Do hot guys get more hot dates than the ugly guys do?

[Anonymous]

[dragoblack]

Statistically women do go after guys with a thinner face and a slim body type more than they do other bodytypes, but confidence mixed with humor and a decent sex drive does play a factor, since many relationships are built on hookups nowadays.
For example: I'm considered average looking even though i clean myself up more than a basic jeans and tshirt guy, but due to being ace-spec i don't go after women with sexual intentions and due to years of constant social-trauma, I'm always on a "cutting them loose at any moment" kind of vibe when trying to court/flirt... women see that as lack of confidence and i have to be in a certain mindset to be humorous, so joking doesn't come on a command. Because of that, I'm seen as unfunny and too serious.
These things turn women off... but then again, many women have a bad habit of mistaking being an aggressive asshole as being confidence, then getting hurt when the dude is abusive. Also, showing vulnerability is a major turnoff for women and they will treat you differently because of that. And do try to keep sentences to a maximum of 25 words when talking... even if it is a subject you are passionate about.

[RebelinSteel]

First you need to work out what makes a guy hot to a girl, it is likely not all about how he looks. Then what makes a guy come over as ugly, again it’s not all about looks.

[sage2021]

You do know that there are a lot of guys who aren't hot or ugly. There's a whole bunch of guys who are attractive, good looking, etc.

I think the "Hot" guys get as many dates as regular guys.

But what I have noticed is that some of the HOT guys might get dates, but they aren't relationship or marriage material.

I wouldn't like to say any guy is "ugly". But one thing about the kinda average guy even a nerdy guy, now they are the ones that studied hard, got smart rather than chasing skirts.
Then they went to college and met a nice young lady, eventually graduated from college and gets married. They both land excellent paying jobs and live great lives.

I'm not making this up. I have worked with a lot of this sort of guys, most of them were scientist's. There wives were engineer's and microbiologists.

So, being hot or ugly or just average - everyone is just living their lives.

[Caroline91]

This is a hard one to answer. I might admire good looks like I would a beautiful painting but other attributes are what really attract me…confidence and authenticity are at the top of the list of what makes a man Hot to me. Also, does he treat me like someone of value to him? Since I tend to attract those kinds of men, I can only assume there is something they find Hot about me. So I would say Hot attracts Hot, whatever your definition of the word is…Do you both think it’s Hot? Then it is.

[HawkPerception]

I believe I'm a 7, but I've been told I should model many times in my life. I also don't think I have a bad personality. Not trying to be cocky about it... just have mixed feelings about where I am on attraction level.

And let me tell you... dating life for me is rough. Haven't been able to get a single date since my last ex which was 6 months ago 😂

I think MOST women care more about money and humor than looks honestly. Don't get me wrong. It's definitely a factor for women. It's just less of a factor than men.

[hahahmm]

If we're talking about an average guy walking down the street -- not a famous celebrity or well known rich person: A guy with looks + charisma can get almost any date he wants. A fugly guy with charisma can too but fugly guys without charisma don't believe it. Also a good looking guy with zero social skills will get zero. Why? Women have tons of options. They don't NEED to put in even 1% effort to actively make a move for a guy cause guys come to them.

Or at least this is how it worked most of my life. Things are rapidly changing. I hear that the "simp economy" is crashing and soon women will be unable to get attention for just existing.

[HappyWoman34]

I actually don’t know, as good looking women are less likely to be approached first by anyone but the bravest and the sleaziest guys. Good question.

[Dongie]

Do you hunt for the ugliest girl to ask out?
I remember reading somewhere that 20% of guys are taking care of 80% of girls sexually of course. That leaves each remaining girl 4 guys to please. They may have it better than the 9s and 10s.
😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

[mobiusforniner]

Why are we comparing with someone else. Define hot? By whose standard? As long as you feel good about yourself, then it wouldn’t matter.

[_piotr]

No. Women are not visual and men are not physically attractive gender. Speaking about physical attraction towards guys with women is like discussing a painting with a blind person.

[CrabCakes11]

As a woman, I can assure that women are visual and find certain men attractive

[OfMiceandMen]

He may get more hot dates, but that doesn't mean he'll get a second one if he's and ass and knows he's hot. If he does, then he can bet that's all she's interested in and it's nothing serious.

[paledreams]

I'm probably ugly and yet I still manage to impress myself with the ladies ♀️ I just don't proceed to anything than light flirting in public and then carry on with my day lol 😆 surely they just want tips in the tip jar for a coffee lol 😆

[Vegasrunner]

It's a component but not only factor. An ugly rich guy gets way more dates than a handsome broke guy.

[Anonymous]

ugly guys would be lucky not to get a sexual harassment claim filed on them just for merely approaching even an ugly woman

[CrabCakes11]

It’s very easy not to get a sexual harassment claim. All you have to do is not sexually harass women

[Opinion Owner]

@CrabCakes11 or to simply not exist as an ugly man

you should tell that to all the ugly men who has been falsely accused and had the cops called on them or lost their jobs over such false claims because of "feelings"

[Nirmroth]

Whats with that doomer mindset. I have never heard of someone getting a sexual harassment when approaching girls even tho a lot really do deserve it from what I hear from storys of female friends.

Dont find a bullshit excuse why you are not approaching women. Even ugly isn't a safe excuse if you're in a club you do see men I would consider ugly getting on with girls

[Opinion Owner]

@Nirmroth dude, you just contradicted yourself. you say you never heard it before and then you say you hear from your female friends. has nothing to do with mindset. just straight facts.

is there a financial, legal and moral obligation for this "excuse" you speak of?

"see men I would consider ugly" ah yes... guys YOU would consider ugly, not them.

