I'm 24 and never been in a relationship. I feel worried what should I do?

[Lalalove11]

I feel time just moves so quickly. I have been on some dates but haven't found the right guy yet. Am I getting old?

[RavVid]

Not old at 24 but you are right - time goes by quickly.

Look, on holiday, I met a cafe waitress and immediately thought she would be a really good girlfriend. Since my home was nearly 4,000 Km distant, I didn't do anything. I would have if the distance had been within a bulls roar.

So my first suggestion is to understand what men look for and be that girl. Girls seem to think what they look for in a man is what a man looks for in a woman. It isn't.

If you dress like you are sex on a stick then expect men to want only sex from you. You might get a lot of attention but it is sex tonight attention. Dress attractively and femme.

Focus down what you want in a man. Three requirements (including being single) is about 3 suitable men in a 100. Five requirements is 4 men in a 1000 are suitable. Ten reqs are about 1 in 100,000 men are suitable. It is all very well not settling but if you have 5 foolscap pages of what you want in a man then you are never going to meet him.

17 reqs will mean about 1 man in the US will meet your needs. But he gets a say too don't forget.

I am laboring this because you've said you have not met the right man. You could have too many requirements.

I've got mine for a girl down to three. Even then it seems a bit of a stretch.

[Lynx122]

Well I don't know about your situation but a lot of modern women have a huge ego regarding what they deserve in a man. And then they get older and their options get worse. Soon a guy that would've been settling in their twenties, looks like a great catch now, but it's too late. So you can do whatever you like but I think you'll be happier in the long run if you at least get into a long term relationship soon. You don't have to get married or stay with this man for ever but it usually doesn't end well for women who just stay single and date around. The internet is full of women who record themselves telling a bunch of lies about how they ended up in their situation and then crying about how no guy wants to be with them.

[Lynx122]

By 2030 45% of women in their 30s will be single and childless. So almost half of women won't find a long term partner in their twenties. So if you want to avoid that you should probably try and do something about it now because it won't get easier later.

[Fatoumamoud]

If you think you are old then I am a grandmother. Take your time and keep your standards high. I never dated anyone before for religious purposes. you aren't alone.

[Lalalove11]

Thank you ❤️I get anxious thinking about it but it's better to be single than with the wrong person I guess.

[Fatoumamoud]

You welcome 🌺

[chrissykerdock]

put on your shortest minidress and go to a tavern or hotel bar

[JTinSC1981]

I suspect your standards are way too high. It's unfortunately common among women your age. There just aren't enough well-endowed 6'2" millionaires with eight pack abs to go around.

My suggestion is that you look in places that match your interests and give guys a good chance. If you're religious, look in church. If you like sports, go to a sports bar. Etc. Don't expect the guy to have everything you're looking for because that's unrealistic.

[lightbulb27]

Feels like life over and is just getting started. Enjoy the time learning about yourself and freedom for you may never again be and have to deal w the needs if others. So be a bit selfish and enjoy life, keep trying til find one to commit

[Theodoricus]

You don't want to regret it. You're only 24 and it's so early to be sad. I suggest you focus on your life. I hope a honest man will love you.

[Lalalove11]

Thank you❤️I appreciate that a lot. I feel depressed about it though. I feel my time will run out

[Twalli]

I didn't het my first relationship until 27. As for getting too old, it depends on whether or not you want to repeoduce.

[Lalalove11]

I want kids I think. So It will be hard after 35 or something to have babies.

[Twalli]

Once you reach 40, it's probably best yo give up. I mean you still could, but the risks are increased by a pretty big degree. My younger sister was born worn my mom was 35, so it's doable. The reason why it's said that a woman's value decreases at 30 is because there's only about 10 years left she can reproduce and if you just started dating, she may not gave her first child until her mid 30s. You're in your mid 20s, so for reproduction, you still gave time.

[Lalalove11]

Yes definitely. I kind of have the feeling I should start soon and I want my next relationship to be serious. Every woman can be different but generally yes it's at 35 if gets harder. My mom had her last at 36 with no issues. I might get lucky and have one when I'm around 30 , I'd be happy with that. But it's hard to find traditional men sometimes, although they're out there. On dating apps less so. I'm actually having a lot of difficulty. I'm told I am attractive, but I'm very introverted and I have emotional baggage so I've attracted a lot of toxic guys too. I don't know what's wrong with me.

[Twalli]

Focus only on guys that meet your needs and not wants. They're more likely to be the ones you want to find. Trying to find one that fits you needs and wants won't work out well.

[Lalalove11]

That's good advice thank you. Really just need someone solid, stable. Decent

[DishLady]

You’re fine. Get out more and attend events for singles as well as general social events till you find your fella.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life if you never try you will never know so get off your ass & go try.
Start asking people out I double dare you.

[OddBeMe]

Not sure where you’re getting your deadlines from. there's no rules or time scales.

I would say you have a romanticized view of dating and should really just be meeting people and gaining friends. One will eventually turn into a relationship.

[exitseven]

The old saying about to find a prince you have to kiss a lot of frogs may be true

[FunkyMonkee]

Don't! I never had my first girlfriend until 3 weeks before my 25th b-day! In fact, the anniversary of our first fuck (and mine) is coming up in a week.

[ICanSmellTheCosmos]

The one thing that you shouldn't do is panic and rush into something unpreparedly. Keep your eyes open for someone, but don't make finding love into your life's purpose. 24 is certainly not too old or too late.

[zagor]

24 isn't that old. Women who concentrate on medical school, law school or other fields that require a lot of education often don't start dating seriously until older than that.

[DextroShade]

You are being too picky and overestimating your worth. There are plenty of guys out here who are looking for relationships, you just need to be more realistic about the guy you qualify for.

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

Just put yourself out there more than you have.

[Part2603]

Let it go and let life happen. You'll figure it out.

[ProbablyClueless]

You just have to get yourself out into the community more and connect with people.

[Tefix53]

We're getting older every day, I hope you find the right person

[kareka]

Nooo..
Its okai..
a lot hot girls are singles and never went in relations

[kareka]

Tbh i dated a 30 girl who was never went in a relation before and she was awesome

[Anonymous]

No you're not old. And odds are you'll meet somebody. But I'm not going to lie and tell you it is a certainty. When I was your age I thought I would me the right woman, I didn't.

[Anonymous]

why be worried? my first relationship was when i was 25...

[shortster]

We are all getting old; but you still have time yet.

[bowenw]

You are young. There is no rush.

[Adogdog]

I feel the same way and I'm 28 lol

[nawtee_me]

Do you want to go out?

[In_Trance]

You're not getting any younger

[Goodoldguy]

Don't worry