What do I do if my boyfriend shows up to school drunk?

[campbpey]

[aaron13547]

I was that kid doing bad shit. Looking back on it now it now I'd like to say i wish someone would have put a boot in my ass and made me see i was going down the wrong path. I ruined my life but I don't think anyone could have made me see that. when someone tried I pushed back harder. The only thing you really can do, is help him see how to be better. It's his choose if he wants to see it or not. I'd say what you should do is start thinking about yourself. Him being drunk he is thinking about only himself. So what is it you want? Those thought probably involve him... but they don't have to... If you could make life anything you want how would you make it go. That's how I make hard life decisions now... I didn't take help from my high-school girlfriend, I rebeled even more when she tried to help... good luck and learn to trust yourself, be aware you already pick people to be with you can't trust.

[campbpey]

thanks that means a lot

[aaron13547]

Yep. I really hope it helps. Maybe this will be his wake up call maybe not... just do what you think is right. Life is about the journey, he might not look like he's on the right one now. but just because it isn't right for you, doesn't mean it isn't right for him... Im not proud of all the bad and wrong things I did in my past but I am proud of the knowledge and will power i learned from my mistakes. him waiting to do something you don't, like drink in school, is just a sign your growing apart instead of together. Change is part of everyone's life. Fighting change always causes pain.

[Summeroflove]

Yep and why you should go ahead and tell someone before it gets worse

[ohsheeT]

You are who you hang with if he's your boyfriend your going to start getting in trouble to. And people are going to start thinking your drinking with him. And it won't matter if you are or not.
People will think you are just because he's your boyfriend

[campbpey]

truth hurts tbh

[Summeroflove]

And that’s also true

[ohsheeT]

Its not meant to hurt it meant to be honest with yourself. And change

But there are times when truth is said and nothing has to be said

[DishLady]

Tell him he has a problem.


Try to support his going to AA.


If he is not willing to turn a new leaf you have to walk away.

[RyBug]

Kick him to the curb. Tell someone at school. Tell the truth.

[campbpey]

but I dont want him to get in trouble

[RyBug]

YOu are going to have to face the truth soon

[campbpey]

i know...

[Hardon-Collider]

You don't argue with him or try to fix him in that moment. You do what is necessary to protect the social space of the school. You are not a therapist; you are a member of a community, and a community has rules. The reality of his drunk state is that he is a physical manifestation of the economic sphere—raw, chaotic desire—violating the spiritual-cultural space of the school. You have a duty to protect that space. So you get him out of there. You create a boundary and enforce it. You don't let him drag you into the chaos. You protect the integrity of the school and the safety of everyone in it, which includes you. That is the only sensible and responsible thing to do.

[RavVid]

How many times has this happened? If you drink heavily at night, there is still alcohol in your blood the the next day but unlikely not enough to be obviously drunk.

If you don't know already, establish how much he is drinking and allow for him to be likely lying about it. I'd guess he likely is stealing alcohol from his parent/s stocks who might likely be alcoholics.

Obviously you are concerned but if he is also an alcoholic don't think you care cure him. You don't have the maturity at 14 to deal with it. Adults don't have the maturity to deal with an alcoholic boyfriend/girlfriend. Trust me on this, I had for a time a relationship with an alcoholic.

Your best course of action is to relegate your boyfriend to just be a friend. That is less demanding on you. Talk to your parents. I'd say talk to his parent/s but for my guess they are probably the source.

With an alcoholic, the bottle is always more important than you.

[Zack-Bann]

Get his friends involved in sobering him up
And then get mad at him


If you enable him now he’ll be an addict before long


He needs to know it’s not a “flex”
He’s not somehow cooler than the other kids for day drinking before school

[LEGENDARY4200]

Not much you can really do maybe suggest that he go home

[campbpey]

well yea but I don't want him to get in trouble tho

[LEGENDARY4200]

I understand that, hence getting him outta there

[campbpey]

well the whole grade already knows so he's probably getting called down to the office soon

[LEGENDARY4200]

He can just leave... "say he wasn't feeling good". Doesn't matter what anyone thinks only what they can prove. No him, no proof.

[campbpey]

that would be a good idea except for the fact that he's already in the office

[LEGENDARY4200]

Hmmmm

[campbpey]

lol.

[LEGENDARY4200]

Fuck I'd just tell them I accidentally drank some "fermented" cranberry juice that was in my vehicle or some shit. My bad 😁 was an accident 😉

[campbpey]

lmao

[LEGENDARY4200]

Well hope everything works out

[campbpey]

hopefully

[LEGENDARY4200]

Good luck

[campbpey]

well he might have been expelled

[LEGENDARY4200]

That's a possibility i suppose

[campbpey]

that's a rumor that's going around so yea

[LEGENDARY4200]

You said it "rumor" until proven otherwise

[campbpey]

that's true ig

[LEGENDARY4200]

Forsure

[genericname85]

i mean do you think it's ok that he is drunk?

[campbpey]

well I don't know if he does it outside of school but just not at school

[genericname85]

no i meant do you personally feel it's "ok" if he does that?

[Anonymous]

there's nothing you can do about it

[campbpey]

that's not really helpful

[Jennz6]

Pretend you don’t know him

[Summeroflove]

Tell your teacher

[campbpey]

I don't want him to be in trouble

[Summeroflove]

Well he can hurt himself or make himself sick by being drunk. So he can die… so do you want a dead boyfriend or a boyfriend in trouble

[campbpey]

thanks for making REALLY FUCKING WORRIED

[Summeroflove]

So you need to tell a adult

[Summeroflove]

Alcohol poisoning. Falling down the stairs. Or…. Just he does something REALLY stupid while his judgment is impaired and gets into a lot more trouble then he can get himself out of.

[Summeroflove]

More trouble then if you just said something

[Londrer]

take away his keys

[Titlover01]

Just leave him alone

[campbpey]

he's my boyfriend tho

[Titlover01]

Well then talk to him and tell him how you don’t like it

[campbpey]

bro can not be talking when your username is titlover

[Titlover01]

What do you mean by thats

[campbpey]

like why should I listen to advice from you

[Titlover01]

Well then don’t