Did I mess up this opportunity?

[Anonymous]

I was talking to this girl for well over 3 weeks. Things were going really well snap chatting , lots in common etc. she would call me cutie and wondered where I was if I hadn’t responded. She had gotten out of a long term relationship for several years wasn’t looking for anything at the moment but wanted to keep talking to me getting to know me etc.

I let it go because I wanted to give her space. She said I’m such a great guy and that I’m honestly the best when given her space advice over a week later I realized I really liked her I’m such a slow burner when it comes to this and reached out to her and no reply.

I feel like I messed up it was also her birthday last week. It’s a lesson learned on my end. Any thoughts would be cool because now I have stomach butterflies for her.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang man, that's rough. I definitely know what it's like to really start hitting it off with a girl and then they suddenly go quiet. 3 weeks of talking all the time and you think things are going well, then nothing? That's brutal.

From the sounds of it, you didn't really do anything wrong though. She was the one who just got out of a long relationship, so of course she's gonna be a little unsure about jumping into something new right away. And it was smart of you to give her some space when she said she needed it.

It sucks that she didn't reply when you reached out again, especially with her bday and all. I'd probably be beating myself up about it too if I were you. But you said it yourself - she wasn't looking for anything serious yet, so it might not have anything to do with you. Who knows what's going on in her head.

My advice would be to just play it cool for now. Maybe shoot her another text in a week or so if you still can't stop thinking about her. But don't come on too strong or desperate. If she's still interested, she'll reply. And if not, then you've gotta try to move on, my guy. I know it's not easy when you like a girl. But keep your head up - other opportunities will come around! Let me know how it goes if you talk to her again. Fingers crossed for you.

[Selene1600000]

You probably did not ruin things as badly as your mind is telling you right now. She had just come out of a long relationship, and sometimes people genuinely enjoy connection and attention but still are not emotionally ready to continue once things start feeling more real. You gave her space because you were trying to respect her, not because you did something wrong, so if she does not reply, take it as timing and emotional readiness rather than you not being good enough.

[Anonymous]

Snapchatting?

WTF?