I'm 24 and never been in a relationship is it strange?

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I'm a 24-year-old woman who's never been in a relationship or had sex, and I feel abnormal for my age since my friends are getting married. I'm using dating apps and have met some great guys, but I never go beyond 2-3 dates because I don't feel drawn to them enough to invest more time. I wonder if I'm wrong for not going on more dates or if I should feel a stronger desire to see someone after a couple of dates. I try to give each one a fair chance but struggle to feel a strong connection. I don't think it's my looks or personality holding me back but rather my mentality and inability to connect deeply. How can I overcome this? Maybe I'm not open or vulnerable enough, but I want the intimacy and companionship of a relationship.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

. You just haven't found the right person believe me you touch somebody's hand are you looking their eyes you will feel a strong connection you will feel it from 50 ft away that's how strong it will be...

You will be feeling is there energy the same way with a slow soft kiss from your lips to your neck the way you hold your hands the way he presses his body against yours as he kisses you you will always feel that connection everywhere throughout your whole body...

. Okay you said something must be holding you back well look where you started you started with the dating and then you didn't feel the need are you scared that he's going to want to get intimate with you.

You know with the right guy all he's going to have to do is looking to your eyes and he'll be talking to you with his eyes telling you everything he wants you will be doing the same thing to him like I said you will feel that from 50-25 10 ft away the closer he gets to you the deeper that feeling will be and you will start melting... Here's the thing about that is if you know who you are you can touch anybody with your energy and you can make them feel that same thing to make sure it's real you have to know who that person is on the inside not on the outside the outside is just all an extra bonus.
. But if you want that touch if you want that intimacy if you want that Rush that two becoming one if you want to melt you have to want to you have to allow yourself to do it and what you do it you're going to go crazy because the guy you do it with if he knows what he's doing and if he's real he's going to melt you like you've never been melted before and I think that's what you're looking for there's nothing wrong with that

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It’s not strange there isn’t any reason to be in a relationship if you’re not interested in someone at the time. Not having sex also isn’t bad people who have lots of casual sex aren’t happy people in the end, and many times it leads to them needing more and more to even get off.

If you don’t feel drawn to someone enough then absolutely don’t waste your own time, but also importantly don’t waste theirs either. It doesn’t make them bad men it’s just not meant to be, so don’t string them along because well it’s better then having something. Being with someone you’re not happy with will make both miserable in the end especially if children get involved.

This is why you date it’s to see who you’re compatible with not every man is going to be your soulmate. A lot of people I feel like are the same as you…. But they keep pushing to feel some connection. So they get into these dead end relationships that don’t work out in the end.

It’s not to mention a lot of people sleep around just to marry the first person who knocks them up/gets knocked up by. Now you’re stuck with this person the rest of your life unless it ends in a nasty divorce (which many times after miserable years even decades it does)

Lots of people aren’t looking for love. Those people are not worth your time or energy. It’s so much better to pray and wait then try to force anything

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Nope. I was married, had two kids and a big exec job by then, but that's only bc it was the expectation for a woman in my generation. "PUSH! PUSH! PUSH!" in work and in life. Where did it land me? ER with bruises from a toxic guy... Divorce court... And shattered hearts to pick up and mend...

So take your time, sweetie. Choose your man carefully. You do you.

Damaged00 · Accepted Answer

It's not weird. Its just not the norm of society which is not a bad thing at all. You seem to have the right idea. You know what you want and you're not willing to settle for anything less just for the sake of having a relationship. So continue doing what you're doing. Don't rush it.

V_Injector · Answer

fuck do I care? Nope. You should post some tittie pictures.  Is he so bad now or would you rather date me? Who's dick would you rather suck?

Finchie40 · Answer

For whatever reason you are setting your expectations way to high of what you will accept and not accept , which sadly will Get you nowhere with anyone , So instead of waiting for guys’ to pursue you , why don’t you pursue a guy you find attractive instead

blunty · Answer

It's not strange at all to be 24 and never have been in a relationship. Everyone's life moves at its own pace, and people experience things like relationships in different ways and at different times. Some people focus on personal growth, career, friendships, or other priorities before getting into a romantic relationship. Others simply haven't met the right person yet, and that's perfectly okay.

It's important not to compare your experiences with others' because there's no "right" timeline for these things. What matters most is that you feel ready and comfortable whenever the time comes.

ohmyguy · Answer

Nothing I'd worry to much about

Your one out of a million... true say

Though I wish you the best.. you must know that when you do take that plunge it's still can good or bad for you just as well as any body else.

I was a late bloomer I think a 20 as in my peer group is was in heard of I couldnt help but feel like a looser at the time.. pretty much all woman I ended up with had way more partners and experience than I did. Though in a few cases it was an up side in most it was a hinderance. busting ghosts of boyfriends past was as constant pre occupation making dating more challenging and rarely amounting to be of any significance.. which I find a shame.
I feel I'd been or may be still able to do better at being a worthy partner had I met a late bloomer such as yourself...

