Did I miss my only opportunity or was it something that simply isn’t supposed to happen?

[Anonymous]

Ok so I’m on the autism spectrum I recently am coming out of a 2 year relationship where there was so much friction because she’s simply not used to being around people who are autistic and would rather be around someone normal well anyways I’m 31 and I don’t have many places it could realistically happen so is this it for the dating life. I have been back on the apps but nothing

[HappyWoman34]

No. I have Asperger’s too. Maybe you just were with the wrong woman?

[Asker]

Yeah she called it making excuses

[HappyWoman34]

Sometimes though, it’s hard to tell the difference between when we’re making excuses and when we are disabled by our symptoms.

[HappyWoman34]

I suggest either staying single or joining more social groups where you can meet other aspie women who will be more understanding of your issues and have some themselves.

[HappyWoman34]

I’m speaking from experience as someone who does better dating other aspies.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s what I’m doing I struggle with big social events and she once threatened to break up because I was letting my friends down and it’s inconsiderate none of it was based around the fact I could have a meltdown due to being overstimulated

[HappyWoman34]

Oh I see. I’ve seen problems like this happen. It sounds like either you’re not capable of having a romantic relationship and must come to terms with it, or you need someone who’s more introverted, like you.

[HappyWoman34]

So like, you don’t like bars and big public events, with crowds and lots of noise?

[HappyWoman34]

I don’t either and I’ve had relationships.

[HappyWoman34]

Before giving up, I’d try meeting more aspie women. People who understand your quirks and needs. See how that goes.

[HappyWoman34]

Have you got any questions?

[Asker]

Well she’s also abusive so that’s another reason this relationship has failed as an aspie you know we have slow reaction times and once she slapped me on the back of my head

[HappyWoman34]

Ouch. That’s not good.

[HappyWoman34]

Well, what country are you from?

[HappyWoman34]

My bestie and I are aspie women and I recently found us a free aspie social group, since our old one closed.

[HappyWoman34]

I can google some aspie social groups from your local area if you like?