Guys, How to approach a guy in public?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys,

I've been thinking a lot about how to approach a man in public. Many dating coaches suggest that women shouldn't be straightforward and should just give men a tiny little push and let the men finish the job. However, I personally prefer to be direct and to the point.

Usually, when I see a guy I like, I simply go up to him and say, "Hi, I saw you from afar and I think you're cute. Can I get your Snap/Ig?"

I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences. Is being straightforward a good approach, do you like it if I approach you this way or should I consider being more subtle? Thanks.

[Ευδεμονια]

Honestly, reading what did you say made me think “woah so there’s hope for a shy boy”. I’d like this approach, since I don’t have anymore the courage to approach anyone, this would be a very straightforward way to approach and this would be a huge favour point in an approach with an insecure person.
On the other side, you can meet some people who would think “this girl wants just to scam me or to laugh about me” since it’s very very rare to see a woman approaching a man.


I think honestly you can maybe manage an halfway approach, maybe try to have a little conversation (I think it’s sufficient just a little topic like weather or time or public transport schedule, it’s just an excuse) before saying straightforwardly “you’re cute, can I have your Ig?”.

[Serkee]

Those dating coaches don't know what they're talking about because holy hell, so many of us would love it if women were more direct and didnthe approaching more often. Things would be so much easier for everyone involved. Men are oblivious, we can't read the subtle parts of social situations like women can. We don't pick up on the hints or small nudges women send our way. If you don't say it outright, we don't know you like us.

[Loner111]

I would love to meet a woman like u, seriously. I personally am afraid to approach girls I find attractive because sometimes they work there and obviously it's not appropriate to approach a girl for these purposes if she works there.

But, it would be easier for them to do what u said.