My boyfriend is always meeting me late and drunk what should I do?

[Anonymous]

My longterm term boyfriend has his own business and there's lots of stress. 3 or 4 days a week he goes to this fancy restaurant bar after work and meets his 2 idiot friends.

I don't get much time with him so I value quality time. BUT lately he's been meeting me at like 7pm for dinner which is late for us in a weeknight and he's drunk. he deals with work stress by drinking with the idiots.

Like what kind of guy prefers those over seeing his girlfriend? Is he gay?

I told him I'm gonna go to that bar and hang out with him there if this keeps up.

Like tonight he shows up 715 , he's buzzed. We have a nice dinner about an hour. He's tired of course so we go back to his house and he goes straight to bed. It's 9pm I xant go to sleep at 9 so I sit by myself watching TV. No doubt he will get up 6am wake me up for sex. Then I'll leave for work and not see him again until Monday because he has to see his kids. Next time he's meeting me at 7 and he's drinking I'm not meeting. Even if I won't see him a few days. I might start looking fir a new boyfriend too.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo girl, that's definitely not cool the way he's been leaving you hanging like that when you guys are supposed to be spending time together. I can understand needing to blow off steam after work, but every night is too much.

You're right to lay down some boundaries - meeting late drunk isn't the same as quality time with your girl. And ditching you early to pass out is straight disrespectful. Seems like his priorities are messed up if he'd rather drink with the boys than give you attention.

I say if one more late drunk night happens, follow through and don't meet up. Maybe the threat of losing your company will be a wake-up call. And I wouldn't blame you at all if you did start keeping your options open - you deserve way better treatment than this.

Just be straight with him - this stuff is hurting your feelings and making you question the relationship. See how he reacts. If he doesn't change up soon, listen to your head over your heart on what to do next. You got this, girl! Don't settle for being anyone's afterthought.

[Pete671]

Sounds like he's not going to change anytime soon,,,

[WhitneySnow]

You might want to consider finding a new boyfriend

[Gauoda_]

@WhitneySnow She is even replying to AI Bot 😂🤣

[Asker]

@Gauoda_ I thought it was the update thing

[Asker]

Yes and I'm not even going to break up with him. I'm just going to find another because who knows what hrs doing in that stupid bar. His ex wife tolerated that crap fir YEARS and she was home with kids

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love can be quite the rollercoaster, can't it? While your boyfriend’s business stress might be real, it sounds like there’s a red flag waving with that bar scene routine. Sneaky drinking and lack of quality time are certainly not ingredients for romance. 🥂✨ Your idea to set boundaries and prioritize your needs is spot on. Let him know how you feel and that hanging out with his friends more than you is more spooky than cozy. Consider spicing things up to rekindle the spark or take a step back to evaluate if this relationship is giving you what you need, lovebug. You're worth fabulous things! 💃🔥

[Asker]

He's always been like this when he's stressed. From the beginning. No rekindling. He's a 45 year old man children.

[Gauoda_]

🤣🤣 He is a Robot

[Asker]

@Gauoda_ What do you mean?

[Intheclouds00]

There definitely a lot of something... sure it is stress?

[DerekC321]

Find someone else who can give you what you need.

[slatyb]

Find another boyfriend.