Is it ok to have friends of the opposite sex while being in a relationship?

[Queenjaileenxo]

[AydenHazor]

If you have friends of the opposite sex when not in a relationship I would expect you to maintain your friendships while in a relationship. If you drop all your friends of the opposite sex every time you enter into a relationship, did you ever see them as friends in the first place or only as prospective partners? I have many friends of the opposite sex, some single, some dating, some married, and we have great friendships regardless of their relationship status because we are actually friends and have established our friendships on (platonic) love and respect for each other.

[Twalli]

So true. I am actually interested in dating one of my female friends, but that feeling evolved over time. We were already friends before that. It happened with another friend too, but we're now dating. Regardless, the friendship was formed without romantic interests.

[Lionman95]

I think it depends on your partner and how their relationship to your partner is. For me that´s something to consider because I´ve been in contact with people that purposely tried to befriend people of the other sex and destroy the relationships of those people.
So I would say it´s something both partners should talk about. Generally speaking I´m not very fond of it because I think the risk is high that it damages the relationship

[Aerissa_Jade]

Absolutely as I am not going to just block or ghost all my friends. That would make me a terrible friend. Someone that wants you to get rid of all your friends is controlling and abusive.

[KittyKat90210]

Yes, it's fine. Just don't hide those friendships from your partner or they could think there's more to them

[Twalli]

Yes, depending on how you make friends. Friends of the same sex generally come from shared interests. If you do the same for friends of the opposite sex it's fine. A lot of people only befriend those of the opposite sex if they want to fuck them. If that's the case, then you shouldn't have those friendships. I only want to fuck one of my female friends, but we became friends before I was considering it, so we are still friends

[boggboss]

I would say that's fine the only issue is people don't know how to act with friends these days and cross so many boundaries

[spartan55]

To me it's just asking for trouble. I wouldn't ever have more than arms length friendship with a woman anyway.

[MissHope]

It’s okay as long as you both know your limits and would never cross the red line you both draw for each other.

[Phoenix98]

As long as that’s all they are then it’s fine.

i wouldn’t expect nor ask someone to drop their friends of the opposite sex anyway.

[LiamJHayden]

Well, I'm not ditching people who've had my back since before kindergarten because some girl I just met doesn't like it, so either she accepts it or I move on.

[Bklynbadboy12]

No cause things happen especially if there's a mutual attraction

[Bklynbadboy12]

Do you have guy friends

[Queenjaileenxo]

I do but only one he is in a relationship now but to be honest he had a crush on me back in 2015 and i can feel it in my guts and in the air he is still interested me im noticing he is finding excuses to be around me.

[Queenjaileenxo]

When i go visit my female friend who are also friends

[Bklynbadboy12]

I can never have a friend that's a girl we always end up fucking

[Queenjaileenxo]

Exactly you do see my point of view then

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes I do so has that happened to you

[Makeushiver]

It would be fine with me but I'd be always pushing for benefits

[AimeeKyle]

Sure, as long as you have boundaries and keep it friends.

[TotallyAlmost]

I think it's a good test of the relationship actually.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Only lunatic fools believe men and women can be friends.

[DancingQueen16]

Yeah because me and my boyfriend are friends with people of the opposite gender

[AsaKyo]

If boundaries are set, then there's really no issue

[Paul09]

It should be. But people make it weird, for some reason.. I have some. But most are married to my friends.

[Iron_Man]

That’s nothing but trouble

[Iron_Man]

The stories I’ve heard over the years and on this site
have been nothing but trouble the way they described it

[Queenjaileenxo]

Especially if their has been someone liking a friend from years ago but are now in a relationship but they find any excuse to be around and their is so much tension energy between the two people one is single and the other one is in a relationship

[Iron_Man]

It turns into the back up quarterback

[Queenjaileenxo]

What do you mean by that?

[Iron_Man]

The friend is the back up plan like the NFL in football 🏈 the back up quarterback can come into the game at any time and start

[Queenjaileenxo]

But if that's the case then the person doesn't want to truly be in that relationship.

[Iron_Man]

Sometimes the girl doesn’t even realize it, but the guys there for the taking and plants seeds into her head the brainwashing of the girl against the boyfriend

[Queenjaileenxo]

Makes sense

[Iron_Man]

In most cases lNo matter what the male or female friend always agrees with him or her and always backs him or her and says you’re right how could he even do this when it’s obvious that it’s him or her fault but not the boyfriend and the guy puts his words in and says I would never treat you like that. I’m always here for you, etc. etc.. a real fair judgment is if somebody that shoots straight down the middle, and tells it like it is no matter whose fault it is. These are just examples. I’ve been helping people out for a long time I’m basically like a psychologist unpaid.

[Iron_Man]

Thanks

[Blackcupcake]

yes there’s nothing wrong with that

[Anonymous]

Yes, it is called normal, but some guys are not happy with that.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Yes, it's just friendship.

[SnowedIn]

More than okay; it's necessary.

[Queenjaileenxo]

Of the opposite sex why

[SnowedIn]

I believe -- strongly -- that every human needs friends, usually multiple friends, and that we have to have some from each gender. Men and women are different and the conversations and interactions and friend relationships are different and nurture and build us and sustain us in different ways.

I believe that if a couple can't have friends of the opposite sex, there's problems on several levels.

[Anonymous]

Common sense applies.