Coffee dates or dinner dates? Ladies, which do you prefer? Guys, which do you prefer to take a lady out for a date? Why?

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LostandFound__x · Accepted Answer

I know a lot of women say coffee dates are bad but I don’t think they necessarily are and here’s my take.

if I’ve been speaking to someone for a fair amount of time or I already know them, then a dinner date would be good. We’ve established there’s interest, we know each other, and a dinner date would show me how much he’s willing to invest into me and the relationship.

if I don’t know someone at all and he just randomly asked me out I’d say a coffee date is fine. That way we can focus more on talking and getting to know each other and things would be less awkward. I wouldn’t expect him to invest so much into me when he doesn’t know me. I could be a terrible woman or a gold digger haha. If things go well then a dinner date should be arranged.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

I liked coffee dates personally. There is a lot less pressure and you’re not shoving food in your face with someone you just met. You’re able to just sit in the shop and talk, or you’re able to walk and talk to get to know each other. If it goes well then maybe go for dinner or something else

RebelinSteel · Accepted Answer

It does not really matter, it’s about having some place you can both relax and spend quality time with each other. It’s about relaxing in each others company, forming an emotional connection. A nice traditional afternoon tea can be really lovely as a date.
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DrPepper12 · Accepted Answer

Coffee. At a book store. After wandering and talking. You can learn everything you need to know about a person by wandering n chatting in a bookstore.

coachTanthony · Answer

If you haven't vetted her properly then go for coffee and do your homework. If you have then for Christ sake take her to a nice place.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Sadly, no one ever thinks of an ice cream date :)
Before I joined GaG, I didn't spend thoughts on "dating" - I just met girls I was interested in.
And we did what we felt like to do.
"Dating" the way it's expected nowadays looks like a ritual to me - one that I wasn't made for.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

lol it’s not a preference for me.. if I’m dating I’m taking a girl on a “free” date.. walk on the beach, bring some snacks just to sit around or walk around and actually get to know each other.. I wouldn’t do either.. and I’m especially not doing dinner dates up til the 5th or 6th date.. this strategy helped me weed out the women that I know aren’t serious.
Women say they want to get to know a man, yet want to be provided for without any commitment. This ensures that women have to look forward to provisioning and they will form a much stronger bond.

DISCLAIMER: if men are desperate to date anything that has boobs and an ass.. this strategy isn’t for you.. this is for men, like myself, who don’t have time to waste on women that are greedy and want to be treated like a queen when they haven’t proven themselves yet. If you as a man like to be used, disregard everything I said.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I like short coffee meetings as a first approach to making a decision if what we want goes in the same direction. It removes the obligation for paying for anything as everyone pays for themselves. Some people need such meetings to voice statements they wouldn't say in different circumstances...

LonerInLife · Answer

Neither. I don’t drink coffee or any hot drinks. I’m not a restaurant type of girl either. I’ve worked behind the scenes of a restaurant and that alone was enough to turn me off ever eating at a restaurant

Maybe just a walk in the park date. Inexpensive and can watch the sunset as well.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I am not a fan of the whole dinner date thing, just because the whole eating thing gets in the way. I don't mind if we go for a snack somewhere, but just something simple.

I am there to get to know the person and eating a big meal is not how you get to know someone.

Mr_twoface · Answer

When I used to date, the first date used to always be coffee related just to feel the vibe and to know if we clicked. It was to let go of tension, chill, laugh and enjoy ourselves. If we went on a second date, it wouldn't necessarily be dinner but a fun activity together such as bowling, cinema, whatever activity there was in that city. Maybe on the 3rd or 4th night we would do dinner.

NathanDavis · Answer

as a preference... I rather to cook for her or cook together, that's even better

her place, or mine...

if going out, a nice coffee place would be my preference, as they could offer so much more variety and extra (desserts) than I could get at my place, I'm not a fan of coffee, lol

Dinklex3 · Answer

Mmm… I don’t drink coffee.. If I’m having tea I don’t want to just sit and talk either. I’d rather us go on a walk or something. To me, cafes are only for warming up real quick after walking on a date, or cooling off real quick after walking on a date. Pit stops no longer than 30 mins.

So if I had to pick out of the two I guess dinner.

dragoblack · Answer

First date is always a coffee date at somewhere fun, like a gaming cafe that has board games to play while chatting.
Dinner date i usually have as a second date, because first date, if the date want's to go somewhere expensive, it's a major red flag. If, we can't vibe in a relaxed and fun atmosphere, we won't work out.

Drew-1990 · Answer

Honestly I would do either. Personally my idea of a good first date is anything we can sit down and chat to get to know each other and then go do something fun as well.

