Girlfriend hesitant to let me stay at her house?

[Anonymous]

So were both in our 30s and have been dating for the past year. We have been doing long distance however I fly to see her each month and spend a week to two weeks living with her. We've decided to close the gap and I'm moving to the same city.

I asked if I could stay at her house for couple weeks as I found a new place to rent. She immediately pushed back. Later she said this was way to triggering for her. I'm a little concerned at this point.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you're concerned about your girlfriend's hesitation to let you stay at her house. It's possible that there may be underlying reasons for her reaction that she hasn't shared with you yet. It's important to have an open and honest conversation with her about your concerns and to try to understand her perspective.

It's possible that she may have had negative experiences in the past with cohabitation or may have concerns about the impact on the relationship. It's also possible that she may simply need some space and time to adjust to the new situation and the idea of living together.

It's important to respect your girlfriend's boundaries and not push her to do something she's not comfortable with. However, it's also important to communicate your own needs and expectations for the relationship. Perhaps there are compromises or alternative arrangements that you could explore together, such as staying in a nearby hotel or renting an Airbnb for a short period of time while you look for a more permanent place to live.

Ultimately, the key to resolving this issue is open and honest communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to work together to find a solution that works for both of you.

[Crmolon]

It could be a number of things. She might feel like she isn't ready to move in just yet, or she might want to give the relationship a little longer to establish if it's right

[Asker]

I understand that part and I'm not looking to move in. It more of an extended stay. I went as far as telling her I would not be moving in any of my stuff and would not be there longer than 3 weeks.

[Sasha0426]

I would talk to her about it. She may had bad experiences before meeting you. I mean, you know her more than we do so definitely have a conversation with her.