Girls, How often do girls give ugly guys chances?

[Anonymous]

I’m curious about this because people always say looks and personality matter but that’s just not the case

[4ngelic]

for me personally if by ugly you mean below average looking face wise, actually fat or old, then never. average looking and pretty girls dont. only unattractive ones do.

also by the way when people say personality matters it really does, but it only does if the looks of the person are at least okay. personality can't make someone actually unattractive , attractive (at least to someone that isn't at the same looks level)

[Asker]

I’m being totally honest I can’t seem to attract any girl

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I'll say it like this, looks usually get you in the door, but personality gets you to stay the night. I say usually because sometimes the right personality at the right time can also work so believe us when we say looks aren't everything.

[Asker]

I have had some girls tell me they wouldn’t date me if I was the last guy on earth

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Those are not the kind of girls you want to go for anyways. They sound mean and superficial

[Asker]

Well even more confusing and insulting the guy she ended up dating was worse looking then me he didn’t shower and looked raggedy

[Asker]

Mean while my appearance was clean cut I had a nice haircut clean shaven, I was very muscular but not overly

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Lol going to show looks aren't everything. Maybe there is something else going on with you that you aren't seeing?

[Asker]

Well I admit I have low self esteem but that hit a new low when your low someone rather go lower then be with you. But there were multiple elements so first I’m on the autism spectrum. Secondly the more it became clear she wouldn’t date anyone of color I’m mixed black/ white and she was a blonde white girl she also said she didn’t grow up around a lot of people biracial or black

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Well again, that's probably not someone you want to be around who is going to judge you like that for something you can't help.

[Asker]

I think at the core of it outside my looks I haven’t found any girl willing to accept me for me when it comes to my autism

[Asker]

Usually I get laughed at or not taken seriously

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Again, not something you can control but at the same time it can't be your defining attribute either. There are lots of people with autism who have found love.

[Asker]

So even if I’m not gross or hideous looking I still have something major where most women would avoid me

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

You aren't trying to attract most women though. You are trying to attract the right woman. The right woman isn't going to care about your looks or autism. She is going to care how you treat her. Don't push women away with lamenting about being autistic.

[Asker]

Well how I communicate is totally different for example I don’t know how to flirt and I’m not good with social skills. Most people know what to say in conversations I have no clue and the conversation just dies out. Secondly communication is different like I don’t understand sarcasm to a certain extent

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

You said you knew how to make people laugh in another post, so you obviously have some social skills. Flirting is overrated. Just be honest, kind, and don't front load your low self esteem into conversations and you'll be fine.

[Asker]

Basically my traits only carry me so far before I scare women off

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Then you work on it

[Nikki1989]

Personality will always win out in most cases. Sadly, many men just don't have it, so they blame their failures purely on their looks.

[Asker]

I do have a good personality I’m a gentleman also I’m can easily make people laugh