I'm 23 and have never had a relationship. Why?

[Anonymous]

So I'm 23 years old and I've never had a relationship with a guy. It's not that I need a relationship or anything, I'm confident of who I am and comfortable with myself, I'm just really lonely. I want someone to cook for, laugh with, and have tons of sex with lol.
My flaws are that I'd consider myself very traditional, I don't think it's right for me as a woman to make the first move. No one has ever taken interest in me, at least not that I could tell. I've also been told I can be a little intimidating by my friends and coworkers. I'm all about getting my work done and getting it done right. I've actively made attempts to ease up on how I act around people to maybe not seem so intense, but I'm not sure if it's working or not.
I've had guy friends and I've always gotten along well and worked well with guys, they just always seem to like me more as a friend and someone to ask advice about other girls.
I'm about to enter my last year of college and I'm starting to have really deep feelings that I'll never have a partner. I know I should stay optimistic and love myself, and I do, but that hasn't worked at all for me so far. I'm not ugly either, I'd say I'm a good 7 out of 10 maybe?
I guess I'd like to know what I can do to maybe seem more open to men? To signal that I'm available please flirt with me haha.

[Anonymous]

You sound really great. Being traditional is NOT a flaw. There is a serious shortage of traditional women these days, which is sad.

It doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong. But I will say that even if you don't want to make the first move, there are things you can do to signal you are interested in a guy, and that can make a big difference. Guys aren't always very good on picking up on subtle hints so sometimes you have to be a little less subtle. If there is a guy who interests you, just talk to him and be friendly. A warm smile goes a long way.

There have almost certainly been guys who were interested in you but you didn't know it. They were afraid to approach you or thought they didn't have a chance with you. If you had shown some subtle interest in them it could have made the difference and given them the confidence to ask you out. And I think for a lot of guys, including me, when they sense that a girl is interested in them, it makes them more interested in her.

Lastly, I'll just say that you are only 23 and still very young. You have tons of time so don't stress about that.

Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

The first thing I say to stuff like this is if you haven't taken initiative then blame yourself. From what I'm reading you appear to do nothing and nothing happens, it seems like an easy concept to me. If you want things to happen then make them happen. You're responsible for your own experiences in life just like everyone else.

But another thing is saying shit like "I don't need a relationship" is fkn annoying.
You're literally telling us you're really lonely, that's needing a relationship.
There's not shame in admitting that, if anything it's humanizing.
There is often shame in being on of these women parading about going "I don't need no man". They look deluded and toxic. If that's the attitude you're carrying then that would be a signal that you're to be avoided.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It’s okay. I met my boyfriend at 22. He is my first and hopefully the last boyfriend ^_^ Don’t hurry. When they said you will find love when you least expect it, I laughed, now I tell you that’s true. Just keep living, be confident, be happy and love will find you.

[Gwenhwyfar]

That’s a tough one. You may need to learn to flirt a little.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Sometimes it's really easy to see why a girl or guy cannot get a member of the opposite sex to show interest in them, but in your case I am at a total loss to see why.

[Citizenkirk]

If you want to find someone, then you need to get over this not making the first move thing, and make the first move.

[Anonymous]

As long as you hold to that antiquated notion that it's up to him to make the first move you'll always be at the mercy of others. I'm not saying your decision to adhere to that is wrong. But you have to live with the results of your choices.

[Titttybear]

Don't date random guys til u think u find the right person u will become a whore and will never get married

[Asker]

I haven't dated any guys, that's the issue. And I'm not into casual sex or anything like that, seems like a big waste if time to just date random people I don't really like.

[Titttybear]

Good

[rabbitzzz]

Have you tried making a video on tiktok? Stating your 'sadness'. Make a video and watch the simps rolling in.

[termanator]

When we say relationship does that mean you are a virgin as well or are we not counting flings?

[Asker]

Yes, I'm a virgin :(

[Luckycharms12]

Maybe need to stop looking just let hair down have fun. maybe change style wear more tight or reveling clothing always help get guys or dating apps

[Inthecraphole]

Hey, listen, I have really been looking for a girl just like you for years. I want a girl like you so badly, you have no iidea. Why don't you hit me up sometime?

[Dchrls78104]

The first place to look for a relationship is the mirror.

[driven159]

then you have nothing to worry about enjoy your life

[UdontNeedtoknow]

can i date you? if this is true then your a great catch.

[OddBeMe]

Prob too caught up on your bubble. Try new things, meet new people.

[GlassTop]

I’ll make the first move. Want to chat?

[Jamie05rhs]

^ @Asker Talk to this guy. 😀

[HeartBreaker007]

You’re looking in the wrong place

[IHateBeingaMan]

i didn't have sex until 27, close to 28

[In_Trance]

must be something you're saying or doing (or not)

[quetimporta]

And have you thought about trying women?

[Anonymous]

thats your own fault