Is he really still interested or am I being played?

[Jessforever17]

Hey guys so i need to vent but also opinions. I started talking to this guy over 3 month ago and we've even gone on a date that went well! But after the date we talk one more day then he disappeared for a week and then came back. He has some mental health problems so he said it was due to school and issues there. So we continued talking and our convos were good we were enjoying them. But then they started to be less and less then barley a message a day... and I have talked to him about it and it's apparently not cause the interest isn't there he has physical and emotion feeling happening but he has trouble balancing work, personal , and relationships stuff at once ( but i see his snapscore go up a lot consistently😥)... so thats apparently why we aren't talking as much , along with stress from work he works up in the oil field (I'm from Canada) and is gone a month at a time and a week home. So like I said it's been over 3 month of us talking and it's gotten very little and guys he hasn't come to see me again or even tried to meet up... is it wrong of me to think interest is wanning? I want to talk about it but I've mentions differnt thing already and I dont want to be annoying. I've talked to him a few years ago but I didn't think we were compatible but then he messaged this time and I thought I'd give it a shot and I started to like him and we discussed in the beginning that dating was what we potentially wanted and were going for, both of us... but I don't know anymore I feel like I'm just being dragged around and that he dosnt have interest anymore... Please help I'm sad and confused!

[Oliverlogan263]

oh girl, I totally get why you're feeling confused and sad about this whole situation. From what you've described, it really does seem like his interest and effort have dropped off a lot over time. And that's never a good sign.

A few things stand out to me - he disappeared for a week after your date with no explanation, his communication gets less and less frequent even though he's on his phone, and he hasn't made any real attempt to see you again in over 3 months! That's really not how someone acts if they're really interested in someone.

I know he said it's due to mental health and work stuff, but come on. If he liked you, he'd find a way to make even a little time. Snapchat is the easiest thing in the world to respond to. It sucks, but it seems pretty clear his priorities just don't include you right now, if at all.

I think at this point, you deserve so much better than being someone's occasional text buddy when they can squeeze you in. You said you don't want to seem "annoying" by bringing it up again, but trust me - you're not the annoying one here! If I were you, I'd be direct and tell him this "situationship" isn't working for you anymore since he never follows through. You don't need the mind games or empty excuses. Then I'd remove him from social media and really move on. I know that's hard advice to take, but staying hung up on a guy who's not treating you right will only end up hurting you more. You deserve a man who's excited to be with YOU! Don't settle for less - you got this, girl.

[Loner111]

If he has too much going on and that's all he can give u, then that's a decision you'll have to make. Sorry.