Have you ever thought that you might have ended up single forever?

Question

Before my first relationship I was certain that I’d be single for a very long time , I found it hard to imagine that there would be someone who’d love me just the way I was. I didn’t think I was not good enough, I was just thinking I was too different.

And even though my relationship ended, I was deep down - happy that I was proven wrong and was showed - that I could be quite lovable too.

I remember I often thought how lucky and grateful I was to love and be loved back.

Looking back, I think I could have been a little bit more selfish though.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

I've pretty much accepted I  WILL  end up single forever-  I'm okay with that, oddly enough. Been single about...15 years now I believe? I forgot, lol. But I'm at the point where I'm not trying to pursue a relationship, nor do I care if I ever find someone.  I used to be that person that was on dating apps, social media, and when I was in college, looking around for the right guy- All in vain. I always wound up ghosted, or the girl buddy, sister, and good friend guys ran to to advice on girls they liked or wanted to date :| After the last guy rejected me years ago, I just said I'd take a hiatus from dating because it was killing my self esteem and confidence. I started focusing on the gym, doing other hobbies, my job... basically distancing myself from even thinking of dating and being alone- That "short hiatus" turned into a long one. Now I have no interest in dating- nor do I want to date again. I have clarity on my past relationships and crushes- all of them weren't based on love or us having anything in common: they showed me an iota of attention, and my desperate ass took that as a sign of "I should date them!" even though all of them were wrong for me, but I was too oblivious to see it at the time.  My self esteem is in a MUCH better place. I do what I want, when I want without worrying what a potential partner will think. And I have friends and hobbies to distract me. Sadly, most of the people I know in relationships and marriages are miserable- why? They settled just for the sake of being in a relationship, and now they don't want to leave because they'll be alone again (haha), yet aren't happy with someone.  I'm not saying that's always the case, but from my perspective- I rather be happily single, than risk a relationship that's stressing me out. But kudos to you all out there that are genuinely happy in a relationship/marriage.

Sweetsurprize · Accepted Answer

A little more selfish or a little less? Not sure what you meant by that last sentence. It's never really good to be 'selfish' per se.

At this point in my life, yes, I might as well be single. I am not sure I am understanding you to be honest. How could you have been HAPPY that your relationship ended? ? ! It seemed like you just USED your past relationship as an ego trip. ... Why did it end? ? ! From your words, I'm feeling like you DID have self esteem issues since you thought that no body would be able to love you as you are. And at only 26, that's pretty heavy baggage to carry. Glad you're not bitter about your last relationship ending but you're still young at this point, and it would be a bad idea to give up on love at your age. In your 20's, you're still at your very prime. You are able to get more options to marry, than someone in their 40's probably would. Someone that age would probably need to look at people who are either divorced or widowed, with or without kids (hopefully without them).

ShadowYamihiro · Accepted Answer

Happened few times, you know how it is, being in a good relationship but you just kinda drift apart, stay friends cuz break up simply happened and you both cherish each other like before just not in romantic way. Got me questioning myself few times but honestly as long a i get to be happy i'll be ok with no marriage or kids, want both of those but doesn't want it forced either, if it happends i 'll be happy, if it doesn't i'll still try my best to live life in a way that i'm comfortable with

MaxUsefull · Accepted Answer

You are having very selfish thoughts, I believe that a man can love you, yes

Hawkes_Lady · Answer

I believe that I will end this life single, but still wanting to have that special someone who loves me for me and whom I love wholeheartedly in return. But I realize that my last relationship ended on March 8, 2001, and I have been single since then so I really do think I will die lonely and unloved.

I have been abused by men, making me very distrustful and afraid of them. But I have also been shamed and bashed about my appearance and weight being major issues with finding a man who is attracted to me and is willing to look past those things to see the loving, sweet, and caring person underneath that is me.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Of course…especially after my divorced.
I went back out to the sati boyfriend world and was bashed by many.
I am happily married to my second husband and feel like the luckiest woman. Life can bring us down…but remember…never stay there too long…some get stuck there. That’s what I learned. We have to make changes.

Anonymous · Answer

You never know

I was super certain that I would never get into relationship cause of how weird I am, but at 25 at really coincidentally came across a girl when I was doing one of my weird stuffs and we were like literal soulmates separated in previous birth

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

No

I believe I’m cursed

I honestly can’t enjoy anything more than solitude no people, no animals, no bugs , no thoughts just complete silence

All I want is to be left alone

but people are always approaching me and talking to me I make friends very easy for someone who doesn’t talk much

and it infuriates me because I know so many people who would love to have just one friend

I have no clue why people are drawn to me because I promise I don’t talk often

not because I can’t but because I don’t want to

JDavid25 · Answer

I feel that one.. I don't think selfishness is the answer... Just, looking in the right places, and whatnot.. Me? Nah I never thought that despite my game kinda sucking and not having hardly any prospects many times.. I always try to improve myself slowly but surely to meet her one day..

Grond21 · Answer

Selfish or self interested? I never thought I would end up single my whole life.

Unit1 · Answer

Ah, tell me something that I don't know 💔

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, I always knew I would be married one day.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I still think I might. I am great at friendship, but am somehwat inept in romance. Not in getting dates or starting a relationship, but in maintaining a relationship long term.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

when i was young i was naive and stupid. i thought i'd grow up, get a great job, have a family and kids and live in a big house and be happy. BOY was i wrong LOL!

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't know if i will end up single forever, i just hope not...

Andres77 · Answer

I wish I didn’t marry as many times as I did. I love my kids. I’m never getting married again.

Staximus · Answer

My friend says my standards are like a Yeti on top of Mount Everest - way too high

TheBootyChest · Answer

I feel like that now. Like I will never find someone, or the girl of my dreams. Let alone make up for lost time.

havingfun2023 · Answer

I don't mind how I've turned out. 29 and still single. I'm happy for this to be my way for many decades ahead 😋👍👀☮️

exitseven · Answer

I had gotten out of a long term relationship and had 5 or six girls I dated the following year. All were train wrecks. I decided to give up dating and just be single forever.

Guido · Answer

I think everyone has had that thought at some point in their life.

Giddyup · Answer

Yes, I do. But I think I am OK with that as well.

DextroShade · Answer

Most of the "happily single" thots here will end up homeless in their old age and it will be brutal.

Jennz6 · Answer

Sure, and I think it’s great

Pohjolan · Answer

There must be some gal out there who is willing to date a tall, handsome, well endowed championship level athlete.

msc545 · Answer

I am very sure I will be single forever.

Sparkie460 · Answer

No I never thought that

Tessafowler03 · Answer

I’m a pessimist

zagor · Answer

Have ended up thus. OK with it.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

yea I think thats what my future looks like

Guanfei · Answer

Of course. Every day. And I know I'm right.

robocop666 · Answer

is that not called an incel?

Anonymous · Answer

Every day

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