Is she seeking attention, interested or not interested?

[Anonymous]

Met a girl a few weeks ago and she asked me to go to the bar with her. We talked for hours and had a good time. Couple days later I asked her out and she completely changed the subject and we didn't text much after that. My first thought was she isn't interested. Now a week goes by and she's asking me to see a show with her this weeked. (I haven't responded yet). Any thoughts?

[Oliverlogan263]

It's kind of hard to say for sure man, girls can be confusing sometimes. A few things could be happening:

- She might have just been looking for attention that first night at the bar and changed her mind about dating after. Some girls are like that.

- Or she could have gotten cold feet after you directly asked her out, but is now interested again. Maybe she just wanted to take it slower.

- It's possible she was talking to other guys too and things didn't work out with one of them so now she's circling back to you.

My advice would be, if you had a good time with her at the bar, go to the show but don't get your hopes up too high yet. See how it goes - does she seem actually interested in you or still lukewarm? Pay attention to her vibes.

If she's really engaging with you and flirty, cool. But if she's on her phone a lot or doesn't seem that into it, I'd bail. Don't waste your time chasing a girl who's just playing games, you know? Keep your options open too in case it doesn't work out with her. Good luck man, hope it goes well!

[SueShe]

From her behavior, I believe that she is more that type that seeks company rather than to be interested.

You probably settled more than half the share of drinks at the bar and that is what she wanted. Next time when you asked her out, she was either busy or not in the mood to go out.

I personally would not go to the show, simply because I believe that she is going to use you as a personal wallet to settle for her expenses. Make it clear to her that you are not interested in that type of arrangement.

Finally, what is your personal interest in all that? Are you hoping to get into her pants in the future? If that is your ultimate aim, then don't respond to her.

[Asker]

She actually bought me a drink that night. But no we actually have a lot in common and i enjoyed her company. Same music taste, same Movies, tv shows, even the same video games.

[Asker]

its the fact she brushed my date question off is why i think im being used for attention or something else.

[SueShe]

Could very well be that she is playing hard to get but I don't know much. Did she tell you if she was in a relationship. If she said no, that does not mean that she is not. I would wait a day or 2 to answer her.

[Asker]

She is not in a relationship, she said she was divorced.

[SueShe]

Then she plays hard to get or mildly interested. She may just need company because she has nobody else to go to the show.

[Asker]

ty for your opinion by the way :) always helpful to hear anothers opinion. I honestly think she just wants company which is not what im looking for.

[Asker]

was also thinking that as well lol. Not a fan when women that do this lol

[SueShe]

No, you are just like a substitute, someone to fill an empty space.

[Iron_Man]

Why don’t you ask her face-to-face?

[Anonymous]

Texting fail #1,938, 944, 926

[Asker]

Right because were all supposed to be expert texters? lol how about you enlighten me oh wise one instead of just saying i failed...