Girls, could you be alone forever and never have a boyfriend or have babies?

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I’m going to be 27 and I will never have a boyfriend, I will never get married and have babies,  my dream was live together with a boy and have a boy daily with me , have 3 sons & this will not come true.  my life is sleep in bed depresed, hallow estoy while my entire family are blissful and happy with their partner and babies. I wanted holidays spend it with my boyfriend and our own children & decorate my house, plan my kids bday parties, plan trips with my partner & this won’t come true.  I’ll just sleep in bed forever and work everyday and cook and clean , alone for the rest of my life hallow in life.

DJB72 · Accepted Answer

Perhaps you can stop thinking about boys (plural) and consider what you 1) want in a Man and 2) offer to a Man.

I'm not judging, I just see the word "depressed" and want to offer a friendly, judgement-free hand if you're wanting to come out of it.

At 27 I was so depressed I attempted suicide. That's not a dirty word by the way, but it's a very harmful idea. I was single and my dad had just died.

It took a lot for me to work out what I had to offer. Working out what I want was easy, but what I could offer a woman to spend my life with was daunting. It took me almost 3 years to work it out, and by working it out I reached a point of being at peace being single. I stopped trying to find a girlfriend and just worked on becoming the best man I could be.

At that point I met my wife - just before my 30th birthday. We've been married 20 years and I just turned 52 this week. It's not easy, but you can't pour from an empty vessel.

I hope you find peace 🕊️😊

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Most people live the life they choose to live. If this is really what you want, why aren't you pursuing your dream?

Valdemort · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't mind.
Never have been in a relationship, or even kissed, for that matter. I don't care.
If it happens, it happens and if not, it doesn't.
I like spending time by myself, my mind is always occupied and I wouldn't want to neglect a relationship because I spend too much time just wondering, hah.
Although I feel rather lonely at times, I don't really feel any rush to find someone to spend my life with... I'm good.
I'll see where I end up.

Brandi555 · Accepted Answer

You should definitely talk to a therapist first off. Second, get up and stop feeling sorry for yourself. If your dream is to find someone, then lying in bed all day is definitely not gonna get you anywhere. Your true love will find you, but not if you’re in bed all the time. Think about it like this.. in five years you’ll realize you waisted those years. I’m not trying to be mean, I’m trying to help. Now get up and go find your person!! ❤️❤️

bobalife · Answer

Humans want and need connections. But what’s also important is learning to be at peace with yourself. It’s okay you want someone to be with, but everyone has their own time and journey. Be present with yourself and find happiness with the life you build. If someone is meant to be yours, it will come. I know you’re sad now, but it will be okay. You gotta let go of your fixation with this high expectation for yourself, so you can let go of this disappointment and let it naturally take place when it will happen.

Anonymous · Answer

Well our modern culture isn’t helping. Women changed first thanks to the advent of social media, dating apps and pervasive modern feminism. The change wasn’t for the better.

Then men changed in response to women changing. We are more paranoid, confused, angry etc. The top cut enjoys hyper sexual activity which in turn ultimately harms more women. Also women generally started the ghosting trend first. Now men are doing it it women.

Anyway my advice is you need to change your environment. Please travel somewhere (volunteer in a 3rd world country) or get involved with a non-polítical volunteering initiative. Get active with something simple first and giving yourself a purpose will help.

I could tell you to the F off social media. But who I am kidding most people are addicted to it. But motion before emotion about getting active with a tangible purpose.

Lynx122 · Answer

I think you need to work on your self image first, how you think and feel about yourself. Then you can try dating again. You can't just throw yourself at guys and hope one falls in love with you that's not how it works. You have to have some sense of self of your own, some character, personality. You seem lost as a person so you have to find yourself first before you can find your partner.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh I forgot that when girls reach 27 or 28 their tongue falls off and their womb disappears.

Get off your fat flabby ass and change your life. You have time still. But if you don't do it... you really will have nothing when you're 45 and it really is too late.

DishLady · Answer

Some can — and do, very successfully. It's healthier than clinging onto one guy after another to define yourself.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Don't need children, but you would have to be a real loser at life to want to be alone forever.

DextroShade · Answer

Lower your standards and stop expecting Chad and Tyrone to commit. The best guy in your friend-zone is the best guy you qualify for a relationship with.

sheenagwapa · Answer

my meaningful experience with God is wuite some time already and my relationship eith him is since i was a very little kid SO NO WORRIES

Booklover_90 · Answer

This is the saddest thing I’ve read all day so far. Why are you so pessimistic?

DrPepper12 · Answer

Are you in therapy for depression? Have you tried to rekindle or make new friends or SOs? Don't be so negative. It will happen if you want it to!

JacobJordan · Answer

You could still have that dream provided you haven't had casual sex.

12karen · Answer

Oh, what's wrong? You seemed like someone who needs a friend to talk to I think I couldn't

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I imagine most women would say yes they could but the fact is both genders are genetically designed to crave the opposite

nawtee_me · Answer

If nothing changes, then nothing changes…. How do you get past depression? Get up and start doing things that you like to do….

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Get up. Go out.

lucas262 · Answer

Never been in a relationship, I probably won't ever get married, it's just too risky in my opinion.

TiaraGlitzNeon · Answer

Me personally, no. But all power to women who could live with that or want that.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

No problem, don't worry, I am here for you , as your boyfriend

Simslover92 · Answer

You're only 27. It will happen. Give it time.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

Work on yourself first

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

welcome to the real world

JHAYES317 · Answer

Holy depression, get some therapy

OddBeMe · Answer

Why are “BF and babies” mutually exclusive

Anonymous · Answer

Unexpected case for a woman

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap

sheikalana · Answer

Nope.

Xia1994 · Answer

I could 💯

Awantika03 · Answer

Nope

Anonymous · Answer

Interesting 🤔!

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