Hi all.
So I'm 22 about to graduate undergrad and am looking to go to grad school. I'm fairly shy and introverted but I'm beginning to be more social and less shy and just coming out of my shell in general. Right now I've just been working on improving myself, and I have a small social circle of friends I talk to but it still needs work. I've been working on just talking to more people in general and not just women. I'd also say I'm fairly confident in who I am as a person, but when it comes to dating women or talking to them, it hesitates me a little. I've only "dated" 1 person in my life and it ended pretty bad since she ghosted me. I've moved on from it, but recently it dawned on me that I am super inexperienced. I've never kissed or had sex and there is a part of me that is somewhat fearful of what will happen if I get with someone my age, and they find all this out. Like a while back, I was in my school library and I overheard this conversation and this girl was telling her friends how this guy was bad kisser, and I thought to myself "Shit. is that going to be me when I have my first kiss? or lose my virginity?" I often try not to think or dwell about stuff like this and focus on my positive aspects like how people say I am fun at parties or am very funny and make them laugh. However, once in a blue moon I let my mind drift into the shadow realm and let negative thoughts dwell for a little and this is one of them. I try to remain confident at all times, but there's a small part of me that feels like I'm screwed just because I have a lack of experience. For those who have been in a similar situation, how did you handle this?
So I'm 22 about to graduate undergrad and am looking to go to grad school. I'm fairly shy and introverted but I'm beginning to be more social and less shy and just coming out of my shell in general. Right now I've just been working on improving myself, and I have a small social circle of friends I talk to but it still needs work. I've been working on just talking to more people in general and not just women. I'd also say I'm fairly confident in who I am as a person, but when it comes to dating women or talking to them, it hesitates me a little. I've only "dated" 1 person in my life and it ended pretty bad since she ghosted me. I've moved on from it, but recently it dawned on me that I am super inexperienced. I've never kissed or had sex and there is a part of me that is somewhat fearful of what will happen if I get with someone my age, and they find all this out. Like a while back, I was in my school library and I overheard this conversation and this girl was telling her friends how this guy was bad kisser, and I thought to myself "Shit. is that going to be me when I have my first kiss? or lose my virginity?" I often try not to think or dwell about stuff like this and focus on my positive aspects like how people say I am fun at parties or am very funny and make them laugh. However, once in a blue moon I let my mind drift into the shadow realm and let negative thoughts dwell for a little and this is one of them. I try to remain confident at all times, but there's a small part of me that feels like I'm screwed just because I have a lack of experience. For those who have been in a similar situation, how did you handle this?
