Girlfriend won't let me go on a trip alone with my family unless I plan some part of trip with her. Is this okay?

[adamcdavis]

My brother moved to seattle about a year ago and my family who lives in Arizona was planning on taking a trip to visit my brother. I live in Los Angeles and they got me a plane ticket and wanted me to spend time with them up there. My family has previously already met my girlfriend before and likes her but they wanted this trip to be centered around just the family to see my brother and wanted to do it with just me. My girlfriend is upset and doesn't want me going and is also mad saying she would like to plan a trip with me and is saying I should have planned part of my trip with just her after so she can see seattle with me. She is acting like I wasn't being thoughtful of including her in part of my trip after I saw my family but I personally view this as just a few days to hang out with my family and I believe she is saying this because she is jealous and insecure and she complains saying I'm going to try getting girls while i am there. I personally think she is way out of line saying I can't take a trip with my family unless I include her in some sort of plans with visiting seattle but wanted to see if others on here can relate to her or give me a different view/angle on this. Thanks.

[Acrobation]

It isn't really ok for her to take a situation that isn't about her at all and spin it around to try make you feel guilty and selfish for leaving her behind. you are going on a family trip, if she can't respect that boundary that you've set then that is not a healthy respectful relationship

[Sha84]

obviously she is selfish and doesn't trust you at all away from her views

[Alif70]

No. Although it is great to be with one you love you definitely need that personal space or hobby for you. We are not the other half owner or control. Enjoy the time apart. As they say absence makes the heart grow fonder. Sounds like she doesn't trust you

[Historylover18]

She seems a little too clingy

[adamcdavis]

Yah she is and she does the same thing if I ever try hanging out with friends too. Unless she is going with me then I can't be with my other friends especially if there is any girl in my group of friends lol

[Historylover18]

I think you 2 need to talk about this because it's seems clear to me that she doesn't trust you and if there's no trust then the relationship is doomed to fail.

[adamcdavis]

I have talked about it and she is stubborn and won't change. Well I guess this was fun but i knew eventually i would need to break up with her. People with that deep of a problem won't change (shes had some therapy too and still has insecurity problems and a short temper).

[Historylover18]

Then that's probably the best course of action