Why is it hard to let go of someone who doesn’t want to be with you and showed you he doesn’t?

[Anonymous]

How to accept it and move on even when my feelings are extremely hurt and I’m still wanting to be with him…he disrespected me and became cold.. why isn’t it easy letting go

Everything I do to make myself feel good or promote change for myself I feel like I’m only doing it so he can see and come back..

[ProbablyClueless]

Because there will always be a part of your brain that wonders why someone you thought was good enough for you, didn't feel the same way.

[Asker]

Yeah… that’s exactly why. It’s hard to let go because I felt he cared then after meeting he ghosted me and became cold

[ProbablyClueless]

Ahhh man. I hate that crap. You're just left sitting there wondering what the heck changed.

[Asker]

Yeah.. and he only decided to call after telling him that him ghosting was affecting me mentally

[ProbablyClueless]

At least he did you the service of responding when you called him out. None of the women who have treated me that way have ever paid me that courtesy... Going through that kind of thing sucks, but at least you know you're better off without him.

That's how I choose to look at those situations, anyway.

[Asker]

He was better off ghosting for good… it wasn’t because he cared about me.

[ProbablyClueless]

He definitely didn't do it out of care for you, but I know I would prefer to be acknowledged than not. Maybe that's just my personal preference, but I really hate it when people blow me off.

[Asker]

I was so devastated by it all… I felt like he was the first guy to ever come correct… there’s layers to why I feel so hurt about this. I’ve even struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts… it really hurt and left a scar on my self esteem.

Even in his “closure” it still hurt… he did apologize and he claimed he didn’t feel like he ghosted but.. he did

He said he had higher priorities to worry about. He said he’s not going back and forth.. he also said we don’t need to text all the time and we can check in here and there. He said he hopes I find someone who loves me the way I need etc.

[ProbablyClueless]

I'm sorry.. ☹️

What did you mean by him being the first man to come correct?

[Asker]

Just a guy who showed interest and pursue correctly.

[cince200X]

We don't want to let go something bcz we have invested lots of our time, emotion, secrets. that is a type of gambler fallacy.

other thing is you have imagined lots of things with him and expected a lot...

[DishLady]

Why would that be hard? Let go… You’ve been rejected…. Move on before you’re slapped with a restraining order or something.

[Danny_dan92]

Because you’re stubborn