Girls, How long does it take you to vibe with a guy?

[Anonymous]

I’ve heard the term vibe which means chemistry. Let’s say he’s a hard worker, he’s ambitious, he has drive, wants to have a home one day, he loves to travel and do unique stuff and be in shape, he makes you laugh, same religious values and political POV’s, you find him handsome, would you say you would click/vibe like that? Especially if he’s honest, trustworthy and not after you solely for sex.

[SallyTho87]

Out of respect for myself, I obtain respect, trust, and get to actually know a guy on a friendship, and romantic level before sex or any type of physical intimacy comes into the picture.
From the description above, it's hard to tell if he would be someone I connected with. Personality, sense of humour, mannerisms, respect for others, etc. ALL plays a huge role in my deciding factors. So without meeting said guy, I cannot be certain we would connect / click.
We would have to spend ample time together. Generally, I prefer guys like you described - who are confident in themselves and enjoy learning about me as a person, sharing interests, and getting to know me for who I am. I'd certainly give this guy a chance but I would need in person time to fully understand if we connect.

[sheikalana]

During a first date is usually very easy for me to understand if you have the potential or not.

[Asker]

So if you said I’m thinking about meeting you for a second date does that mean you’re interested in him?

[sheikalana]

Absolutely. But to be fair if we eventually start dating it takes me some time to fall in love.

[Asker]

Girls and women are different — guys and men fall in love with a woman’s or girls looks and if she’s just nice/pleasant with similar values, guys will know within a 1-2 months whether he knows. Not sure why it takes longer for women to feel that love.

[Asker]

I knew a girl who was using dating apps and talking to me and she was confused, I asked her where is this going after 10 months and she freaked out and said I wasn’t calm and things ended. Didn’t bother reaching out to her, I blocked her # and blocked her on social media. We had a great date — I was a gentleman, paid for dinner, wasn’t sexual, made her laugh, had a good convo, travelled back home on a train from downtown. Last I heard she got married literally within 3 months and the last thing she said was fuck you, why are all guys the same. Just odd behaviour.

[sheikalana]

Well, guess you did the right thing and my assumption is that whoever she married had always been around.

[Asker]

Why would she bother meeting up for a date then and talk to me for 10 months

[sheikalana]

Because she liked the attention she was getting from you and was probably keeping you as an option.

[Asker]

Well I hope she gets karma one day for how she hurt me, she's the one who followed me on social media, gave me her # and was even the one to say we should meet up and go here and there. I have no respect for her and she comes across as a religious girl but is a hypocrite doing the opposite. As a guy, I can hold myself accountable if I do something bad but with people like her, it doesn't matter. I was nothing but good to her and the fact that she got mad because i asked her where is this going, she had the gull to say, im ending it because you couldn't keep calm, she even said I dont want to feel guilty you like me so its best not to talk to each other anymore. I would never be a POS and do that to a girl, I couldn't live with myself doing that to a girl, I would feel awful and feel regret. On every dollar I earn in life, I hope she feels that regret one day.

[LucindaPNW]

Well given everything that was listed, I’d say it wouldn’t take long if he was consistent