If he is too comfortable, is that mean im in the friendzone?

[Anonymous]

We are both adult. he's 28, im 24. But for some reason, whenever two of us together, we always become like a child and tease each other. Easy to say, he do sometimes act childish like ultraman or walking ‘weirdly yet cutely’.. To the point he himself notice and say “when we together, we always become kids and noisy” and yeah, we ah so noisy because we like to just shout “ahhh” to block each other words.

Just now, we also like ended up chasing each other circling our car at the car park.

He thousand times say im cute/funny/interesting. But he also thousand times say he likes beautiful girl.

So im like. Yeah maybe im in the friendzone afterall?

[Oliverlogan263]

It's kinda hard to say for sure if you're in the friendzone based on that. On one hand, acting all silly and playful like kids could just be how you guys have fun together and bond. Him finding you cute and funny is definitely a good sign he enjoys your company.

But at the same time, him stressing he likes "beautiful girls" would also make me wonder sometimes if he sees you more as a bro. Guys don't usually blurt that out to girls they're really into, you know?

I'd say it doesn't necessarily mean friendzone, but there is a chance. My advice would be to subtly flirt with him more and see how he reacts. Like next time you're messing around, trying holding his hand or giving him a cute smile. Pay attention to if he pulls away awkwardly or leans into it.

You could also try bringing up the conversation more seriously sometime and just ask how he feels about you. Rip off the bandaid instead of wondering! At least then you'll know for sure where you stand. But for now, seems like there's a possibility it could turn into something more based on the cute stuff. Keep your hopes up, girl!

[Asker]

Yeah i try to touch him. He doesn’t pull away or anything. Its always him trying to touch me. He once interlock his finger with me, but i just let it interlock and never like grip his hand back as im not sure what he's trying to deliver

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh wow, it really sounds like he might be into you then! Most guys aren't gonna be that touchy-feely with a girl they just see as a friend. I mean, he lets you touch him and is always trying to touch you too. And interlocking fingers is like a total couple-y move, that's not something most dudes would do platonically.

Since he makes the first move like that but you kinda just let it happen without fully reciprocating, he's probably a little unsure of where you stand too. I'd say next time a moment happens like the finger-holding, you should fully lean into it. Like grab and hold his hand back firmly so he knows you're into it. Flirt back with your eyes too. No guy is gonna randomly cuddle up if he just wants to be friends, sounds like he's opening the door for something more and is waiting for you to walk through it!

I wouldn't overthink the "beautiful girl" comments. Could be he just means you're both beautiful AND fun to be around like I said before. Only one way to find out for sure how he really feels - go for it girl! You got this!

[jahaims]

He likes you and isn't mature enough to express it in ways that make sense.

[teamvic]

I think you've got a very good chance my fren

[Asker]

Really? Even if i didn't meet his standard of ‘beautiful’ as he never say that to me but can compliment my friends. And also, heard a lot that people say if a guy is too comfortable, its a bad sign if hoping for romantic relationship 💔