I missed an opportunity and now can't sleep over it. Should I try again even if it sounds crazy to me?

[Romumango]

There is a LOT of context to this situation, but I'll try to keep it simple and will give more details if asked.

I'm on a trip, I don't speak the local language very well. At a museum, I chatted with a woman staff one on one. She told me I'm good looking, asked me if I was married, if I had a girlfriend. Later in a public group setting, once again she said I was handsome. When taking pictures with the staff, she first took a selfie of us with my phone.

I came back again later to chat, we exchanged first names. I didn't ask for more. She told me to come visit again. I said I definitely wanted to come again in the summer. I left, and I hate myself now.

I can change my schedule a bit and go back again tomorrow afternoon, hoping she'll be on shift. Or I can go back again in two days in the morning, as I have a train to catch in the evening, but it's a Saturday so she might not even be working. If I go back, there's stuff I can do in the museum that I had to skip today because I lacked the time, but I plan on also finding her and being direct (giving my phone number? asking her out directly?)

Or I could also just go back there when I'm in the region in this summer as planned, but who knows if she'll still be there or even remember me.

Or I could try to forget about her, but I really feel like I will regret it if I don't try anything. It's also very most likely only possibly a casual thing, which I don't mind and she probably doesn't either, but how would I know without even trying?

What should I do?

Updates

3 mo

Well it was a failure today. I went back, talked to her and the male staff I befriended. We discussed jobs and salary, she joked saying "let's get married", and also stay and work here. They went out for drinks yesterday, so I asked her if they were going today, she said no. I said I want to have drinks together, she said the guy was probably available. They were busy working so the goodbye was rushed, and I didn't give them my contacts. Now I'm thinking of going tomorrow just to give my contact

Updates

3 mo

I went again this morning, both the man and woman staff are not on shift, so I left a note to other staff to hand over to them. It was a bit awkward and embarassing, my note was a bit flirty and the staff took a peek... Anyway now it's done, I'll see if they add me on social media and what happens when I come back in summer...

[CozyCoffin]

Go for it. Better to try again and see what happens. You have one life, better to not have regrets where you can help it. I still kick myself for not saying yes to a woman that asked to be my long distance girlfriend when we talked on all available mediums for hours during the span of two months.

[Romumango]

That's also what I feel right now. I don't want to regret. I'd rather be awkwardly rejected and having to flee the museum, or even go 3 days in a row and seem like a weirdo to the staff just to have a second chance. I also feel like I HAVE to do it to get used to taking risks, I was too much of a coward/idiot to take my chances today and I hate it.

Currently my mind is set on going there again tomorrow.

[CozyCoffin]

Good luck man.

[strateguy632]

try again, she showed she found you attractive

[Romumango]

Thank you, I'm still confused but clearly she was hitting on me. Maybe just for fun and not actually serious about it, but there's only one way to find out. Would have been much better to find out today, but it's like what they say about the best time to plant a tree, best time was 30 years ago, second best time is NOW.

I really hope she's on shift tomorrow. I'm also going to feel so awkward with the other staff seeing me again... but better this than living with regrets.

[Jessica405]

Go find her as many times asyou can. You have nothing to lose.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Worth a shot. Go back and look for her.

[Anonymous]

Go for it :)