How come I have never found love?

[Anonymous]

Has anyone else here never found it? Is it normal for someone to not find it? At what age should I just give up entirely?

[Lliam]

It's not unusual for someone your age.

I was in long-term, deeply infatuated relationships from the age of 16. But I didn't know what true love was. Infatuation isn't the same as love even though the feeling of infatuation is what people associate with love. Infatuation is what all the songs and romance movies are about.

I didn't want to get married and wasn't interested in having kids.

It wasn't until I was 36 and met a 30 year old that I fell truly in love. She loved me, too. We lived together for almost two years. Unfortunately, it turned out that we weren't destined to be life-long partners and separated for reasons that had nothing to do with cheating or anything mean. We still loved each other.

I met my (future) wife when I was 40. She's 2.5 years younger. We got married two years later. We've been happily married now for almost 27 years, had LOTS of fun, and built a wonderful life together.

So give it some time. As girls out. Go on dates. Get into some relationships.

[Anonymous]

Some people it falls into thier lap. Other people have to give everything in thier being to recieve it, still with no guarantee.

Look at it this way. You may have not found love. But you didn't find a woman who gave minimal effort, took half of everything you've ever earned, and left you high and dry.

In other words, It could always be worse.

[mbarsi01]

Well if you’re under 24 that is foolish to give up on love I have found it and lost it but that’s growing up

[mbarsi01]

So I guess I never found real love either but i remain optimistic

[Asker]

But I’ve never been in a relationship

[mbarsi01]

That’s not a bad thing I see my exes as a waste of time I could’ve spent looking for the right person. Best advice for you is internet meeting almost never work out you’ll meet somebody in person just go out to bars and whatever social spots

[mbarsi01]

Less pressure because they already seen you in person

[slatyb]

How many unrelated women do you greet by name?

[Asker]

Quite a few but most are coworkers

[slatyb]

Are you interested in any of them? What about outside work? You need to find a mixed group of people so you can get used to talking to women without hitting on them. Have you tried online dating? It worked well for me.

[Asker]

I only get matches if it’s a intentional dating app. Besides that tinder bumble and all the other local ones I get zero matches. And as for coworkers I did have a crush on one but she didn’t like me back and she eventually left that job. Besides her the rest are ether old enough to be my mom or young enough to put me in jail.

[slatyb]

So what do you do when you aren't working?

[Asker]

I work roughly 50 hours a week. Sometimes I hang with friends other times I just stay in bed