I’m a wrong for telling my girlfriend I don’t want her spending time with me alone at their place?

[Anonymous]

Yea so my girlfriend upset says I don’t truest her because I don’t won't her spending time with any of her guy friends alone at their place. She says she’s watches anime with them etc. I told her Im fine with her hanging out in public alone with guys friends but she shouldn’t ever wanna put herself in the position to possible cheat. I am fine with her hanging at friends houses in a group but think it’s inappropriate to spend hours at someone house of the opposite gender. I do not hang out with my women friends at there place and they all known unless my girlfriend is around or other friend’s they can’t come over to my place.

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O forget to add some of theses guys have had crushes on her in the past

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Ex update my girlfriend is fine with me hanging out with women friend at there place but doesn’t want me sitting on the same bed with them etc. But agin I never do this. Same way Muslim girls do not hug guy friends

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

If you aren't able to trust her then you shouldn't be with her. Has she ever done anything to make you think she's gonna cheat or are you just insecure?

[Asker]

No it’s just my boundaries how I always been has nothing to do with being insecure just how I was raised. Like I said I do not go over to a girls house one on one even more so girls who have liked me in the past. I always hang out in a group sitting or we hang out in a public setting. One of my best friends is a girl we often go bowing to see movies but I will not go over her house if she’s the only one there. I understand people can cheat under the right circumstances so why would I ever put myself in that position?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

They can cheat in other ways if they are that determined. They can even get closer in group settings. The point is if you don't trust her, then why are you even with her?

[Asker]

Agin nothing to do with truest it’s called a boundary. You are more likely to cheat on a one on one setting even more so if start drinking. I have a friend who has a big friend with his girlfriend then a guy in her friend zone uses this to his advantage to try putting the moves on her. Agin it’s simply a respected think I don't know why when ever a man has a boundary women gotta say you don’t truest them or some bs

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

But it's a boundary of trust. Honestly. You are protecting yourself from being hurt by someone who could possibly cheat in a very specific way, not taking into account that there are lots of ways cheating could happen. Whether you don't trust the guys she's with or you don't trust her to not cheat when put in that scenario, it's still a trust issue.

[Asker]

Not really a truest issues to me but thanks for the input.

[Serkee]

That's a very reasonable boundary to have. Not wanting your girlfriend to hang out alone with another guy at their place isn't an insecurity issue, that's a very normal thing to be uncomfortable with. If always wanting to hang out alone at another guy's house isn't a sign that she might be cheating, what is?

[Anonymous]

You should probably have a discussion about why you don't trust her.

[Asker]

It’s not about truest me it’s just a boundary I have. I would never put myself in a position to cheat on my partner. I think one on one time with the opposite gender is fine but you shouldn’t be at a guys house who isn’t your boyfriend one on one for hours.

[Opinion Owner]

If you trust her, then it doesn't matter if she is in a position to cheat. That can happen literally anywhere by the way. But if you truly trust her, then you know she won't in any scenario. You don't, therefore you don't fully trust her.

[Anonymous]

How do u know she’s hanging out with guys alone. Importantly that they like her

[Asker]

She told me she was going over John house to watch anime. I hanged out with a few of her guys friends and some of them have admitted to long her in the past but she rejected them or wasn’t looking to date at the time

[Opinion Owner]

Did they tell that to u themselves?

[Asker]

Yes they did or it come up in conversation while we are were drinking or playing group games

[Opinion Owner]

Wtf. They just went up to a girls boyfriend and told him they like her? Lol

[Asker]

Yes we were playing a card game you ask questions or pick a date

[Asker]

Dare

[Opinion Owner]

Lol. How do u and your girlfriend look? And how does this other guy look

[Asker]

…. We are all hot but I don't know what that has to do with this

[Opinion Owner]

I think he sees himself superior to u. And definitely doesn’t respect u a tad bit. To go and tell a guy , he likes his girl

[Asker]

It was a question someone asked him during our card game

[Opinion Owner]

That’s a excuse. How do u and her look? Heights and weights?

[Asker]

Such odd question. I’m 6 feet one 195 pounds and she’s 5 feet 5 130 pounds. He’s shorter then me