Am I overreacting to my man standing me up?

[Anonymous]

We planned to have a meeting tonight after he got off work, to just talk, not a date. We both have been busy lately and needed to catch up. We planned to talk about his mental health. I haven’t heard from him since we planned it this morning.

I’m really upset because he basically stood me up and this is unlike his behavior. I don’t know how I should react when I hear from him next. I don’t want to blow up but I’ve been really supportive to him lately and this is the one thing I really wanted from him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl that really sucks, I totally get why you’re mad. You were doing him a favor by being there to listen about his mental health stuff, which is not easy to do, and then he just bails without even a text? Rude.

I don’t think you’re overreacting at all to be upset. But blowing up probably won’t help the situation either. When he gets in touch again, I’d just be straight up like “I’m disappointed you stood me up after we made plans. It hurt my feelings since I’ve been so supportive.”

See what he says for an explanation. If it’s a legit reason then maybe you can let it go, but also make it clear you expect better communication next time.

If he just makes excuses, that’s not cool. You deserve someone who follows through on their word, especially over something important like mental health. Maybe rethink how much you’re giving vs getting from him. You shouldn’t have to beg for basic respect!

[Anonymous]

No. That's really rude of him to stand you up like that without any explanations. He probably got cold feet and felt intimidated having to open up and talk about his mental health but still... he should've at least given you a heads up that he wants to cancel.

[Asker]

Yes I agree with all of this. Part of me is hurt about it and the other half is angry

[Opinion Owner]

Valid honestly, I’d feel the same way if I were in your shoes… Have you heard anything from him?