Trying to temporarily forget about girls due to my bad appearance. Is it reasonable?

[Anonymous]

I’m a 21 yo guy, balding and stuttering. I’m tall and fit (i’ve been a swimmer for a decade. Now that i’ve quit, i’ve been going to the gym for about 4 years)

It's probably one of the worst combinations, honestly. Balding at 21 sucks as hell (i've been taking meds for around 6 months and nothing changed at all): it makes you look WAY older. Stuttering is often associated with weakness, so it adds up to the balding problem.

I’m thinking about dedicating myself to my passion (cinema: both watching it and making it). It hurts a bit to know that most of my friends keep getting to know girls and dating, while i feel horrible… but it is what it is. I do have girl friends, i know how to be funny and so on… but i just don’t feel worthy of a relationship (i’ve never felt worthy, tbf).

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn dude, I can imagine how tough that must be. Balding and a stutter at such a young age would be rough on anyone's confidence. But don't feel like it defines you or that you're not worthy of a relationship!

Some thoughts - yes, diving into your passion for cinema is an awesome way to focus your energy right now. Pursuing what you love is always good for the soul. And who knows, through film events or projects you may even meet cool girls with similar interests.

Also keep in mind most girls care way more about who you are as a person than superficial stuff. You said you have friends, are funny, and active - those qualities will attract people. And any girl worth your time won't judge over something out of your control.

Maybe consider counseling too if your low self-esteem persists. Nothing wrong with getting help to boost your mindset. But don't give up on finding someone special someday. You deserve happiness just like anyone else! Stay positive man.

[meepmeeperton]

Not a bad idea. If you focus on your passion and career, you build worth as a man over time. Before you know it, you won't be a bald 21 year old anymore, you'll be a bald 31 year old with a decade of building your skill. That will attract worthwhile women. Most of the girls your friends date and hook up with won't be anything long term.

[Nikki1989]

Rampant insecurity is never reasonable. It is a mental condition that requires fixing.

[HurremSultan]

Up to you but you shouldn't give up and better yourself