Relationship Issues?

[moonlitten]

So I’ve been friends w this guy for about 3 years now. Tonight was a fair and we don’t snap much anymore bc we both have like someone, so it’s respect for our partner and he basically texted me asking me if he could give me an update at the fair about their relationship. i told my boyfriend on the way to the fair bc we had just had the convo like 10 min before hand about him telling me his story. so when we get to the fair, i ask my boyfriend if i can go talk to my guy friend will quick who was w his brother. i do so, and during this my boyfriend disappears for awhile then appears again, and i talked to the guy for probably 10 min and that’s it. then we hangout and my gal friends show up and we go on this jumping thing, and he doesn’t wanna go bc he doesn’t wanna sweat or rip his shorts. during this he left without saying goodbye. he texted me telling me the only reason i wanted to go to the fair was to talk to my guy friend but the plans were to go to the fair w my roommate after free pancakes but then he decided to go w me last minute. and this conversation w my guy friend wasn’t even planned it just happened before going to the fair. little backstory we don’t snap or talk or any of that sort only once in awhile to talk about his girl and stuff. then my boyfriend told me he needed to find a girl to be friends with and a new friend etc. and i don’t understand why, then he asked me to bring him food at night and i drive it to him, in the middle of me talking he just dips and says thank you with no kiss. i just don’t get what to do here. i told him i would stop responding to the guy if he tells me about his relationship and what not. i had been pushing him away for awhile and that is why we barely talk to each other now. but i don’t know how to make my boyfriend in a better mood or what to even do here…

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, that's some real drama your boyfriend is causing! It sounds like he's just insecure and getting jealous over nothing. You said yourself the conversation with your guy friend was totally casual and not even planned.

It's not fair of him to get mad at you for catching up with a long time friend for like 10 minutes. And leaving the fair without saying bye is super rude. Guys can be so immature sometimes, you know? I wouldn't even entertain all this finding new friends BS he's on. You haven't given him any real reason not to trust you.

If it was me, I'd tell him straight up that you're not going to stop talking to friends just cause he's feeling insecure. Like you said, you're already respectful of not flirting with other guys when you're together. That should be enough for him! He needs to work on his own jealousy issues.

Don't let him make you feel like you did something wrong. Hopefully he'll get over it soon and apologize for acting crazy. But don't take any crap from him in the meantime either. And definitely don't feel like you have to walk on eggshells around him now. That will only make things worse in the long run. You got this girl!

[Syntosi]

That is not a good sign at all. You did nothing wrong here, except for letting your partner decide who you can and can't be friends with. Your boyfriend has to learn to respect that you have a life beyond him and not get jealous or suspicious of your friends. Quite frankly, this might require therapy of some kind but I am by far not an expert.

Not sure what you can do personally. This is something your boyfriend needs to sort out and I very much recommend not ignoring it since it can, and has ruined other relationships.

[MsProsperity]

The fact that you’re friends with that guy is making your boyfriend uncomfortable. It’s time to choose between your friend or boyfriend

[MicahRaine]

Lowkey he seems like he isn't ready for an actually relationship. . . maybe breakup?