Why does my friend don’t want us to talk to each other now that she is has a boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

So her boyfriend basically told her that he wasn’t comfortable about us being friends we already stated to each we don’t like each other I don’t wanna lose a year long friendship

[SallyTho87]

It sounds like she has chosen to respect her boyfriends wishes, and create a boundary for her relationship, meaning not giving YOU so much attention / of her time, as she now values her relationship and prioritizes her boyfriend over your friendship.
SHE is doing what SHE feels, and believes is best for HER and HER relationship.

You can either
1) accept the fact she has chosen to do this, and focus her time and attention on her partner, and hopefully, trying to discuss the issue of having male friends and building that trust with her boyfriend regarding platonic relationships.
2) continue to bring the issue up, let her know how it makes you feel, and add more stress, which ultimately will most likely lead in her removing contact with you to save herself the stress and emotional stress.

It's okay to prioritize a relationship, if this is what SHE wants, she is able to do anything she chooses to, even if she hurts your feelings, if she doesn't account for including you in her life NOW, it's time to leave her be and move onto someone who does value your friendship.

[Asker]

I mean I’m not hurt like I said I only seen her as a friend it’s just the fact I value friendship in general didn’t wanna lose a friend like she means stop talking to me all together I’m just confused I can understand not giving attention to her make friends but stop being friends with one all together just confues me

[Asker]

Male*

[SallyTho87]

Yes, I hear you. It's unfortunate situation you're in, but it shows you how much she values YOU in her life. Even just as her friend. She is showing you the friendship you have with her, is not important enough to keep. Instead, she is focused on her new boyfriend, and the only way to deal with HIS insecurities is to entirely stop putting her time / effort into anything having to do with you, including communication.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. On the other hand, it's good this happened, because now you know just how much you mean to your "friend" and how worthy your "friendship" with this girl is, to HER.

You need to find new friends 100%, and let her be. Chances are, in time and if things do not work out with this boyfriend, she WILL come back to you like nothing happened. Please, do not let her do this.
I've seen this situation many times myself, and the male friend gets used for the gals ego boost, HE gets used for emotional support, comfort, responsibility of "fixing" the hurt female friend who is now suddenly so interested in the friendship with this male friend again.
She doesn't care she is losing you as a friend, and does not care how she is treating you. That is not fair to you.
Please don't let this one person keep you confused or feeling like crud. I hope you find someone who values your effort and time and a true friendship.