Did I lose my chance?

[Anonymous]

so, i receive a screenshot from my female friend that my ex-boyfriend assumed that i had talked shits about him to people around me ( that i didn't even talked shits about him at all ). he also told my female friend that he had took a break from me too. ( which it's the truth of us taking a break )

however, i just felt so wronged and bitter because that's show how much trust he had in me and would we even have a chance of getting back together? will he even think i'm just like any of his exes that he dated - immature?

[Jdjfjcjj]

Either his past experiences have created some insecurities that he started feeling again

Youve been doing some other stuff that he's kept bottled up and someone may have said something coincidental that made him assume you did, or he heard a rumor and believed it because he was already bottling up resentment.

Or one of your friends sabotaged y'all's relationship and fed to a lot of bullshit.

It's odd that your friend values her anonymity over your ability to clear things up. If I had to guess, I'd say your girl friend is in some way being a bad friend

[Asker]

i bottled up things i had figured out by myself because i just knew that he would not tell me the truth even i had to question about him. and i felt like he should be the one to text me when he already assume things that i did not do. i just clarify things with my female friends and i'm not stupid just to ruin my relationship, especially if we were on a break.

[MystiKaL]

He's assumed based on what? Has someone been pot stirring as they were jealous?

I would send him a polite message saying that you have never bad mouthed him and you feel hurt that he has assumed this, based on nothing.

If he is man enough, he will apologise for assuming and you may have a chance to rekindle your love. Otherwise, you don't need to do anything more as you haven't done anything wrong. And if he refuses to believe you, do you really want him back?

[Asker]

i never send him a message because my female friend don't want him to know that i actually know about this behind his back, but i do want him.

[MystiKaL]

It's gonna be difficult to resolve this if you and him don't discuss this. You will need to speak to your friend and explain how you are feeling. Otherwise, he will get the wrong impression of you based on hearsay.

[Jdjfjcjj]

I agree it's pretty shady for her to want you to keep what he says to yourself so she doesn't look bad to him versus you being able to possibly mend your relationship.

If she your friend her loyalty to you should be her primary concern. I bet she telling you that she's trying to figure as much as she can fo your benefit. What what benefit are you getting by her not wanting you to use the info she gives you

[MystiKaL]

@Jdjfjcjj Very good points.

[boggboss]

Clearly he thinks u are just one of his exs

[In_Trance]

yeah