Three years ago, I quit my job and moved to a new country.
My previous job was well-paid, which allowed me to buy and do whatever I wanted. The only bad thing was that the administration was really bad: firing people for no clear reasons, watching employees in a controling way, hiring imcompetent managers who make their subordinates' life like hell, and other stuff. I had a few unpleasant episodes there. All thess things gave me and othrrs constant anxiety.
So when I a job opportunity in a different country, I took it. The company seemed decent, and the salary seemed fine, but of course much lower than the previous job. Taking this as an opportunity to finally quit and keep my dignity, I did. The idea that finally I was getting rid of toxic workplace was very appealing.
Little did I know what was coming.
First, the new place didn't turn out to be that professional. They did tings in weird ways, attributing their ways to local culture. I told myself ' it's OK, there is no perfect job', which is right. But what made things worse was a financial crisis I had. Were my salary high, I wouldn't have had to get a loan from the bank. But I did.
I do not miss my old job, but I miss my old comfortable life. I have disvovered that I have been trying to deny I regret my decision for three years now. But today, I found myself crying with regret. This sounds crazy because I hated my previous job and I would not go back there. I feel I was stupid to get my current job in this current place, which didn't turn out to be a great place for an expat.
I feel I am trapped here forever: trapped in my debt, job and a place I don't really like.
The mistake I did was following my close friend's advice. She meant to help me, but she failed to put herself in an expat's shoes.
Today, regret is killing me. I tell myself I should have stayed until I found a really good and well-paying job.
How can I alleviate this resurfacing regret?
Thank you all for your advice. I appreciate it❤☺