Kicking myself for being such a coward with her every time?

[Knightwatch27]

I'm usually not the one to make posts like this. But I just have to vent somehow. I met this American girl (26) 'bout half a year ago. She's in my country (sweden) on a sort of outreach-school program as staff and she invited me to come regularly to 'community nights' hosted by her and her collegues at campus. While I did notice first time I saw her that "wow she's beautiful", what has actually made me crush on her is her personality. She's strong, expressive, kind and driven. Social, confident, ambitious I mean I can go on. First time a girl's character is in focus for me rather than looks being my main attraction which makes it all the more special to me. Her radiant attractiveness is a happy bonus.

But even as I'm usually the confident kind of guy even with girls I just can't do it with her; I get tongue tied, frozen up, unsure. No matter how badly I want to I chicken out of telling her I like her and it's driving me mad. I guess I just feel like, for the first time, that who am I to court her. I'm not exciting or interesting enough or I bet she has tons of better options. Whether or not she likes me.. I can't tell. Could honestly be yes or no in a 50/50% chance. She's sent signals both ways and I can't discern her behavior with me as either just friendly or flirty. She is very outgoing normally but has several times been out of character with me specifically. Confound me this is so stupid of me. I don't even like the word "crush" because when I've liked someone before I've just gone for it but here I am now. Crushing like a school boy. Sigh.

[NathanDavis]

ask yourself this...

assume that, you actually gather yourself up and finally, you approach her, you say and do something about, that first step is done

and then what? what else do you have to offer to her besides that first step... what have you done in previous relationships or when you approached other women before? how did that go with other people?

if, you did well in your in previous experiences, if you know and feel that you can offer something worth, then just go for it... that first step might seem more like climbing up the Everest, then jumping from high above... just do it, lol, the rest is going to be easy, more natural, IF you actually have it

now, if you don't have an idea of what will you do next, or you don't have much to offer, then she might not be even interested on that, maybe she prefers someone more assertive and truly confident that won't choke, but... if you have what it takes, then just smash through that first wall, because there's no other way really

if she were into shy boys that can't make a first move, she would have already done hers, so... just go for it

[gorydetails]

No matter how hot she is, some dude is tired of putting up with her shit.

[IslaTheWitch]

if she gives you mixed signals (or you read them as such) there is nothing more you can do than just muster your courage and go for it...

then you will know for sure

just have a plan B, how you will act if she is not interested

[DishLady]

Well the longer you wait to share your feelings the more she'll pull away till you lose your chance. Might as well just go ahead and tell her how you feel.

[Flora_is_here]

Well , same happend with me and i was thinking why i will ask him out , i'm a women 😅

[Iron_Man]

Can you find her?

[Anonymous]

Damn how u both look