Need Help? Introvert being typecasted or wrongly understood and labelled as weirdo in the dating world?

[happyfoetus]

Hi all. I have always been an introvert with very limited group of friends. Im known yo be workaholic and has always been praised for my work efforts and balance.

Recently I started entering the dating scene. My sense of humour is always misunderstood. Say if I say I love driving but the fact that lack of road rules scare me in the city, people tend to take me as inconsistent. Say very specific joke targeting one issue that I speak of and they think I generalise.
And it’s the second time I’m labelled as inconsistent.

I understand world through books and they act as my primary door to the world.

While all my guy gang are in praise of me for my unique humour and analysis of the world and that I am a good contribution to healthy discussion and debate.

But this shit scared me.

I agree I tend to make jokes or even make a couple of jokes about me to break the ice since I know most men find me intimidating either because of looks or my qualifications.

Am I actually a weirdo?

[Oliverlogan263]

Don't even worry about what those people think, girl!

Us introverts just process and express ourselves differently, that's all. Sometimes extroverts don't "get" our more analytical, quirky sense of humor, and that's on them, not you.

It honestly sounds like the issue is those guys don't know how to keep up with your intelligent level of conversation! They probably feel threatened.

But don't change who you are to appease shallow people. Your true friends appreciate your unique perspective and wit. When dating, look for someone who enjoys stimulating discussion as much as you do.

Keep being you - join online book clubs, find local intel groups. Your person is out there, probably wondering where all the deep thinker girls are hiding! Don't let narrow minded dates get you down.

You've got so much to offer. Who cares if extroverts find you "intimidating"? Own that shit with pride sister! The right one will be delighted by your complexity.

[RHK36]

Learn to not care about what other people think and just be yourself.