is not like it is POSSIBLE to avoid the opposite sex altogether, and you certainly should not be ending all your friendships with the opposite sex, I am FAIR and consistent, so I behave in the EXACT way I would want my girl to behave:
* I have a lot of friends and most are girls, my BEST friend is a girl, and I truly am a good friend, we got each others backs and we have real interest in each others happiness, and I would not like my girl to turn her back on her friends and you bet I would not turn my back on mine.
* My female friends will usually say hi with a big hug and a loud kiss, but respecting my girl they all avoid doing that unless I'm single, they will be warm while saying hi, small hug but nothing to make my girl insecure, I would not be like "hey, don't hugh him" even if she was too efusive with her male friends, but if I'm polite and respectful I would like them to do the same, or to accept it with no complains if my friends are too efusive.
* my best friend usually would hug me like this link (and yes, nothing sexual about it, we just friends) but SURE, when in a relationship this kind of hug is a big NO.
* if I have friends who are "interested in something more" then yes, I try keeping distance, but anyway, I'm not one to give false hopes to girls, so I won't be flirty or engaging in teases or stuff like that. but I will do it so even while not dating.
* now those who are not friends, I would never start a flirting whit random girls when I have a girlfriend, if they start it, one honestly feels flatered and I would probably smile back, once one girl gave me her number (pure attraction, not one word), it feels nice yes, but sure I did NOT call, and got rid of the number and with the number the temtation (she was hot actually but I really did not feel that tempted, I love MY girl), the manager of my bank is always flirty, and she is cute, and I never have to stand in a line :P I would chat with her, smile yes, but nothing more.
* I will spend time with my friends, not with the manager of my bank (outside the bank) for instance, just FRIENDS, still, my best friend and I usually hang out just the 2 of us, but I avoid it altogether when I'm dating, we will hang out in a GROUP of friends, or for instance, once she asked me to help her buy a book, we went downtown together, but is not the same as "we just spent the afternoon at her bedroom watching movies" (as we would if none of us is dating), NOT because there is something going on between us, but because we don't want people wondering, if my girl asks "what will you do today?", "being alone with my female friend in her bedroom" is not an answer she would like to hear, so, in order to be able to be HONEST I would avoid doing it, IF I'm alone with a girl it would be in a public place, CLEAR conscience :)
If you'd like to talk/hangout with the opposite sex and your significant other says that they don't care who you hang out with then it's certainly OK. Actually, when a person gets into a relationship that shouldn't mean they automatically have to stop noticing/talking to any other person of the opposite sex or have to start being overly careful that they're never seen alone with one. It's really no one else's business who you hang out with and talk with because it's your life, and if you like doing that then it's just fine, and if your in a relationship and your s/o says it's OK, then it's double OK so there's no reason you should have to hold back. My girlfriend does and it's just fine. We totally trust each other, and if we didn't we shouldn't be in a relationship. It'd be kinda ridiculous if a person had to isolate him/herself just because they're in a relationship. That would mean that the jealous partner in the relationship sure must have serious insecurity problems.
you're kidding me? Of course it's okay to be friends with someone of the opposite sex when you're in a relationship. You can't just say, "Hey, John, I'm in a relationship now, so I'm done talking to you and hanging out with you until I break up with this one guy, kay?"
if your man tells you otherwise, he's clingy, jealous, and wayyy over-protective and doesn't trust you. Dump him.
I don't think I would like my boyfriend hanging out with another girl, not because I don't trust him but because I probably wouldn't trust that girl. I've only hung out one on one with another girl when I've had to, like when I couldn't get home from somewhere so I stayed at their house for a while, or they came over to mine to download my music. Anything else and I'd feel weird too.
yes, as long as it is totally inoccent. it would be weird if it were just the two of you though
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I always try to get girls to hang out and none of them will do it cause they're afraid their boyfriend will get mad. People have always told me that it's best to hang out in a group if you want to hang out with a girl, but it's hard when I only have a small handful of friends to begin with. If you ask for my opinion, being all jealous and controlling over who your girlfriend or boyfriend hangs out with is just asking for trouble. I think it would make it even more likely they'll cheat. When you allow your s/o to hangout with their friends of opposite sex, it shows you trust them and respect them. Apparantly most guys don't think like that though.
Depends on a few different things. If you are hanging out at work or someplace like that then it is okay. If you are hanging out as a group socially it is okay. If you are making dates to hang out alone with the opposite sex, then I feel that is crossing the line. It isn't impossible for guys and girls to just remain friends, but it is more challenging.
If course it's okay. Half of my best friends are guys as if my boyfriend said it wasn't okay for me to hang out with some of my best friends then that relationship would never work.
I don't like it
1/2 the time the "friend" has feelings
1/4 the time your mate is probably emotionally cheating on you
Only 1/4 the time it's probably a legitament platonic friendship
just so long as you don't have sex with the opposite sex
Of cours,e it's okay.
No I get really jealous
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