Relationship problems?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months and we are not living with each other. I am 22 and he is 21. Months ago I was paying him gas money because he lived a hour away but my parents found out and I had to end it. Then he said that well your gonna have to take Uber here and back and I'll pay either for you to come over or the way back but today he said we should split everything 50/50. I don't understand it and confused can you help me

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1 y

This is Not a long distance relationship we live a hour away. We normally see each other every week and sometimes spend days ad nights over each other houses if we can

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1 y

I don't want to disrespect my parents and he had a job. We both in debt but he wants me to pay for his Uber over my way. He is in the process of getting a car.

[SteveSmith1985]

I think... from what I understand, you two are more-or-less on the same page. It seems you're both trying to work out some kind of 50-50ish split (but are simply trying to figure out the details).

For example, paying for your Uber trip there or back is basically paying half of the cost for you to see him (put another way, splitting it 50/50).

I think you two are basically saying the same thing.

But, if I can give you some further, unsolicited advice: Don't be in too much of a rush to move in or get married until you're a bit more stable financially. If you try and move in with someone or get married while you're both DEAD broke, your relationship WILL suffer. When you're both stressed-out about money all the time, you are both "at your worst". It's hard to be happy no matter how much you love each other.

Either way, all the best. 🙂

[Asker]

We aren't in a rush but thanks he just wants this relationship to be 50/50 now and if not then he says he doesn't want to be with someone like that

[SteveSmith1985]

But it sounds like when it WASN'T 50/50 it was YOU paying more than your share?

(also, the easiest way to do 'food' is simply, you each pay for yourself) 🙂

[Asker]

I don't have a car and he does

[Guy13]

long distance relationship rarely work... if ever.

[Asker]

It's not long distance

[Guy13]

Okay but it seems long distance if it is an hour away and you are having to share gas money.

[Asker]

It wasn't like this at this until inflation

[Guy13]

Oh, I see. Biden strikes again. Hope it all plays out as you wish !!

[LazerBean]

I personally would not get involved with someone who can't afford their own gas money, and certainly would not move in with them.