Do you think it's healthy to talk about your relationship problems to your friends for any kind of advice?

[gayesblog]

What do you think about sharing your relationship problems with your friends? Is it really helpful or it just confuses your mind...

[AutumnSerenity]

It’s not healthy. Don’t ever confide in your friends or family for relationship advice; no one in your life for that matter. You’d be better off talking to a stranger about it, if you really need to talk. Trauma dump somewhere that’s completely separate from your personal & professional lives. If you make the mistake of sharing details of your relationship to friends & family, your relationship will suffer in the long run and so will you. You’d be feeding gossip.

[Rei13]

You should primarily be communicating with your partner but it can be healthy to talk to a close friend or family member depending on what the issue is. I don’t think you should be airing that dirty laundry to everyone but sometimes you just need to hear someone from the outside looking in that has your best interests at heart

[NathanDavis]

with the right friend, at the right moment... and with the right approach, yes... it can be of benefit

other times, they might be your friends, but they could also be clueless about some things, and some situations as well...

[Ironic_Method]

If the friends were objective, yes. But most people aren't and tend to side with their friend and justify behavior in favor of the friend.

[HawkPerception]

I do think there are some areas in which it's okay to talk to your best friend about. Especially rants about a fight with your partner. Everyone needs or should have an outlet other than their partner so you don't have to keep it all bottled up when you can't rant to your partner about it.

Most issues should be talked about with your partner up front, but there will always be scenarios where you want someone other than them to express some frustrations.

[Tapeworm]

Let me just regurgitate what I remember reading from pubmed earlier today. My traumatic experiences during childhood in absence of any pain relieving aid permanently upregulated my endogenous opioid production and now don't worry about stupid problems, and if i can't stop thinking about an area of my relationship then I'll talk about it to whomever I happen to talk about it with. Unless I made an agreement or just know that it will hurt the other party, i don't care whom I'm talking with.

[Anonymous]

It's absolutely toxic to share your relationship problems with friends or family. The biggest reason for that is it's breaking your partner's trust. He/she deserves better from you. But it also can create problems with well-intentined "advice" from your friends/family who have only heard you side of the story, which will only satisfy your confirmation bias and cause more toxicity in your relationship.

[Novemberr_]

I recently find it very unhealthy and more disappointing once yoir friend starts talking about his or her own experiences and leading to truly cunfusion on your mind. But if you need an assistance or suggestion, ask for it to your friend and talk about it.

[JacobJordan]

Hell no. If you have problems you talk to the person you have problems with. It's a relationship not a public affair. When you involve outside people in your private relationship you no longer have a private relationship

[DreamCrescent]

you won’t get anywhere talking with someone else about relationship issues. face them head on with the people in the relationship

talking to a third party is unproductive and will leave you frustrated no doubt

[rosemilk]

no. i keep my relationship and my friends completely separate. no need to air out dirty laundry or anything with them. none of their business. don't really need their advice either

[katiesmuff]

I think it can help and be a healthy thing if it's a long time very good friend. No way would a man ever do that so basically it's only women who would share.

[PeachyPie93]

No I think my sister gave me bad advice and all my girlfriends can't keep a relationship and have lots of baby daddies so they aren't really ones to ask haha.

[Sonjita]

No I rather tell it to his friends so they go tell him you are an idiot 😂

[curious_gul]

I never told a friend, and I think I will never, but why not? If you're really confused about smth or, then why not ask you Mr friend for an advice (if they're trust worthy ofc)
Personally when in doubt I ask our creator or pray istikhra.

[molonski2]

Its never a good idea , unless you want toxic , useless input , far better to speak to someone you dont know.

[RedInnocent68]

Depends on the friend. Generally no, but we all need to decompress and unload once in a while.

[Anonymous]

My ex would tell everyone about our issues at his work and then he would tell me that he discussed it with them. That was really hard. I was embarrassed to go to his work for company parties and such.

[msc545]

No. Talk to the person that you have difficulties with.

[straightmax12]

Sometimes. I think it really depends on the situation you're in because somethings are best stayed between the couple.

[JamesRandiDebates]

Nope. The moment I start to have relationship problems, I dump the bitch and move on.

[mandyfire98]

With my best friend I can.

[Anonymous]

No. That's a horrible idea. They could spread rumors.

[Jennz6]

Sometimes sharing is good