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I’ve been emotionally deprived my entire life.
And I don’t feel things or understand a lot when it comes to dating.
I’ve kissed and been kissed by women throughout my life where it’s always felt one sided and someone wasn’t into it as much.
There was this women that I’ve had a crush on for years and things finally progressed to HER having to spell it out to me that she wanted to kiss me. (Not gonna lie my cold dead heart liked that)
When we kissed it felt right and it felt wanted and mutual, I felt “IT!”
So my question might sound dumb and please forgive me as I’m bad with my emotions. But given this feeling and my gut reaction and instinct.
You would know when it’s mutual and that you both felt “IT!” right?
I’ve never been so sure of something but it’s hard for me to understand my feelings and if both of us would feel it.
I hope that makes sense
And I don’t feel things or understand a lot when it comes to dating.
I’ve kissed and been kissed by women throughout my life where it’s always felt one sided and someone wasn’t into it as much.
There was this women that I’ve had a crush on for years and things finally progressed to HER having to spell it out to me that she wanted to kiss me. (Not gonna lie my cold dead heart liked that)
When we kissed it felt right and it felt wanted and mutual, I felt “IT!”
So my question might sound dumb and please forgive me as I’m bad with my emotions. But given this feeling and my gut reaction and instinct.
You would know when it’s mutual and that you both felt “IT!” right?
I’ve never been so sure of something but it’s hard for me to understand my feelings and if both of us would feel it.
I hope that makes sense
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Dude, I totally get it - emotions are hard when you didn't learn that stuff growing up. But it sounds like this time was actually different, and that "it" feeling is a big deal!
When a kiss feels totally mutual and you both seem super into it, yeah that's usually a pretty clear sign you both felt the spark. Like it just feels right and intense in a good way. Both people are super present and connected.
The fact she had to spell it out that she was into you too, and then the kiss felt that good, I'd say it's pretty safe to assume you both felt IT for sure. Sounds like the chemistry was 100% there.
And hey man, don't doubt yourself - your gut reaction is usually right about these things. If you felt so sure afterwards, roll with that confidence! You deserve to experience those mutual feelings and connections too.
Seems like this could really be something special. Keep putting yourself out there, keep learning. You'll keep getting better at this stuff. Proud of you for taking that risk man!
It’s so great that this kiss with her ignited genuine feelings and jumpstarted your heart!
If it’s unclear to you how she’s feeling you can flirtatiously ask her.
Currently that’s not an option due to an ex and unresolved feelings popping up.
My question though is
Feeling “it” would be a mutual thing right?
As I try’s try gut and it tells me besides her ex popping up that she wanted it and I wanted her and that there’s chemistry passion and genuine interest there
Hmm. An ex may complicate things.
While it would be nice to think that sparks would fly for both people, it’s not a given that the other person feels the same as you. Sometimes one person feels more deeply/intensely than the other.