Anonymous · Answer

It’s close to being strange. I could see if you just graduated college. That’s understandable. But you’re hitting that threshold where it can raise red flags for men. A lot of times if you see a girl who’s cute, sexy, hot, but no man has married her yet, it usually means she has some major issues. Especially if she’s older, I’d say maybe late 20s. Chances are she’s got a lot of problems men don’t even want her. Other times it’s because she’s been sold this lie that your career is the most is the most important thing right now. That men will want you when you’re older, more accomplished. When in reality it really diminishes your chances of meeting someone.

young · Answer

It's not strange at all to be 24 and never have been in a relationship. Everyone's life moves at its own pace, and people experience things like relationships in different ways and at different times. Some people focus on personal growth, career, friendships, or other priorities before getting into a romantic relationship. Others simply haven't met the right person yet, and that's perfectly okay.

It's important not to compare your experiences with others' because there's no "right" timeline for these things. What matters most is that you feel ready and comfortable whenever the time comes.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I was slower than that w diff issues. Feels strange and left out… just wait til all they talk about is their babies and kids and you are the third wheel.

Id bisit a therapist and figure out why:) meet some diff types of people… you may be looking for the 2% which is what a oersonality profile of mine said.

Berethor · Answer

Being a virgin makes a girl more desirable, it better to choose by traits than by feelings.

RiseofArtemis · Answer

First you need to know what kind of person you are yourself. Do you build romantic interest through looks alone or something deeper, like friendship. If you don't know that its hard for you to even get a relationship. Dates alone rarely help. you need to spent time together with them to see how they normaly are.

RingOfFire · Answer

I don't think your age is enough to get worried about it. You've got plenty of time ahead of you too meet someone, and start a family. Just relax enjoy your life, keep a social life going and it will happen organically at some point. You can't force these things.

Anonymous · Answer

Regardless of what's going on in your life, once you learn to stop comparing yourself to others, you will be better off.

There is something else a lot of women don't realize concerning how attraction works. In general, if a man does not actively built it, a woman will not feel it. If you go on dates with men that don't realize this, then you will not be attracted to them period. Many guys don't realize this because it works in the opposite way for them.

SuchSightsToShowYou · Answer

It sounds like you have options, but none of them really appeal to you.

Just a thought, but... it is possible that you don't actually want to be in a relationship, but you feel pressure to be in one, because it's the normal thing to do?

But no, it's not strange.

Sallysuedu · Answer

Not at all. Everyone grows and experiences at their own pace. There’s no set number for ANYTHING in life aside from laws lol. But no some people don’t date until 30 some dont do it al all others do it soon af others don’t. Always remember you’re on your own path and compassion is the thief of joy. Live your life and who’s meat to be will be.

EmmaMary · Answer

Congratulations on winning a  Troll  of the day award. First thing you need to do is sort out your age!

morganherrel · Answer

I'm in the same boat of struggling to find connection and fearing I'll never find it. I've connected deeply with people in the past, so I know I'm capable of it... but there are too few people like that in the dating pool (?)

DextroShade · Answer

You will have to lower your standards and give guys more of a chance. You are running out of time, by 25 it starts to look weird and it will only get worse from there. If you have a guy in the friend-zone, give him a shot at romance.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I'm 25 and I've never dated and haven't had any sex before. To me it isn't odd.

StyngRay · Answer

Well don’t go “looking” for it. That way you will find only trouble. People get married and also get divorced right quick. Focus on your career. Rest will take care of itself.

boggboss · Answer

If u want a relationship all u can do is keep looking as for if its strange I don't believe so

Olgaaa22 · Answer

No it is not strange, there are woman in there mid 30s single as a Pringle and never dated it’s not the end of the world! Is it a pleasant situation the answer is NO but it is what it is

shortster · Answer

It is becoming less strange by the year. If you aren't finding the right guy; maybe you should look at what they have in common and start going for guys that don't have that?

paledreams · Answer

I'm 30 going on 31 next year - so top that lol folks ♂️ lol 😆

WodensGedriht · Answer

I'm in the same boat as you. Only ever had an online relationship. I'm a 6'4'' guy but I never go outside as autists have no friends, which made me develop a hatred for people.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not strange. I'm five years older and my longest was ten months.

thecosmos · Answer

No, I don't know why u're think that cuz it's not weird even most of people're building a relationship. Wait for the best person for u

Anonymous · Answer

So you don't really want a relationship. No law says you have to be in one. Just live your life.

Thikdik · Answer

I guess once u know it's time, then I will know. U will feel it inside. Kinda like butterflies in ur stomach.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

You are welcome to be my girlfriend, why you worry, you will get happiness and pleasures

Anonymous · Answer

I assume you have had plenty of guys expressed interest in you

Anonymous · Answer

I'm about two decades older, and I also never been in a relationship.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Nowadays nothing is strange.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Maybe you’re asexual?

Iron_Man · Answer

no you’re young yet

jahaims · Answer

See if therapy can help with introspection

andy530 · Answer

It’s not weird but a little unique

Sabretooth · Answer

I'm going on34.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Your age is busted

Stef12 · Answer

No it isn't.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

*Hugs*

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I WAS 23

miketttaga · Answer

strange

Anonymous · Answer

Try being 25

Anonymous · Answer

Try 44

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