I stopped trying to look pretty, I wear ugly clothes and cover my hair completely because I think being pretty attracts shallow men. How do I cope?

[Wushvd]

When I look in mirror I feel like I wanna look pretty. But I don’t want the attention that comes with it.

[AI Opinion]

It's understandable to feel conflicted about appearance and the attention it brings. Embrace your style in a way that makes you comfortable and confident. Focus on what makes you feel good, whether that's adding small, personal touches or experimenting with looks you enjoy. Remember, dressing for yourself can be empowering and a reflection of how you cherish your individuality. Enjoy expressing yourself without the pressure of outside expectations. But hey, don't forget to have a little fun with it! 😊

[Realistic07]

OK, I’ll give it to you. That is a complicated conundrum. There is so much to cover like your question is less of a question and more of a life dynamics conundrum. t’s funny how it works right everyone has their thing that is both good and bad simultaneously. Life is a pain in the Butt like that.


For example, I’m a fluffy guy, but I’m one of the most athletically tuned people you will ever meet. More flexible than most people, and more capable than you will ever know. I am fortunate to have lived the life where I have done things unimaginable, and imaginable all at the same time. You look at me in real life for everything I have really done in my life. People would never know; Because as it turns out as we are just finding out the development of the human body in a certain way, we have discovered the sleeper body. The unassuming looking Joe Who little do you know is a beast In disguise.


So yeah, life is crazy, people are crazy, society is crazy, genders are Crazy (Yes, everyone), and the entire planet as a whole, cultures throughout, from then & there, to hear & now ultimately reaching after & beyond are all crazy…




I can officially say that with confidence that there is no such thing as normal, and to realize reality as I have, let me understand that Chaos theory is real and the depths of it. In addition has let me find faith in a way that truly gave me the understanding that God is working harrrrrd!


So All of that now, let’s bring it back to you. You are beautiful, you know yourself to be beautiful, you wear messed up clothing so that way you can appear ugly, but ultimately, you are still beautiful.


You say people treat you certain ways and seek your beauty over who you are as a person. That said who you are as a person, clearly struggles with the reality that people are vain and crazy in that way. Mind you at times not always and Yes, it can be many times over a few moments. That said you are who you are and you should not bring yourself down to any made up level; because it really is a made-up thing when people dictate levels or ugliness. Beauty is an illusion Ugliness is an illusion. There is a reason people say beauty is in the eye of the beholder.


Trust me, I’ve seen enough relationships in my Day. Know that there is someone truly for everybody on this God-given earth. Are there soulmates sure everybody is a Potential soulmate. That said the point is everyone has someone or many someone in this world who they will find to be with. If that is true, then beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder.


How many women have you seen with potentially fat slobs, or thin men with large women? Im going to guess many and if not, I’m here to tell you. Yes there are many. The funny part is, that’s not even touching the ever expansive spectrum of people who wind up being with each other.


The point of all of this statement is that you are who you are, and people are who they are. Some or many are vain, some or many aren’t. There are too many of us to make any general statement and life is a crazy thing It has high and lows. People that we think are good, who are ultimately just crappy people, and people who are genuinely good judge, harshly. Sometimes in our judgment, we create crappy people, and sometimes in how we’ve been treated, we act like crappy people. As humans everyone to their own spectrum of course, But it’s life.


We do what we can, and we try our best because life is too short, not to live the way we choose to live, and life is way too crazy to let other people impose what they do to us or how they make us feel affect how we are going to choose to be by dammit!


I don’t know about you, but I choose to be who I am regardless of people notice or not, I hope you choose to be the same. Ultimately, though that is your choice, if you think wearing ugly clothing is somehow going to change how people are feel free and try. I welcome to live and live experience of life. That said from someone who’s been there in their own way. People are who they are, and if you’re worried about meeting somebody who may be a good person or a bad person, maybe spend some time to get to really know them.


Does that mean 3 to 5 dates before intimacy? Yes. Does that mean spending time to really get to know someone outside of personal judgment? Also, yes. Does that mean setting personal boundaries and letting people know what they are? I feel it self-explanatory, but I’m just gonna go ahead and say yes…


OK, so I think we get the picture Stop treating yourself poorly just because you think somehow people are going to treat you better if you do. Because ultimately that’s cause effect if I dress poorly as a beautiful person somehow I will get more caring people over shallow people. Trust me sometimes it’s worse what you get and that has nothing to do with you. It has to do with the reality that each and every single one of us is a singular individual with their own thoughts. Sometimes those individuals are crazy, which brings us back to the word of the day crazy.


To end off, I Hope that you do fine peace with whatever it is you choose to do with your life. All said this is my answer Life is crazy Sometimes that crazy ride can be really awesome and sometimes it’s not. Live your life how you want to ultimately it’s your choice what happiness is for you. Within reason, one should let no one stop them from finding realistic, joy, and happiness. Should they choose to find it.


I wish you luck in whatever you choose.

[Wushvd]

Thank you.

I’m not good with verbalizing boundaries to others. Suppose that’s part of why I’d rather take preemptive action against being used by shallow people.

[Wushvd]

Can k ask what your profile picture symbolizes to you?

[Realistic07]

The duality of life. How one thing can look one way and be another. The simple statement that there are no simple statements. Nothing happens without a reason. A simple but complicated message oven image that I believe to depict my beliefs

[ClassicDropout]

That's in poor taste. That's like men saying they quit their jobs to avoid gold diggers... come on now... or are you intentionally trying to say that men that appreciate attractive women are shallow?