Me And my boyfriend we’re together from October, he was working from 9 am to 5 and I work from 9 am to 5 , in November he found another job with good salary, but from 2 pm to 11 pm and now we don’t have time to texts and calls , he texts me good morning and he calls me at 11:45 pm to check on me and we talk for an hour sometimes he doesn’t call me at all because he stays at the office , and we go out on dates only on Sundays , he doesn’t have time , at the beginning everything was good I was patient, but now I feel like he doesn’t give me much time that I want even I know he’s really busy , but I don’t know, we talked about this , and he said that he’s doing his best, and he’s always stressed in his job , I don’t know what to do, we love each other and everything, but I miss him all the time
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So what do you think should I do?
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Because I really love him and ofc I’m gonna support it’s just I want more time with him
The worlds broken right now, we have two 'ideologies' of Capitalism and Communism that have both devolved into systems of power, influence and control over others for the benefit of a select few usually whos ancestors where responsible for war's, genocide, piracy or other way of seizing controls of others to lessen or remove their own burden.
Okay, so that's the bad stuff. The good stuff is, you've found someone you love and loves you. He's working hard right now, and, I would need to presume he's working for both your sakes (to build a better life). The amounts of time you have together are more precious for their rarity and as long as your guy is playing straight with you (aka this really is his time he has to share) then missing him is just a part of love in the modern world.
Now, what is truly important here is how he deals with you when you communicate your frustration with him not having enough time together. If he shows a distress at this and trys his best to organise more time together then that shows he's prioritsing you on two levels, on the level of providing for you both, bettering himself and caring to find time for you. You can reflect back that you value the time you have and you should talk together in the days you share how you might both find more time.
It's obvious you should both be talking here about finding work that better supports you spending time together.
In the end, this is a lovely first world problem. It's a luxury in the current age where so many are stuggling just to find food every day in so called "first world" countries that have lost the understanding of community care replaced with capitalist presumption and assumption that others unable to feed themselve are maybe lazy or unfit (rather than caring how they can help and give people chances with what they have). Though in fairness, nearly everyone is struggling on some level and whilst the overt rich are like I described, there are a groundswell of decent people just trying their best and helping whom they can with their small ability to.
Let him know you miss him and communicate your should work together to figure out how you can share more of your time.
My advice is always to communicate feelings and try to figure together how to make things better. Though within that, need to understand he's not wasting the time he's not getting to spend with you and hopefully buying you more time together in the longer run with his efforts.
At the end of the day he needs to have the best job that works for him. In the most amount of cases possible. I would imagine his job pays well, and he said he’s at his best. He’s probably stressed because he might have a lot of responsibilities.
You, as his girlfriend needs to support him. If this is SUCH a problem for you to where you cannot even support and accept his situation? Then this relationship is over.
Like I said. There is nothing you can do to change the circumstances. All you can do is accept that your time with him will remain the way it currently is as long as he has this job.
I won’t say it again. If you’re really that needy to the point that you’re not happy because he’s spending more time at work than with you, then you should reconsider your relationship.
Lastly I’ll say you need to grow up. He’s doing what a man needs to do. I’m sure you want to be in a relationship with a man, not a boy. Yet you want a man to have the schedule of a boy. And that doesn’t exist.
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The worlds broken right now, we have two 'ideologies' of Capitalism and Communism that have both devolved into systems of power, influence and control over others for the benefit of a select few usually whos ancestors where responsible for war's, genocide, piracy or other way of seizing controls of others to lessen or remove their own burden.
Okay, so that's the bad stuff. The good stuff is, you've found someone you love and loves you. He's working hard right now, and, I would need to presume he's working for both your sakes (to build a better life). The amounts of time you have together are more precious for their rarity and as long as your guy is playing straight with you (aka this really is his time he has to share) then missing him is just a part of love in the modern world.
Now, what is truly important here is how he deals with you when you communicate your frustration with him not having enough time together. If he shows a distress at this and trys his best to organise more time together then that shows he's prioritsing you on two levels, on the level of providing for you both, bettering himself and caring to find time for you. You can reflect back that you value the time you have and you should talk together in the days you share how you might both find more time.
It's obvious you should both be talking here about finding work that better supports you spending time together.
In the end, this is a lovely first world problem. It's a luxury in the current age where so many are stuggling just to find food every day in so called "first world" countries that have lost the understanding of community care replaced with capitalist presumption and assumption that others unable to feed themselve are maybe lazy or unfit (rather than caring how they can help and give people chances with what they have). Though in fairness, nearly everyone is struggling on some level and whilst the overt rich are like I described, there are a groundswell of decent people just trying their best and helping whom they can with their small ability to.
What’s your best advice to me in this situation?
Let him know you miss him and communicate your should work together to figure out how you can share more of your time.
My advice is always to communicate feelings and try to figure together how to make things better. Though within that, need to understand he's not wasting the time he's not getting to spend with you and hopefully buying you more time together in the longer run with his efforts.
You sound like a brat.
At the end of the day he needs to have the best job that works for him. In the most amount of cases possible. I would imagine his job pays well, and he said he’s at his best. He’s probably stressed because he might have a lot of responsibilities.
You, as his girlfriend needs to support him. If this is SUCH a problem for you to where you cannot even support and accept his situation? Then this relationship is over.
Actually I don’t know, so you think I’m the problem?
You aren’t “the problem” you just need to read the room.
Your behavior needs to change. And if that can’t happen then your relationship is done.
What do you think should I do?
I love him and I don’t want to break up with him , it’s just I need more time with him
Like I said. There is nothing you can do to change the circumstances. All you can do is accept that your time with him will remain the way it currently is as long as he has this job.
I won’t say it again. If you’re really that needy to the point that you’re not happy because he’s spending more time at work than with you, then you should reconsider your relationship.
Lastly I’ll say you need to grow up. He’s doing what a man needs to do. I’m sure you want to be in a relationship with a man, not a boy. Yet you want a man to have the schedule of a boy. And that doesn’t exist.
Actually you’re right, thank you so much, I needed to hear this ❤️
Yeah. No problem. Good luck