BadApple69 · Answer

This is an easy one for me…. I hate coffee but I love food. Simple choice…. Dinner date.
Plus coffee date can be too quick. It takes some time for my charm, quick wit and shockingly good looks to be fully recognized and appreciated 😊

Fuentes · Answer

Take her home and penetrate is what I prefer

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

To me either one would work. You could even show them a place you love to eat if they're ok with just anywhere to eat. Then, they can do the same to you. It's a good way to learn about another person even if it's just as simple as food.

Pohjolan · Answer

Coffee date is to confirm whether she is a catfish or not. Proper date comes after that unless if one already knows that she isn't a catfish.

Apple1996 · Answer

Neither. I'd rather do a fun activity. Any type of eating/drinking on the first date is crazy weird.

BBFDancer · Answer

The first date should always be a coffee date. just to get to know each other first. (If you women approach us first. We might skip the coffee date and the lunch date.) The second date be a lunch date. The Third date dinner date.

AmyHew1tt · Answer

I don't drink coffee, much less from a Starbucks or coffee shop or anything, and I don't eat out either. So I'd chose a walk date. Or maybe tea.

skidawgkc22 · Answer

First date? Coffee shop. It's much more casual than a dinner date and if something goes wrong at least you'll have an inexpensive good time.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Always a dinner date over coffee.. For one I don't drink coffee, and two a dinner date is more intimate and gives more of a chance to talk!

musicbrain5 · Answer

I think first dates should always be coffee/tea/snacks, etc. Super cheap, public, and it’s easy to talk to each other.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

dinner, but literally somewhere cheap. i don't drink coffee/tea so food is definitely going to be needed XD

Iron_Man · Answer

Dinner dates coffee is really cheap date that’s something you do when you already know somebody and you’re already together and you just want to hang out somewhere and it’s between lunch and dinner

Batsy01010101 · Answer

Depends if it's an initial coffee date meeting or if it's past the initial coffee date meeting. If it's past it then dinner where the guy pays the first initial dinner date then after the couple can split the check

shortster · Answer

Coffee is less stressful; but I don't like coffee. So, I generally go with the dinner date.

dolemite58 · Answer

Getting pizza and beer together is my ideal date

MrPickles13 · Answer

I think coffee is better it just seems a lot lower key and easier to get to know someone it's overall more relaxed atmosphere it feels. Ideal way to see if you would like to go for dinner at another point.

Babygirliiw · Answer

Dinner sounds so serious. Just let’s do something fun in the daytime or something.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Neither. I prefer to not go on dates. I prefer to stay single and at home with my cat where I’m actually happy

LiamJHayden · Answer

First meet up, maybe second, I am not spending a lot. If she makes it past that, then we go somewhere decent.

douride2 · Answer

If we are just getting to know each other a coffee date is fine with me. If it's a dinner date I always pay my own way.

nawtee_me · Answer

there is not enough time on a coffee date to get to know them. Save that for once you know each other and as something different to keep change in the picture.

bolverk · Answer

These days I'd go for a Coffee dates to start, and then progress to dinner dates if we are compatible.

JHAYES317 · Answer

Coffee date. Dinner dates are too expensive and if the date isn’t going well you can’t leave very easily

Dnice1 · Answer

For I'd love a diner date over a coffee date. I live near a diner with good food, good music and great hospitality. They are also cheaper than a fancy dinner date.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Coffee shop for a first date, unless I've known her for awhile.

JayBones2469 · Answer

I don't drink coffee and I only eat to live. Fat girls eat for fun. Pass. Hard pass.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Dinner dates because they are much more romantic and personal.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Usually dinner but honestly I think coffee might be better for first date type situations

Jerre · Answer

I like dinner dates much better. Gives me lots of time to talk with her, get to know her

msc545 · Answer

Dinner dates. A coffee date is like a job interview and it's really awkward.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Well I like to eat so I'll take a dinner date over a coffee date any day. What about you?

RavVid · Answer

Well I prefer to pick girls up at the local cafe whilst they are having coffee

hotake · Answer

Coffee if it's for more like a casual date to know each other. Dinner for when we get closer.

Harshbro · Answer

Coffee obviously, why waste money on a stranger?

jamesgoldman · Answer

Dinner, I use coffee professionally

soe11 · Answer

I prefer dinner.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Coffee dates minus the coffee as such ☕👀😋

AlexEfron · Answer

Movie date? Followed by lunch?

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

The first date is always just for coffee, followed by the customary BJ in the car.

Booklover_90 · Answer

Both are great ideas. 😊

Nifrayu · Answer

I don't drink coffee. So diner dates.

OtterMan68 · Answer

first date: coffee Second date: dinner

mayurr · Answer

None.

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

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