[Nirmroth]

I said I heard of some who deserve it not that they have gotten it.

I don't know were you are getting your "facts" from when you apparently never approached a girl. Were does this confidence come from to talk bs while not having the balls to approach and talk to women?

I think I am able to differentiate what is an attractive person and not looks wise. Obviously tastes differ but isn't it nice then that what one thinks is unattractive, is attractive for another? Why do you think you're ugly, just bec you judged yourself to be

[Opinion Owner]

@Nirmroth where's your evidence for your baseless claims of me "apparently never approached a girl"? who says I'm speaking for myself when I'm speaking for others too.

why do you feel the need to get personal of a sudden?

and once again what's this financial, legal and moral obligation for this "excuse" you speak of?

[Nirmroth]

Bec you never mentioned beeing a multiple registered sexual offender as per your belief that women will report you for sexual harassment when approached. Thus by your own logic you can't have approached women.

I did get personal bec it seems that were your believe comes from, a lack of self esteem. This isn't bad everyone got their struggles but you're rejecting yourself based on the fantasy fear of getting behind bars for just talking to a human. This isn't a crime.

I dont get what you mean with that last Paragraph. I said beeing ugly isn't an excuse to not go up to talk to women.

[Opinion Owner]

@Nirmroth because cops don't automatically put everyone who gets accused of sexual harassment on the sex offender's list... sometimes cops know when a woman is bullshitting them. it's one thing if the sex offender's registry was fully accurate which it isn't and there's still innocent men on that list

there's no "fantasy fear" or "fear" of any sort. just stating the obvious. different looks = different treatment by different people otherwise they'd be no such thing as preferences

what's the financial, legal or moral obligation a man has to not go up to talk to a woman? does he need to do it? is it that important for him and a part of society overall? if not, then where's the excuse?

[Nirmroth]

Surely there are innocent men on it but I am still not convincend I saw it way to often how women brush advances off without filing a police report I don't know who even makes that much effort. Even with the men who can't take a no as answer they hardly if ever face the consequences.

That I agree with people get treated better if better looking but still dont agree with this overreaction you're implying here. That remains a fantasy fear as you call it.

A man doesn't need to go up to a woman, did I imply that? Thought we talked about our hypothetical man here who is single and wants to get to known some women. Talking to them would be a first step if he seeks any sort of relationship.

[Nirmroth]

Ofc he doesn't have to, if he doesn't want to but would limit himself to basically online dating only

[Opinion Owner]

@Nirmroth well, you called it an excuse like a man has to go up to a woman. this is a common tactic used by pickup artists to shame men into buying their shitty products.

an excuse applies when there's an obligation involved e. g. showing up to work on time

whether you believe it's an excuse or not doesn't take away from the fact, sexual harassment has a lot of subjectivity involved because it still boils down to reciprocity.

if she's reciprocates to the guy, she wouldn't say no and therefore he wouldn't have to take no for an answer. if she doesn't reciprocate, that's where she has grounds for claiming sexual harassment hence it is subjective.

and reciprocity tends to happen to those we are attracted to even if it's just an initial attraction

[Nirmroth]

Why are you then trying spreading this panic that you shouldn't approach a women bec she could report you which then ofc is a different question if that would hold up in court if its 1v1. Definition of harassment doesn't sound like going up to someone and then leaving when they reject you, its when you continue your advance.

Furthermore if there really are a few women out there that get a female boner from reporting guys they dont like then it would still be not adviced to never approach a woman bec there's always a small risk involved in whatever you do like driving your car to work.

I have been rejected multiple times and never got any harassment claims/security called etc and never saw that happen to anyone else in a club. The most I saw was a guy getting grabbed by security bec he was like right in their face and wouldn't go away despite them visibly trying to get away from him. Guy wasn't even ugly just damn drunk

[Opinion Owner]

@Nirmroth what panic am I spreading? just pointing out facts. if people wish to panic, that's on them. just like covid-19 was real. that's not panic, that's the truth. it has nothing to do with shoppers stocking up on toilet paper or party-goers refusing to wear masks at a party

whether men choose to approach women or not, that's on them. I'm not telling them what to do or what not to do. still doesn't change the fact sexual harassment is subjective otherwise it'll be easy to prove in court. not even rape and domestic violence is easy to prove in court, quite easy to lie about it.

the problem with your risk analogy is that there are no consequences for lying or overemphasizing a misunderstanding while there are consequences for terrible driving. factors of most of which are within your control.

[Anonymous]

Do hot women get more dates than ugly ones? You don't seriously need an answer, do you?

[_piotr]

Men are not women. There is no physical attraction from women towards men, while men are in awe of female form. These two situations are totally different.

[Opinion Owner]

Total nonsense

[CrabCakes11]

@_piotr that’s not true. Women are attracted to attractive men

[GeminiDiamond]

What is perceived as unattractive to a male might blow your mind when a female finds that guy hot. We are God's mystery.

[CrabCakes11]

Yes. Women prefer men that they are attracted to. Did you really have to ask this?

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Is it bad if I really hate saying yes to this question?

[Sevenpointfive]

yes. ugly guys get the young hot girls that have nowhere to go, so long as they have money

[handsomelad70]

Yes. It's obvious hot guys attract more women than plainer guys.

[DrPepper12]

Yes. Next question

[Flatmanlewis]

Depends on his income.

[msc545]

Of course they do. This is such an obvious answer.

[Sonorous]

Yes.

[Luopio27]

If it only was that easy!

[whistlingwh0res]

I prefer cute guys

[impalabill77]

Yes they do.

[Anonymous]

Is water wet?

[exitseven]

Ya think?