Is it okay if your girlfriend / boyfriend has a close friend from the opposite sex?

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They chat for hours.. They can tell each other secrets.. They have chemistry and know how to lift each other emotionally.. How to entertain each other... but they don't go out together... Alone... not Without your permission / approval at least... and of course they don't do any inappropriate physical stuff... would you be okay with that? Do you think it would " blossom" over time?

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

That’s absolutely okay. I’ve had male friends for years, and if I’m going to catch feelings for someone, it happens fast. I’ve had my male friends for years. If something was going to “blossom”, it would’ve happened within a few months of knowing them. So they’re in the friend zone for good, lol. My boyfriend also has a female friend and it’s very easy to tell that nothing will happen romantically or sexually between them.

Sasha0426 · Accepted Answer

You know how exhausting it is to be friends with only the same gender? Women will stab you in the back. Thing is we’re social creatures and we can be friends with a variety of people. You just have to be careful on who you’re friends with and, yes, set boundaries.

B0nerD0nor · Accepted Answer

One of my best friends is a female I’ve been friends with for 25+ years. Nothing romantic or sexual about it. We have always just clicked as friends.
My wife and her husband are good with it. Go out together as couples and also just us occasionally.
You either trust your partner or you don’t.

AdithyaR · Accepted Answer

Honestly this whole can't be friends with the opposite gender thing is stupid.
Cause by that logic, a bi or pansexual person can't have any friends at all.
As long there's healthy boundaries and understanding this is honestly an ideal situation.

HighValue · Answer

It is not appropriate for people to make NEW opposite gender friends when they are in a relationship.

If they were friends for years before the relationship, including while they were both single and were never interested in each other and don't hang out one on one and are not touchy feely with each other, then it shouldn't be a problem.

Labokachulaa · Answer

It depends on how they're raised, some people this is possible, but for lots of others there isn't. I've watched these "friendships" ruin marriages and destroy households. Some people don't know how to be just friends.

Twalli · Answer

Not at all. She has a life that doesn't involve me. I made sure of that. I wouldn't date anyone who didn't. I didn't think our relationship would work out (most don't). The fact that it is, doesn't mean that now I want to change who she's friends with.

fonduegirl · Answer

Sounds fine to me. If you feel so threatened, you either exit this relationship or try to have double dates or group hangout with them. If they resist, there might be something going 👀

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Depends on whether he actually fancies her and sees her as a potential partner or not. I don't mean the simple "I'd fuck her If she offers because" but deeper feelings.

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

It's ok if you want to get replaced. Both men and women keep around "friends" as backup plans or emotional support cushions. Women tend to do it more than men. A girl usually has 3-4 guys in her friend zone just drooling for a chance to bed her. If you don't want your replacement to already be lined up, then it is no ok for your girlfriend to have a close friend of the opposite sex. If she won't make you her one and only, then she only belongs one place.

Tracker1958 · Answer

If she does, I dump her and not even talk to her about it. Not going to make choose between him or me. Take that choice away from her.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

It is ok. Sometimes people are had just been close friends with anyone before they even engage in a relationship. Chances are they may just view each other as like a sibling. And it doesn't matter what gender it is. Male and male, female and female, male and female can be close friends.

SnowedIn · Answer

Total fine. I don't "allow" her to do anything or tell her what she can and cannot do. We're both adults. We both need friends; their gender is not relevant. I trust her and she's an adult.

dustybiker · Answer

Go to youtube and find people who have already done it. See which countries they visit and share that you like.

Juxtapose · Answer

It is a threat to the relationship absolutely but it is also a wonderful test. Close friends of your lover will do a great job of trying to poach them and testing your lover's loyalty.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

She can do whatever she wants, but if she does this, cya

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Sure. If they made a new friend, maybe I'd be wary. But my other half has had a few male friends for years, mostly gay, I don't have any issues at all with it. I trust her 100%

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

It is absolutely ok. My best friend, for the last 14 years, has been a guy. So it'd be pretty hypocritical of me to limit my boyfriend in the same way

Anonymous · Answer

My fella is a high quality man that a lot of other women would give their right arm to be with so no it's not OK. I've had hyenas sniffing around Mt man before.

In_Trance · Answer

No it isn't

LiamJHayden · Answer

I hope so, because I have several friends with whom I went to K-12. We are family,. But if I get serious with someone, she will meet and get to see that it is like brothers and sisters so not really worried.

BJP21 · Answer

I'd be ok with it knowingly they have no romantic interest in each other.

Midgetmcwidget · Answer

I was all for it but recently my friends have been making moves and it's awkward.

Looksnicholas · Answer

I couldn't tolerate that personally, but that's why I'm single , 🙂🙂

exitseven · Answer

If they didn't used to date and never had sex I could deal with it.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I'm not the jealous type so, it wouldn't bother me.

bean2k21 · Answer

As long as she thinks of her Lord and Master bean2k21 when she orgasms.

DancingQueen16 · Answer

Sure my boyfriend is friends with other girls and I'm fine with that

SlavicThor · Answer

Sure doesn't bother me. It would only bother me if she was spending more time with them more than me

Marica70 · Answer

Nope… hell no… no way…. Unless one of them is grotesquely disfigured hahahaha

Spiritofn · Answer

Nope but she’s been a bitch a few times that’s forsure… Drop kick her in the pussy.

OddBeMe · Answer

What do you expect her to do? Stop talking to everyone of your gender?

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah but then I have close acquaintances of the opposing gender so to me that's quite normal

trina_x · Answer

its fine

Agape93 · Answer

Of course that's ok

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