What should I do about my boyfriend who is usually always late?

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What should I do about my boyfriend who is usually always late

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I often tried to plan extra time. Like I’d double the time it would take to get somewhere.

My sister is terrible about being on time, unless it’s HER thing. They’d often areive several hours after the agreed time. Yeah, they would blame the kids (why they never accounted for that extra time is a moot point)

My brother is often late. He starts out late. He doesn’t pay attention to his cell phone, so if I tect him to remind him, he’ll ignore it or insist on leaving at a time in his mind that never accounts for construction, traffic jams, etc.

Before digital automatic clocks and watches, I’d put my clocks about 20 minutes ahead. If someone asked the time, I’d just subtract twenty minutes.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You can't be "usually always late", you're either one or the other so which is it? If he's never on time, that means he's always late. If he's occasionally on time and never early, that means he's usually late. Anyway, back to your question.

You can start giving him the wrong times for the appointment depending on how late he usually is. If you need him there by 4 pm and he's usually a 1/2 hour late, tell him the appointment is for 3:15 pm. The other thing you can do is LEAVE if he's more than 15 minutes late without notifying you.

SphynxUK · Accepted Answer

Some people cannot gauge time very well, and as a result, are often late. If he’s late for anything and everything, he probably can’t help it.
When you are making arrangements, tell him the time an hour earlier than the time you want to go.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Always reward timeliness so he has incentive to be on time.

Time the tardiness, not waiting past a designated span of time, till he figures out that he gets extra ❤️🌸❤️🌸 for timeliness and the fisheye 🐟🐠🐡 for tardiness.

AviatorTom · Answer

Do the same thing we guys do for our girls who are always late. Learn to put up with it. You can try giving him an earlier due time, but he'll catch on, it won't work.

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

Does he apologize for being late? Does he have a good reason for being late, like a kid or a stressful job or something?

You're 25-29, so I guess your boyfriend is the same age. I assume he's a functional adult, with a job and a place to live and all that?

Has he ever explained why being on time is so hard for him?

paledreams · Answer

It wouldn't bother me if my girlfriend was always late. It doesn't bother me much in reality when people I know are late. I'm sometimes late myself. Everyone's human. If it bothers you lady, do nothing or tell him sweetly it bothers you or just plain find a new boyfriend, what else can GAGers say other than - how's the weekend been? How's the weather? Jolly good 😊👍🏻

OddBeMe · Answer

That’s one of the small things that can ruin a relationship. If it bothers you that much, keep that in mind when deciding to keep the relationship.

Marriages collapse because of dirty dishes, toothpaste tubes and being late. As someone who is always late too, we don’t usually change. It’s chronic with us. I don’t know why.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Tell him to show up on time, and don't wait around for him if he doesn't show. He'll get the message quick.

SugarSugarplum · Answer

Try this:

patois · Answer

Why's he late? Does he have a demanding job, does he live far away and need to fight traffic, or is he just Black or something like that.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

When you want to meet up at 10, tell him to meet up at 9.. and keep doing it..

handsomelad70 · Answer

Tell him that punctuality is a sign of a mature person and see if he becomes more reliable.

serious · Answer

Have a discussion with him and tell him punctuality is something that is important to you.

DarkOsiris · Answer

Late to what? If he's late to dates, I'd be concerned about his commitment to the relationship.

azbaeu · Answer

Some people can't manage time like if this is part of him cuz he's late to literally everything then you're expecting something he can't give you if you want him to be on time

DrPepper12 · Answer

Tell him you're a few weeks late and see how he likes it...

pethouse · Answer

Depends, if he’s only late for you than you need to talk to him about it. If he’s late for everything we’ll then it’s not just you

serious_miss419 · Answer

Do not adapt to his laziness. He needs to buck up, or he may lose you.

Angie03 · Answer

Say something if he continues end it cause he doesn’t respect you.

shortster · Answer

Tell him things start half an hour earlier than they do?

Neatfinity_YT · Answer

I’m never late I’m either on time or extremely early

spartan55 · Answer

Uh, hold him accountable.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

“… usually always…” Hahahaha!

SweetDripp · Answer

So which is it, usually or always?

goaded · Answer

Tell him an earlier time!

sheikalana · Answer

Next time he makes you wait leave.

jahaims · Answer

Plan for him to be late

Twalli · Answer

Tell him to get there earlier than he needs to.

Goodoldguy · Answer

Make it clear to him

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