the obligation for paying for anything as everyone pays for themselves. Some people need such meetings to voice statements they wouldn't say in different circumstances...

[LonerInLife]

Neither. I don’t drink coffee or any hot drinks. I’m not a restaurant type of girl either. I’ve worked behind the scenes of a restaurant and that alone was enough to turn me off ever eating at a restaurant

Maybe just a walk in the park date. Inexpensive and can watch the sunset as well.

[OfMiceandMen]

I am not a fan of the whole dinner date thing, just because the whole eating thing gets in the way. I don't mind if we go for a snack somewhere, but just something simple.

I am there to get to know the person and eating a big meal is not how you get to know someone.

[Mr_twoface]

When I used to date, the first date used to always be coffee related just to feel the vibe and to know if we clicked. It was to let go of tension, chill, laugh and enjoy ourselves. If we went on a second date, it wouldn't necessarily be dinner but a fun activity together such as bowling, cinema, whatever activity there was in that city. Maybe on the 3rd or 4th night we would do dinner.

[NathanDavis]

as a preference... I rather to cook for her or cook together, that's even better

her place, or mine...

if going out, a nice coffee place would be my preference, as they could offer so much more variety and extra (desserts) than I could get at my place, I'm not a fan of coffee, lol

[Dinklex3]

Mmm… I don’t drink coffee.. If I’m having tea I don’t want to just sit and talk either. I’d rather us go on a walk or something. To me, cafes are only for warming up real quick after walking on a date, or cooling off real quick after walking on a date. Pit stops no longer than 30 mins.

So if I had to pick out of the two I guess dinner.

[dragoblack]

First date is always a coffee date at somewhere fun, like a gaming cafe that has board games to play while chatting.
Dinner date i usually have as a second date, because first date, if the date want's to go somewhere expensive, it's a major red flag. If, we can't vibe in a relaxed and fun atmosphere, we won't work out.

[Drew-1990]

Honestly I would do either. Personally my idea of a good first date is anything we can sit down and chat to get to know each other and then go do something fun as well.

[BadApple69]

This is an easy one for me…. I hate coffee but I love food. Simple choice…. Dinner date.
Plus coffee date can be too quick. It takes some time for my charm, quick wit and shockingly good looks to be fully recognized and appreciated 😊

[Pohjolan]

Coffee date is to confirm whether she is a catfish or not. Proper date comes after that unless if one already knows that she isn't a catfish.

[Pinay_ako]

Smart move

[Fuentes]

Take her home and penetrate is what I prefer

[Pinay_ako]

Lmaoooo here we go

[itsclearlynicholas]

From the front or from the back that is the question? And i ain't talking about the rear end 🕳️

[PBandJ_Nerd]

To me either one would work. You could even show them a place you love to eat if they're ok with just anywhere to eat. Then, they can do the same to you. It's a good way to learn about another person even if it's just as simple as food.

[Apple1996]

Neither. I'd rather do a fun activity. Any type of eating/drinking on the first date is crazy weird.

[itsclearlynicholas]

What had you done in your earlier 20s then as fun activities? Bowling? 🎳 Golf? ⛳

[BBFDancer]

• The first date should always be a coffee date. just to get to know each other first. (If you women approach us first. We might skip the coffee date and the lunch date.)
• The second date be a lunch date.
• The Third date dinner date.

[AmyHew1tt]

I don't drink coffee, much less from a Starbucks or coffee shop or anything, and I don't eat out either. So I'd chose a walk date. Or maybe tea.

[skidawgkc22]

First date? Coffee shop. It's much more casual than a dinner date and if something goes wrong at least you'll have an inexpensive good time.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Always a dinner date over coffee.. For one I don't drink coffee, and two a dinner date is more intimate and gives more of a chance to talk!