Is that good to cause a sense of safety and peace in the opposite sex?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

So, I was told multiple times that those are the feelings I cause, both by friends and the men, I’ve dated.

My ex told me the same thing on our first date, he said he was super nervous on our first date and that I had a calming and a soothing effect on him.

I don’t want to be causing comfort and security though, I wonder is that even good?

Maybe it would be better for me to keep them on their toes?

[DJB72]

Maybe it's not a bad thing if guys feel comfortable with you. Perhaps it's not a bad thing. Guys tend to open up more and relax. That's when we're able to talk at a deeper level to you. More importantly, it's when we're more likely to be completely honest about who we are.

For me it's very rare that anyone makes me feel safe early in the friendship, never mind an intimate relationship. I was friends with each of my relationships before we dated. And I still held back.

Creating a feeling of peace and safety is a gift. Don't try to lose it.

[NathanDavis]

I've heard that a few times from girls... that might feel "intimidated" by me, at first... so yes, it's a great thing for them... but has not happened during dates, moreso in the friendly situations, or what people here call the "talking stage" lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yeah, I don’t know that talking stage, for me, everything is date, that is date, but dating is not a relationship for me.

I think over here it’s different.

I might go out with tons of people, I guess that is what you guys call talking stage over there

[NathanDavis]

to be honest... I am confused too, lmao

whether we go out, hang out... or it is a casual chat, I do consider it getting to know each other... but we're not in a relationship, yet, anyway...

over the years, I've learned to approach and to "carry myself" around the girls that I know can feel nervous or intimidated around, because they might be too shy, or introverts or just not experienced, lol so I've learned how to make them feel more at ease, and it is a wonderful thing to see... once they feel comfortable enough to be more of themselves

[Sirenboobzilla]

I'd say it's great. Emotional safety can be hard to come by. So you having that vibe is a big deal.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'd say yes. It means they're comfortable enough to be around you.

[Twalli]

If someone is calm and feels safe with you, they'll open up. If a guy is willing to open up to you sooner, then you'll see where the relationship is leading. That's a good thing.

[msc545]

People will treat you better if you treat them well and help them to feel safe and secure.

[Cheapskate]

I would say that is obviously good. Not so "femme fatale", I guess...

[MicahRaine]

It's a very good thing. in my opinion, guys usually don't feel safe, so we LOVE it when we find someone who makes us feel safe

[Grond21]

We want to relax with our partners. No one seeking a healthy relationship wants the opposite of peace

[Rangers]

Of course, they should feel safe and comfortable around them. Which is usually a problem for me, since I have a resting bitch face

[Anonymous]

Best way for a woman to KEEP a man is if she is his peace… bring drama will attract little boys. But they will grow up to be men and when they do. They will end up wanting peace. You can learn that the easy way or the hard way. Lol

[RedInnocent69]

Safety and peace might not lead to overwhelming passion out of the gate, but that next-level intimacy can lead to mind-blowing sex.

[zagor]

A lot better than causing a feeling of fear and apprehension.

[elaphe]

Of course it is good. Who doesn't want to feel safe?

[KrakenAttackin]

Good grief. Another "I am so amazing" post.

[laly520]

yes

its good

[itsclearlynicholas]

Uhh. I guess so. I guess, so 😃

[Jennz6]

Absolutely 💯 agree

[Agape93]

Absolutely

[sawno]

Absolutely