Why is he being like this with me?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been talking for a while and been on a couple of dates. Well he asked to stay the night with me one night since he works 7 days a week he barley has any free time and if it’s okay to do so. And of course I said yes. Well mind you he’s not the best Texter. I’ll probably heard from him rarely because he works 16-18 hour shifts. And I’m okay with that. Well he came over we was watching a movie and started cuddling. With me laying on his one arm that wrapped across and rested on my shoulder and the other one on my stomach. With him kissing my forehead, temple, neck nose, shoulder but not all at once just at random times and just a peck. Well of course emotions got the best of us and we ended sleeping together. Mid way he asked if I was on birth control and I said no. And he was like good because we are goin to be risky. Well he ended up finishing in me. Mind you we also had kinda a serious conversation after we slept together About how we met ( on tinder) and pretty much the conversation was about how him and his friend created there profile to see who they could match with and compare with. And of course I showed no emotion on my face and just said okay to it he was like but it back fired on me though. And I was like how and still showing no emotion and he was like because I met you and it changed everything. So we Fell asleep wouldn’t stop cuddling me if I moved in my sleep he would move with me so he could keep cuddling me, constantly having to have me wrapped in his arms. Well the morning comes and mind you every time he kisses me he would put his thumb on my chin and a finger under it to lift up my head to kiss me. Even kissed me with morning breathe and everything. Well he had to go to work so he had to leave but of course made sure that he would come see me again when he got the chance and gave me a long hug before he left. Which what confuses me is I can’t figure out if he has feelings for me or is just trying to get in my pants.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, this is a lot to take in. From what you've described, it seems like there could be real feelings there on his part. Cuddling all night and being so affectionate usually doesn't happen if someone just wants to hook up. But I can understand why you'd be confused too - the Tinder thing is a bit weird.

My advice would be to just keep talking to him and seeing how he acts when you're together vs when you're apart. Pay attention to what he says about the future or how he talks about you to others maybe. If he only contacts you for late night booty calls, then he's probably not that into you. But if he keeps asking you on real dates and lets his guard down to open up to you more, that's a sign he likes you for you.

Don't totally write him off yet if other things seem good between you. But definitelyprotect yourself too - keep your guard up a little until you get to know him better and feel like you really trust where he's coming from. Hope this helps give you another perspective! Let me know if any other red flags popup.

[Anonymous]

Ask him