Dating a 41 guy with a 20 years girl is a big deal 🤝?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Not a big deal , your both considered adults and age really means shit. Yes you will hear others’ judging your relationship with him , here and there , but ignore those people , it’s your relationship not theirs. All that matters is you are both happy being with each other and you both have great chemistry and connection together , fuck what other people think or say , most people in general are hypocrites and judgmental people. When you choose your partner the same way you want them choosing you , is all that matters , make each other your top priority over everyone e else in this world, and you will more than likely have a long lasting happy relationship with each other. Do not allow other people to influence your decision of being with him , Most people have no clue what they are talking about by trying to rub their 2 cents together , most people that talk shit are jealous of what you have and what they don’t have, So again ignore those people, because they are hypocrites , they will talk shit until they meet someone that has an age gap with them , and than all of a sudden it’s ok for them to be in a relationship with someone with an age gap. Why I ignore most people in general that talk shit and just shake my head and laugh

HighValue · Accepted Answer

It is fine for a long term relationship. The important thing is having compatible morals, compatible long term life goals, and having some things in common you both enjoy doing together. That is what helps a relationship to last.

Men that want a woman that hasn't been damaged by lots of drugs and alcohol, and hasn't had casual sex (immoral), and doesn't have kids from past relationships, and likes doing outdoor physical activities will often prefer a young woman because they are more likely to be compatible. Just make sure that he lives up to the same standards he is looking for in you too (not a hypocrite) and it should be good.

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

yea kinda like that's 21 years appart. huge gap in maturity, life stage, also probs hobbies, goals and interests. also 20 is still an age where it's kinda creepy when a grownnnn ass person wants to date you

guessing your the 20yo girl too, so be aware also that there's a big risk he might just be in it just for sex and being able to flex you around not for genuine feelings. also you might face problems socially cause of your relationship

though if he's somehow a green flag, you vibe well and find each other interesting despite the generational gap, then it can be okay

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If he is 41 going for a 20 yr old. there's a good chance he is just with you cuz your tits are still perky and hole is still tight. Cuz there's nothing I can ever imagine you would have in common with him. He will delude you that he's so in love with you. By the time you hit 35, he will trade you for another 20 yr old. I have seen it happen. Steer clear of these pervs

DarkLegacy · Answer

Only to losers who have nothing better to be doing then judging others. You will have plenty of bitter older women who have a problem with it. It is perfectly ok for guys in their 40s to date women in the 20s and for women in their 20s to date guys in their 40s.

meepmeeperton · Answer

Some people think it’s gross or creepy. I say eh, it’s whatever. It’s unusual but not really creepy to me. The main problem with that big of an age gap is if you actually spend your life together he will die way before you which is pretty sad. He might also feel like he’s taking your youth away from you if he dates you, so he’ll decline dating you even though he’d probably feel lucky to have a young girl interested in him.

Anonymous · Answer

only in the west does society make it a big deal

elsewhere around the world, age gap relationships aren't that uncommon and no one has a problem with it

if personality is most important as western society says it should be, then it should override any immutable characteristics like age, race, height etc.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

It's a very hard & bumpy relationship from what I understand. You both are different in experience, maturity, and where you're at in life. You both will have very different goals too.

Mark987 · Answer

That is a huge deal. I find that personally disturbing. I know women mature faster than men.. but that isn't it. I have dated women about 6 years younger than me and I felt there was a huge experience gap. Men should not date women that are more than 10 years younger and also depends the age ( if he is 50 and her 40) is okay, but not that big of an age gap.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Not a big deal, but I would not expect it to last for very long. At that age difference they most likely don't have a lot in common and it will be a little awkward with respect to meeting friends, etc.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

dude is old enough to be her father so yeah. its a bit of a big deal.

WonderingManII · Answer

It's a 11 years difference. My Grandparents had a 10 year difference between them, and they stayed married until my Grandfather passed away at the age of 90. It just depends if those two are right for each other or not.

Anonymous · Answer

Total creep fest, but men will go out of their way to normalise it.

HawkPerception · Answer

As long as you're okay with it, it's fine. 20 is an adult and she can make her own decisions in life. Age matters less and less, the older you get.

Radiate143 · Answer

No. Who cares. But be careful. Older guys like to puppet master much younger women because grown women won't put up with their BS.

LOGESHKUMAR · Answer

Yes it will not be soft relationship.. Because you have 2 decades of gap.. Their thought process would be different & idea will be different & 20 year girl thought process & ideas would be more different..

molonski2 · Answer

No , I did that , multiple times when I was early 40s , all great , all good , highly sexual.

joehypo1 · Answer

I dont think but some might of coarse i dont feel that old either or look it

Sasquach · Answer

He's old enough that if you called him dad in public, people might actually believe you lmao. But really though, if it doesn't bother you, who cares what others think?

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

You can date him but just know he's in it for sex cause you and him have nothing in common just think when you was born he was 21 that a big age difference

zedzed1755 · Answer

In a way yes. At 40 you are going to be at a different pont in life compared to when you were 20. You both want different things.

nawtee_me · Answer

Not at all, I think that I am ready for another 18 to 20 year old. It has been a few years since I dated one.

swatidi · Answer

Im a boy I have moobs I have bigger chest as compared to mens I don't wear anything but sometimes I think my mobs is bouncing what do I do then?

bannacookies · Answer

Not a big deal. Lots of girls have daddy issues.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Wild gap in maturity and likely a large power imbalance but it's legal 🤷‍♂️

Theodoricus · Answer

Sorry, but this is not so intelligent.  All the best!

OtterMan68 · Answer

If he's OK with going to frat parties and keggers, it's OK.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Whom consenting adults date is not my business.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Sorta, but as a 70-year-old chap I'd date a 21-year-old girl.

jahaims · Answer

Duh, he has more than twice the life experience. It would be weird to be romantically compatible.

NYlatefun · Answer

It’s ok, I’ve done that age difference before, it works out well.

Twalli · Answer

The age difference is a nit concerning since he's old enough to be her father.

Anonymous · Answer

My friends in college dated such guys, some relations lasted some broke down. It depends on the individual.

Jennz6 · Answer

No, it happens all the time

lightbulb27 · Answer

dating anyone is a big deal.

Levin · Answer

She wants a daddy. It's rate.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

That is not a big deal, at all.

Petite_Cherry · Answer

Nope have fun!

slatyb · Answer

Yes, it is. How did you meet?

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Pretty big deal, yeah.

Dongie · Answer

Yep. That's a blessed man, boy.

LostSouls_ · Answer

No it’s not

Nice222 · Answer

It’s all good.

Anonymous · Answer

it’s OK you tell me your thoughts

May_Summers · Answer

No it's not

msc545 · Answer

No problem.

shortster · Answer

Is not that strange

helpfulboy · Answer

Age doesn't matter

noohair · Answer

No it is fine.

eagle1951 · Answer

why?

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